Is sex on the first date too early?

[Anonymous]

Been talking to this guy for two months online

[Marushka]

Some men look down on women who sleep with them "too early" and don't view them as "dating material". I personally would not want to be with a guy with that sort of attitude though. They're usually sexist assholes with double standards. (It's fine if guys sleep with women on the first date but women who do the exact some things are sluts and sluts are beneath me 🤮)

If you're comfortable to sleep with a guy on the 1st date go for it. If you have good chemistry and get along well you can continue dating and end up in a relationship regardless of that. In the end you should aim to find someone who's compatible with you and your values, that also includes sexual values. However especially in the beginning you might realise you both aren't as compatible as you previously thought. If you think you'd regret having slept with him if you don't end up together for whatever reason don't do it. If you feel comfortable with it there's nothing speaking against it. Just never let a guy pressure you into anything or make you feel shitty about your sexual behaviour.

[Gangactivities911]

They are those guys sexist assholes with double standards? Are all the short or average height women who want a tall guy sexist assholes with double standards?

[Marushka]

@Gangactivities911 It's not an issue that they want a woman who has similar values around sex as them or they don't like casual sex and don't want to date someone who has or likes casual sex. However it's a problem if they can fuck on the first date and it's completely OK and doesn't make them less but if a woman does it that makes a a lesser human and a slut. Yes that's having a sexist double standard!

Having a physical type isn't the same. A woman who is attracted to tall guys is fine. Just as a guy being physically attracted only to skinny white women is fine and not I don't know racist or fat phobic.

A woman who expects a guy to make more money than her or he's lesser while not making much or even any money herself on the other hand is a sexist asshole with double standards.

[Marushka]

*and not racist or fat phobic. I don't know why my phone inserted a bunch of random words

[Gangactivities911]

There’s a difference between saying it makes her a lesser human and saying u don’t want to date her. Women are the ones who keep saying these women who men don’t want to date have lesser value. Men don’t think that. Ur the one that assigns your self worth to the Man U end up with not men. Ohhhh wait I thought it was a double standard if u were attracted to anything that u urself didn’t have? Woahhhh there changing the tune. Either high bodycount men can only want to date low bodycount women and it’s not a problem or short women can’t be allowed to only want tall men. Both are a double standard so why do u get and choose which double standards are acceptable and which ones not?

[Marushka]

@Gangactivities911
I've hard enough men fucking down grading women for it. And I or we don't assign our self worth to the man we end up with. Wft you get that bs from? Sure some women do but that's not something you can generalise.

Dude. Because having a physical type isn't the same as having double standards about actions. It's not the same. No change in tune ffs.

In the end anyone should or shouldn't date anyone they want or don't want no matter the reason. I won't date anyone who thinks he or she is allowed to do anything while thinking others shouldn't be allowed to the the same without a good reason (A good reason being them being a trained expert in something dangerous or the like not having a certain set of genitalia where it's completely irrelevant). Because that's having double standard no matter what. If they divide it between genders yes they're sexist.
If they find a woman who's fine with that good for them. It doesn't change that.

[Gangactivities911]

Yeah I think ur right tho we all need to just find someone we r compatible with

[laurieluvsit]

To me it's all about chemistry. If it's not there, stay away from it.

But if it is there then why fight it? :)

[Anonymous]

Definitely! Any woman that wanted to sleep with my on a first date I'd politely decline. Then I would be asking myself how many guys does she do that with. Slow it down ladies! There'll be plenty of time for that when we know each other better.

[andreasderjuengere]

Nothing can be ''too early'' when it's with mutual consent.

As you say - you warmed up for 2 months already.

[ZS007]

depends on you really. Online chatting is different from getting to know someone form up close so I think it's too soon.

[Little_Bumblebee]

It's too early for me. I wouldn't even kiss the person on the first date.

For others, it isn't.
That's up to you and your partner, what you're comfortable with and ready for.

[Daniela1982]

For all you know you have been talking to a sexual predator or a serial killer too. When having sex you are most vulnerable, and that is when they will strike.

[erika25]

I think It’s early, it could ruin the potential relationship. It is healthier to go step by step to maintain the excitement in the relationship.

[Wise4myage]

That seems ok with me, because its not like you just started talking to him.

[Blackcosmo]

Yes it's quite early but if you're alright with it then it's your choice.

[Bee-Hatch]

It's up to you, but it's more likely to just be a one night stand if you do

[Philyouup]

with online dating we are hardly strangers when we finally meet. so perhaps no, my first online dateingg experience , ended up with me sleeping with her when we finally met.

[Still-alive]

there's really no objectively right answer to this. Just whenever you feel completely comfortable doing it, could be the first date or could be several.

[notwoke]

its fine. your life won't last forever. Seize the day

[Anonymous]

Depends whether you want a serious relationship with him. If you're okay with just being used for sex then go for it.

[dolemite89]

not if you have chemistry and it feels right

[JPresidente]

Way too early. If you wanna a good guy make him chase it.

[maddiemiller_17]

way to early, i feel like you should get to know the person before anything, but also having sex on the first date could bring use closer very quickly.

[isoterminal2060]

To be honest, It depends upon your individual emotional security at the time 😉😍😁😁

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Of course it is. That’s like eating ice cream before dinner

[EaterPeter]

What's first date? Is meeting in person after chatting for two month is?

[I_am_Dor]

Hell fucking yeah it is. If he's asking for it then I would be really careful

[Anonymous]

It heavily indicates that the people on the date are more interested in getting laid than forming an actual relationship. I'd say yes.

[abc3643]

It can't get any earlier...

[Jacobbbb]

Way too early. Proceed with caution

[Drumlin2001]

If you want to, do it.

[Danny718718]

Yes way too soon

[Jrock33]

Need a connection-

[RuthlessAggression]

yeah.

third date is the sex date

[Flakedfhj]

I’m my opinion yes but it’s your life

[Arleythedemigirl]

One word. Yes

[jjj101010]

Nope. If u feel comfortable then go for it

[slatyb]

No, it's not.

[scott04sa22]

Just go with it

[xJayleenx]

Yes it is

[SevilleJuan]

Marriage.