So I’m trying to force myself to like them, and I think that’s a big part of my problem. The feelings aren’t there
They are the women I live around after all. And so If I’m interested in the idea of being with a woman more generally, I might as well come to terms with myself and accept the ones I live around.
Not because I have any feelings of disdain towards them, but more because its the thing to do. American white guys are primarily with American white women because it makes the most sense.
But for some reason, looking back on it, I never really failed with women, I just didn’t really try with that many of them.
Because in reality, I hadn’t faced rejection from anybody, I just fell short and didn’t succeed outright.
In this past year, I managed to go on dates with the only two girls I asked out, but of course the initial excitement was never really that strong to begin with on my end. I sort of just reluctantly gave things a try.
Just to give decent people a chance even if you didn’t necessarily feel a strong initial connection.
But the problem was my interest in them never really developed.
And so as a result, over time they just slowly lost interest in me because I treated them more as just casual friends than something I actually desired. I never felt a desire to kiss them or attempt to do anything intimate.
Either way I just don’t know what it is.
I get that other guys feel attraction to them but for some reason I just been having a harder time with developing the same feelings.
I truthfully don’t ever really feel strongly about the women I come across.
Maybe its because I’m not meeting enough of them?
Either way I’m not really sure because ever since I’ve come across latina women I couldn’t ever stop thinking about them.
And I know its an obsessive habit to think about women I don’t have available. But the truth is, I’ve only ever really felt an attraction towards them.
So how do I re-train myself on who I’m attracted to?
They are the women I live around after all. And so If I’m interested in the idea of being with a woman more generally, I might as well come to terms with myself and accept the ones I live around.
Not because I have any feelings of disdain towards them, but more because its the thing to do. American white guys are primarily with American white women because it makes the most sense.
But for some reason, looking back on it, I never really failed with women, I just didn’t really try with that many of them.
Because in reality, I hadn’t faced rejection from anybody, I just fell short and didn’t succeed outright.
In this past year, I managed to go on dates with the only two girls I asked out, but of course the initial excitement was never really that strong to begin with on my end. I sort of just reluctantly gave things a try.
Just to give decent people a chance even if you didn’t necessarily feel a strong initial connection.
But the problem was my interest in them never really developed.
And so as a result, over time they just slowly lost interest in me because I treated them more as just casual friends than something I actually desired. I never felt a desire to kiss them or attempt to do anything intimate.
Either way I just don’t know what it is.
I get that other guys feel attraction to them but for some reason I just been having a harder time with developing the same feelings.
I truthfully don’t ever really feel strongly about the women I come across.
Maybe its because I’m not meeting enough of them?
Either way I’m not really sure because ever since I’ve come across latina women I couldn’t ever stop thinking about them.
And I know its an obsessive habit to think about women I don’t have available. But the truth is, I’ve only ever really felt an attraction towards them.
So how do I re-train myself on who I’m attracted to?
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What I’m trying to say is that I don’t have a particular vested interest in the women I live around but I do have an interest in being in a relationship more generally. Its been tough to navigate.
