How come men don't want to date feminists but women date homophobic men just fine?

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sis, even if he's heterosexual, hate is hate. don't excuse his behaviour. #IMeanIAmAutomaticallyAFeminaziButOk

WonderBell99 · Accepted Answer

I wouldn’t date someone who is heavily on the conservative side. I wear modest clothing, but at the same time, I don’t judge people who show a bit of skin either. I wouldn’t judge a woman for getting an abortion. I wouldn’t judge someone for being in a same sex relationship.

Not implying that most conservatives are judgmental, but from what I’ve seen, it’s usually them who are bothered by homosexual relationships. I’m more on the liberal side, though I don’t have a political affiliation.

I wouldn’t date someone who is homophobic. I have friends who are a part of the LGBTQ community, I would be disrespecting them if I get into a relationship with a spiteful man who is filled with hatred. My friends are more important to me than some random guy who is probably going to dump me after a few years. Why would I want to be with a man who spends all his time hating other people?

Personally, from an objective viewpoint, I could argue that most of these women who date homophobic men are homophobic themselves.. or they simply don’t care. I care though. Politics does play a huge role in my life and I couldn’t be with someone whose views do not align with mine (most).

Marushka · Accepted Answer

1st of all women can be homophobes too and can be feminists themselves. Usually people will get together with others who have similar values or at least whose values don't conflict with their own too much. I doubt any woman who has a serious issue with homophobia would date a homophobic guy.

Besides that I just don't see the correlation between those two things.

jhl_x · Accepted Answer

You're comparing apples to oranges.

Men avoid dating feminists because there's no shortage of bad examples spread around that showcase behavior that is just undesirable for relationships, or any human interaction altogether. Feminists have several scapegoats to counter that, but being with one would still be a gamble that could be quite costly in the future. In this case, men are directly affected by this type of woman.

Now for the second part, you need to define what homophobia is, because there's no standard anymore. It could range from actual criminals who target gays to people who look at LGBT political stuff and disagree with it. Men won't go stamping their social media profiles or openly talk about their disapproval with the same frequency as modern women who label themselves as feminists do. Besides, most women don't noticed or are not affected by this, unless other traces of bad behavior leak out into other points of life.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Accepted Answer

Feminist and homophobic belong to completely different categories.

Feminism is about rights. Homophobia is about sexuality opinions. I don't see any connection in them.

Women nowadays can invoke feminism only when it is advantageous to them. Otherwise not. Hence, rather than dealing with the headache, men just prefer to not date at all. Many other problems are also there and that too with higher priority than this small one.

Homophobia is actually something that can be shared by both the woman and the man. And I believe that women actually would want to date only that man who they are sure that will not generate any problem in this sexual category.

yann-47 · Answer

Your question is a bit awkward. First who said men don’t date feminists, a lot of men like and admire feminist like me. And the best men are feminist ally. But men who say that they don’t date feminists are either misogynist or are thinking about extreme or “bad behaviour of some feminists”. Second who said women don’t care if the their date are homophobic. This second fake fact has no link with the first part. Only a straight and homophobic woman would not care if the man is homophobic and homophobia shouldn’t exist. Nowadays nobody should date someone homophobic, as a man that’s a big red flag and a feminist woman is a green flag. by the way being feminist doesn’t mean going to every protestations, they are many way to be active. For example just by saying to your man or woman friend that that hair on a woman’s body is fine or that insulting a woman because of her number of sex partner is not okay at all.

Is everything clear?

Nobleone · Answer

The problem with "feminists" is that a lot of them don't represent what the movement is actually supposed to stand for. It's supposed to stand for equality in everything whether it's finances, relationships, social issues, medical attention, mental health etc, but many of these "feminists" spew out misandrist behavior. Its turned into a man hating movement rather than just fighting for equality. And the funny thing is, a lot of "feminists" don't even want equality. They just want the benefits of what a man gets without taking accountability for the disadvantages which creates double standards. That's why you see a lot of men avoiding a women who identifies as a "feminist". But a feminist who doesn't go on a man hating rampage, and actually wants to be equal while also taking full responsibility for any standards she can't meet is respectable.

love_conquers_lust · Answer

There is far more to those men than their opinions on homosexuals. The women who care about personality discover this. Plus their hate isn’t directed at the women, they have no dog in the fight. They don’t have to excuse the behavior, but the guy doesn’t like other men the way he likes women, there’s nothing wrong with that.

Many feminists, on the other hand, do direct hate at men. So isn’t it more healthy to give them space? They harp on respecting their wishes, so is that not the right thing to do?

anton_dee · Answer

Firstly feminism and homophobia are different traits. So comparison isn't correct.

Mostly men don't like to date feminist is because they get too toxic (I'm talking generally) . They get aggressive in trying to prove their superiority. They don't enjoy life and are always out to prove they are equal or better than men. We date for enjoyment, not for competing to prove who is better.

Regarding homophobia, hating people for what they want to be in life is bad. Until the guy doesn't interfere in your life, why are you bothered with what he does. Homophobia is a bad trait.

BullShark · Answer

I don't know about the girls wanting to date guys who are homophobic, but as for the men part, yeah, no man wants to date a feminist, because most man hating women like to hide behind the feminist shield, pretending to be feminists and wanting to advocate for women rights but at the same time, label all men as rapists, sexual harassers and just people who only want sex.

Lyndsielee666 · Answer

I won’t date someone has different views than me tbh

matchrestore · Answer

I wouldn't date a woman that wasn't a feminist.

Agape93 · Answer

Exactly. Its why I don't date assholes or weak people.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Men don’t date feminists because there’s enough bad examples of em to fill out tax legislation.

And who wants to be with someone who belongs to a group who’s got a bad reputation of going after innocent people, being unstable, entitled, batshit crazy and makes everyone around them miserable.

and just to be clear no one has an issue with first generation feminism that was a positive thing. It’s new wave/modern feminism everyone has a problem with.

NamerOfStars · Answer

Because homophobic men hate gay guys, not women, and especially not STRAIGHT women; lesbians wouldn't date them anyway. Dating someone who holds stupidly bigoted ideas is probably not very smart, but dating someone who openly professes to holding bigoted ideas against YOU, or at least a group you're a part of, is a much higher level of stupidity.

call_me_scar · Answer

Because those sell out fucks who pretended to even more horrifyingly actually got offended by things like man spreading kind of ruined the word feminist so instead of thinking about political issues that would help women like keeping abortion laws giving women the right to drive in the middle east people now think of that 3rd wave shit that's just irrational hate of men

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Because it’s literally in the title. Feminist (nowadays) hate men. Why would we go after something that’s hateful. It’s like chasing after a snake knowing full well it will bite you in the end. It’s stupid and foolish.
Whereas, homophobic people are down to have the same gender together. Usually male on male.. a lot of men are hypocrites when it comes to lesbianism. They think that’s hot where as man on man is disgusting. However, the answer to this question is really that simple and obvious

jasco · Answer

So from what I know the social media version of feminism is crazy, but the actual text book version of it is actually good. So it really depends on what type of feminist are you and how you react to certain things. As for why women date straight men who seem/act homophobic. Huh mm either A he just doesn't like homosexuals which is fine or b he actually hates which is not fine. So it depends on the man and how he reacts to homosexuals and if that lady fines his ways hateful or not

DaveJord · Answer

Because being a feminist is completely different then being gay. Its apples and oranges. homophobes don't like gays, Feminist hate men but tolerate them.

Sum1Else · Answer

Im more feminist than most women. And would be fine with being feminized by the right girl, should a dominant girl be so inclined...

SlangSlayer · Answer

Because women seek dominance. That's why majority of white women voted for trump.

Even though grab them by the pussy.

Men not gonna tolerate women disturbing their peace unless he's weak and she's all he can get.

slatyb · Answer

I've pretty much only dated feminists -- women who believed that women should have legal equality with men. And I know plenty of women who would never date a homophobic man.

HighValue · Answer

Not liking homosexuals or approving of their lifestyle doesn't make someone phobic. That is just a term that ignorant people often use because they hate anyone that doesn't have the same opinions as they do. Sounds like a typical democrat.

Feminists hate men and are against equal treatment under the law. Any moral and logical person should not like modern feminists.

backdoorman · Answer

I can't speak for women dating homophobes, but most men don't want to date feminists because a woman who calls herself a feminist today likely has personality issues that make her problematic.

Guardian45 · Answer

I could give a rat's ass if a woman I date is a feminist, as long as she's not some kind of feminazi terrorist.

Part2603 · Answer

Lol, you're the woman, why are you asking us?

shortster · Answer

Most feminists hate men. Homophobic guys generally don't hate women. It is a lot easier to date someone who hates other types of people; than to date someone who hates people like you.

scooogy · Answer

I guess those men don't see feminism as hate, whereas women might see their fortune with homophobic men since I've heard women complain about the "best men" being either taken or homosexual.

LonelyHeartedSoul · Answer

I would date a feminist if she was respectful to me. I would do my best to understand her views. Where are you getting that women date homophobic men though? I notice they date bullies for sure so I kind of get that.

Juxtapose · Answer

Why wouldn't you just call yourself an egalitarian at this point since you know the word feminist is loaded with sjw context?

JesseJayNeak · Answer

Feminism is just as intolerant as homophobia so yeah

Sarahplus2 · Answer

Why is it when your opinion differs that you are attached to a phobic or you are a hater.

boobliker · Answer

it's down the the battel of the sexes a feminists is not a sexy girl first and most men that is what they want.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I'm not seeing how heterosexual relationships should be defined by homosexual relationships.

Hanrej · Answer

Homophobes hate gay people. Feminists hate men.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Probably cuz they think no matter what they say they be wrong

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Because we clearly don't like them. 🙄

DavidRaul · Answer

Who said we don't wanna date a feminist

SilverRain92 · Answer

Everyone should date whoever they like

TallAnon · Answer

Men date feminists all the time, what 😂

How come men don't want to date feminists but women date homophobic men just fine?

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