The girl I like , what is in her mind please help? Don't wanna loose her?

[KHAUF]

There is this girl , I like her and have told her already , she had a breakup 6 years ago cuz he cheated her , and now she is comfortable being single , she has been approached by a lot of guys and she said no to all , to me she said she is not ready and she dont know , too but still went out with me and now after 3 months I went to see her again , she has never talked to another guy this much but she thinks I will leave her too , in max a month, cuz I will expect things from her and she won't have reached there yet , So she told me to have patience, but say you won't be able to wait for me that long... she says I am too honest with her but she don't know if she is interested in me or not ,

WHAT SHOULD I DO , WHAT IS IN HER MIND?

[kylee2437]

Seems like she knows you are a good guy, however seems like to me she only wants you to wait around for her because you are indeed a good guy. You deserve someone that isn’t going to have you waiting

[KHAUF]

Hey , I think she is afraid I will leave her like that last guy , So she is testing me or something, and I know she is good too , So should I wait or leave... I know it's a very uncertain situation she may never like me like that , should I take the chances?

[kylee2437]

@KHAUF so that’s not a good start to a healthy relationship. Bringing old news into a new relationship is how you create a toxic new relationship. Testing someone also means you are terrible at communication skills which is another part of a possible toxic relationship waiting to happen. I don’t think you should chance it, I think you should move on.

[KHAUF]

Okay I will , but just one more thing , she is a big introvert, in case she decides to trust me and be with me later what should I do? reject her

[kylee2437]

@KHAUF depends on where you are and how you feel. Time can definitely change feelings/ maybe you will be involved with somebody else by then. Time can only tell , however it’s unfair that she has you waiting around because she is unsure how she feels about you regardless of the fact that you seem like you would treat her well. That’s her loss

[KHAUF]

Yeah I understand thankyou @kylee2437 , I will go on with my life, though I know I won't fall for someone for a long time 😂😊

[kylee2437]

@KHAUF haha trust me, I am right there with you. Us good people get taken for granted 😕

[KHAUF]

Yeah , hope life has something better stored in for me and you too😂😂

[JakeS00]

Having patience is key. But personally, I wouldn't wait for anyone if nothing is mutual.

[KHAUF]

But is it not normal in starting only one likes other and slowly the other one, I think she is afraid I will leave her like that last boyfriend , So should I leave?

[JakeS00]

She's wanting you to wait until she feels sure. And that's not fair for you.

[KHAUF]

Yeah that's right, I guess I will carry on with my life , but stay in touch , just in case?

[JakeS00]

I know you wanted it to work but, carrying on means avoiding keeping in touch too.

[KHAUF]

🥺😭so what should I do , she is introvert she will take time I know and I like her , but I know it's not fair either

[JakeS00]

I get it. It takes time, but she’s wanting you to wait for her. I bet if it were the other way around she wouldn’t wait. Think about that.

[KHAUF]

So can you tell me what's the best thing to do , leave , wait , mix of both or what

[JakeS00]

It’s a personal choice, I’d just suggest not being with or starting something relationship wise with a girl that isn’t fully over their ex.

[KHAUF]

Okay man thanks

[In_Trance]

Ask her ffs... how would anyone else know?

[KHAUF]

Her reply is I don't know , and I am very slow will take long time please pe patient