You simultaneously want guys to approach but you don't want to seem easy. How does that work? Do you turn down the first nineteen guys so you don't see easy? Then accept number 20?
Simply saying yes to them does not make you easy. Putting yourself out there where you at least have a chance does not make you easy. Approaching them yourself does not make you easy. Dating around while you look for the right guy does not make you easy.
Easy is when you fuck five guys a week and all the other fuckboys know who you are when they want a piece of ass.
If you are not getting dates you can't be easy. If you ask someone out yourself, you can't be easy. You are only easy when you do it repeatedly and sleep with lots of them.
"I am not an unattractive 27 year old professional woman but it seems that I do not attract men as much as other women?"
"I do get attracted with men but tried to keep it to myself. I do not want to be misconstrued aa an "easy" woman if I take the initiative. We live in a world where most men define sex as love."
You see, all of what you said just now is wrong. There is nothing easy about going after the person you want. You make the initial step, but keep your boundaries.
If it's all easy going, and you feel attracted, and you two have been talking for a while, there is nothing wrong with some horizontal loving.
It depends how u present urself. Men get intimidated easily. If a woman looks like an easy fuck, he'll approach that one over a woman that looks more settled w/a career and her life. Especially if he works a simple job like, the grocery store for example, he's not going to approach an established woman over a quick lay. That will hurt his ego! lol Maybe u r overpowering and very successful that men do find u interesting, just to shy to talk to u.
Wait, I'm confused.
Are you straight?
Maybe you just give off boss babe vibes and that attracts sapphics - I get that, as a sapphic myself.
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Without knowing you, it is not really possible for anyone on here to answer your question. It is probably something you're doing, or something about your personality, which puts people off, but again, I cannot know what that is without seeing and hearing you in action. I wish I could help you more. Perhaps you could confide in a close friend whom you trust, who will be brutally honest with you.
I don't know. It sounds confusing. You want to attract men but you do not want to appear to be easy? How is hitting on a guy you like, being easy?
Sufficed to say, I am glad I am not a woman. Men complain all the time about how hard it is to date. But they don't realize how weirdly confusing it is for women. If you aren't the type that attracts a lot of attention, it is so very hard to find a guy you like. Because of the weird dating rituals in American society.
"I do not attract men as much as other women."
So, you're a lesbian? If you want women, be with women. Stop abusing men if you're not heterosexual.
Otherwise, lower your standards down a couple points and stop exclusively chasing after perfect 10 men who you expect to fall head-over-heels upon you at first sight.
"27 year old professional woman" this is the issue. Statistically the women who get the most attraction from men are about 18 to 24 and underemployed ie waitress, college student, cashier. These women tend to get men the most. So you are not the ideal match for the average man.
Look in the mirror and pay particular attention to your mannerisms, and how you portray yourself. Perhaps you (through no fault of your own) intimidate the type of men you are attracted to.
Probably nothing. It's not easy for most men to approach women. Do you appear to be friendly and approachable?
this is one most common question in here i think
watch this until the end to get your answer
Okay my curiosity is overwhelming
What do you look like?
Profession has nothing to do with attracting men. It's mostly about youth and beauty.
Do you come off like a FeministNazi type?
Must be something you're saying or doing. (Or not)
be feminine
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