He talks to other girls often should I be worried about it?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

No I wouldn’t be, I get on better with guys as I have more in common, (ie don’t wear make up or really care what I look like) so I have a laugh with guys. Just because he talks to them shouldn’t be an issue. It’s only an issue when he starts including them in the relationship ( asking their advice when they don’t know you)

[Asker]

He asked for advice. Which i dont get it cause when we have an argument i want that problem to be only in private but he... He tells it to his gbf or a girl "friend" he has. Because when we get an argument I don't call my friends for advice I want to fix stuff without my friends interfering with my business.

[Opinion Owner]

Omg I hate it when others are involved but nothing to do with them.

[Asker]

Ikr he doesn't get the memo.

[Anonymous]

This is the thing... if you never talk to other men and don't plan on doing it, then it's an issue. However, if you feel like you can have guy friends and he can't then that's a problem too. It should never be one sided. If you two aren't even dating yet... then it's none of your business.

[Asker]

We are dating. I never talk to other men or have guy friends. I never met his guy friends. I also wonder if he has one. I found out he's been talking to girls and making friends with them. I don't trust it because before we had this encounter when i let him be friends with some girl then i found out he fell in love with her. And now, i found out again that he has a new girl "friend" that he talks to mostly often.

[Opinion Owner]

It’s an issue and there’s no other way to paint it. I suggest you bring it up to him…look, I don’t have guy friends and don’t want any either. It makes me uncomfortable that you have girl friends. I want us to be in a relationship where our focus is only each other with nobody else in the picture. If you can’t get on the same page as me then I’d rather you tell me now so we can end this.

[Asker]

Well, he keeps telling me he doesn't care if i have guy friends. The problem is I don't like to have guy friends lol that is why maybe, he want to have girl friends because he doesn't have any problems with me having guy friends.

[Opinion Owner]

That’s a recipe for disaster because he’s refusing to respect and understand you. If he did, he wouldn’t have that bad track record of him falling for his girl friends. I suggest you stop wasting your time with him.

[Asker]

Alright. I'll do that thank you by the way

[BarryLiverstone]

Please add more background and details before we can help

[Sorrento-Sun]

It depends on the context. Are they friends he knows In real life or online friends? Is he chatting to them on dating sites? Is it mostly females he chats to?

In most situations where someone is chatting to multiple people, it's because they're keeping their options open.

[Asker]

He knows her in real life but he has some online friends as well. I don't want to think he keeps his options open since he never shows me off...

[Sorrento-Sun]

Trust your gut. Whenever I've been in similar situations, i always trust how I feel. If it doesn't feel right for you, walk away.

[Wise4myage]

Have you talked to him?

[Asker]

yes.

[maximumpower]

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