People say I'm pretty but guys won't date me, why?

Question

My friends say that I'm pretty, funny, nice etc. but no guys ever ask me out or want to date me. Are my friends lying to me? Why don't guys like me? I'm not super skinny but I'm not extremely fat. I do have a bit of a stomach but do guys really care so much about weight? or am I just not going for the right men?

Weapon77 · Accepted Answer

I'd have to see a picture of you to give you honest feedback. And while I'm never rude, I also don't like giving honest feedback people don't want in case it offends them. So for now, it's really hard for me to say one eay or the other. I doubt you are actually ugly though. Almost no one is. And if your friends think you are a great person, you must be at least somewhat attractive.

In any case, girls lie to each other constantly about that stuff for emotional support. BUT it's not exactly them trying to deceive you. Often, it's that you are so beautiful in their eyes because of who you are as a person that they want you to know that. But the side-effect of this is your friends can't be objective about physical traits and can't see you the way guys do.

Therr are so many variables though. Like, do you have a reputation that guys could see as negative? Do you have kids? Do you have an OF? Do you do drugs? Any of thosr things could turn guys off even if you looked like Salma Hayek. Hope this helps!

Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

Your friends might be lying. Women are definitely worse about the use of “white lies” than men. More likely though, is that women value things differently than men. So your friends probably actually think you’re pretty, funny and nice, but that doesn’t necessarily mean guys will agree. If you have any guy friends, get their input. All that considered, my experience suggests most women struggling to meet men are failing at two fundamentals: approaching and being approachable. If you’re not initiating contact with guys, you need to learn to send signals that you want men to approach you. The cost of that behavior is that not only the guys you’re interested in will initiate. You’re also going to have to learn to deliver and accept rejection graciously. If you can do those things, you should have no problem meeting fellas. Good luck!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

They are all the burned men. They never ask woman out. You don’t want them anyway. Too much damage.

EmmaMary · Accepted Answer

Perhaps you need to start projecting yourself more and stop being the wallflower.

JSmuve · Answer

"Are my friends lying to me?"

--> Your friends are probably just trying to be nice.

"Why don't guys like me?"

--> No idea. Perhaps you're not putting out the right vibe.

"I'm not super skinny but I'm not extremely fat. I do have a bit of a stomach but do guys really care so much about weight?"

--> Some guys are fairly particular about a woman's body shape. Having a stomach isn't really seen as attractive. It's not so much a weight thing as it is a weight distribution thing.

"or am I just not going for the right men?"

--> Are you approaching men and being rejected? If so, then you could say you're "not going for the right men" insofar as you're not going for the men who are attracted to you. If you're not approaching men, then you're hardly "going for the right men" because you're not going for any men.

Anonymous · Answer

A few things, first it's just plain hard these days, for all of us at all ages as not many people want anything serious these days, or to have to "work" at it. Second, it's largely your age range also as not many guys want to settle down at that age. Third, sometimes (especially if feelings are involved and/or lack of communication), I think women make the mistake of ASSUMING this with guys sometimes, when if they haven't asked or he's never said directly, it may not necessarily be the case. And when it comes to approaching, we guys can have all the same thoughts and feelings about it as women do. Women don't approach either! We don't sometimes for any and all those same reasons as well.

TheMajesticKing777 · Answer

Life is just unpredictable, even when you think it can be predictable it can always end up being unpredictable, weither you are pretty or not, there's no one type of outcome for a situation, everything has several outcomes which is what make life unpredictable, you might be extremely beautiful and end up having only one date, truth is that all it takes is for one person to be the right person and that one person might be the first person, stress less and just let life flow

Avicenna · Answer

The most likely explanation is that you aren’t targeting men who are compatible with you. Being respected and appreciated by your partner is important. Also, find out how approachable you are perceived to be, since that has a lot to do with whether men hit on you.

Anonymous · Answer

We need a pic. That’s the problem w friends who tell others they’re pretty, especially girls. Girls will tell you their friend is pretty, from their point of view. Not from a man’s point of view. In my mind she’s pretty means yes I’d mail her. Girls say stuff like that to each other to be nice.

MCheetah · Answer

You keep going after the Chads and won't give normal men a chance and then get mad about the 10 out of 10 men not paying attention to you.

I don't know you, but you're a young Western woman, so this is automatically the situation.

Anonymous · Answer

When a woman can't get a guy it's almost ALWAYS due to 2 reasons. 1. Her standards are just way too high. 2. She just not putting in ANY effort. So many women complain that other women get all the men. When what these women never realize is those successful women are always working to to get those men. Guys have ego's and like to have their ego's stroked just like women do. Successful women get that.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

It could just be a cultural problem. A lot of women are more comfortable with being approached online, so men have started to default to online interactions more than approaching in person.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

But the million dollar question is... do you approach guys?

ethanallen · Answer

Too many women are angry and nasty. They don't even know it.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

You look like a cat, to me and, I'm allergic to cats!

Anonymous · Answer

Sometimes you have to make the first move yourself.

Ironic_Method · Answer

There's many reasons why someone would or wouldn't date someone...

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

Maybe it's your personality or what you want in a guy.

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

It’s time for You to ask them guys out. I don’t care about weight.

zagor · Answer

Can't reply without details. But what are you doing to put yourself out there?

scooogy · Answer

If dating consisted only of finding you pretty, then that would be an issue.

mrlongdongsiilver · Answer

ask a guy in your life a brutally honest one maybe a stranger

Plinko · Answer

Nobody wants to get rejected by the pretty girl.

Sarahplus2 · Answer

What type of guys are you going after?

Shamalien · Answer

Guys care a lot about weight

nawtee_me · Answer

looks are not everything...

Anonymous · Answer

I don't date cat ladies.

Yellovv · Answer

How you look like?

Anonymous · Answer

Try approaching guys more often.

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