I used to call myself an incel, I never affiliated with any online communities about it as I'm a massive outcast due to my life not being interesting although when I'm able to start my career hopefully within a year, it may start to become sorta interesting.
Although I've been with my girlfriend for 2 years, I still feel a tribalistic need to defend other incels at times as for a long time, they were the only ally I had. Some complaints I had were legitimate, but I went about them in the wrong way by insulting and dehumanizing women who were insulting and dehumanizing people like me with genetic defects that in our minds, made the idea of experiencing love in our lives impossible no matter what.
The way I defined a bad boy hasn't changed much, I define it as a man who has a very severe ego problem and will quickly escalate to physically attacking anyone if they dare say anything that can be interpreted as disagreeing with him. These guys also often routinely beat their partners viciously and force themselves on her while also seeing a mistress on the side only to blame it on his girlfriend when he's caught.
These are very dangerous individuals spawned from an insatiable lust for power and control and they don't care how they get it as long as they get that feeling. What I saw is that these men are somehow successful in dating as they're able to manipulate and emotionally control their partner not to leave or call the police.
I've never self labeled myself as a nice guy but more as neutral in that I try to remain level headed and in control of my own emotions but during my "incel" years, there was no shortage of times where I failed and said stupid things, although I never actually harmed anyone physically.
I'd say now I'm more assertive but introverted, complex yet uninteresting, and my personality is very turbulent. I'm committed to treating my girlfriend right and showing her the love and support she deserves but still acknowledge that I'm not special
Just about every girl I've been with said they were attracted to me because I'm a "bad boy". I'm not an asshole, I'm sweet to women and I care about animals and other people, but apparently my fuck-all attitude and the way I carry myself turns them on. I live fast and I don't put up with any shit. I like loud cars and big trucks and blasting loud music with the windows down. If you come to me looking for a fight, I won't be passive and calm. You're gonna get a fight and you're gonna lose. I don't go on dates, I just ask women if they wanna hang out and get drunk instead and they seem to like that. It's just my personality, the words I use, and the things I do. None of that makes me a bad guy, it just makes me fun in their eyes and I guess they feel safe around me, they've told me that too
That's all I got for ya, bud. Don't try too hard to impress them, just be who you are and fuck em if they don't like it
Dude, you are simply describing large elements of Narcissist. It is more about attention whether it be negative or positive. And not all Bad Boys are Large in personality... lots of them are very quiet and respectable.
It is a personality rather than individual behaviors. Narcissist also often have shades of psychopath or sociopath attached. Some believe that Narcissism is the beginning of the continuum that ends at either Psychopath or Sociopath. Others believe when Narcissism is diagnosed Narcissism is evidence of sociopathology and/or psychopathology.
For me a bad boy is just a fictional movie character type lol They smoke, wear leather jackets and were a thing in older movies... I haven't met a bad boy in real life, I just know either man with aggression problems, man with drug problems or man who act like they are "alpha" with controlling issues but are just really weird... just alone the term boy is like misleading. Grown up women don't like boys. We like men and not men with heavily mental issues or problems.
A bad boy would be bit of an outcast, living by its own rules, not following socially accepted rules, and not bending down in front of men or women. They seem unattainable (unlike many men who would crave sex and therefore show a certain ‘weakness’ in front of women). And so women want them. They have a dominant vibe.
Bad boys have good style and are attractive. Bad boys also have a good personality. For example, respect women, and can make her feel more confident about herself. He will protect his girl when needed. He also likes to have fun and takes risks.
If you need inspiration look at Elvis or any male rockstar
