Why does really bad heartbreak, make you not even want to date anymore?

[Danny_dan92]

It’s weird, I been single for 3 years and have gotten into the talking phase with multiple women and it always results in the same outcome.. I talk to them for a few days and then suddenly stop caring to respond to them. I don’t even ask them when they’re free to take them out lol

I’ve never in my life been this way, but ever since the train wreck that is my last relationship. This is my new normal behavior

[Anonymous]

Maybe its a fear of over investing and getting hurt again, and think anyone would feel that way after a bad breakup. You may want to consider taking time to yourself to heal, rather than dating and discarding women. As someone who’s been hurt, you should be more mindful about putting others through pain as well. You may not think much harm is being done since you aren’t building anything with these women, but perusing this site even for a day and you’ll see several stories of women upset and confused after being ghosted.

[Danny_dan92]

All of this is very true, very valid points.

Thank you

[Opinion Owner]

No worries dude, I wish you luck going forward and hope you make positive changes🙏

[TenderFantasy]

1. You may still have hopes of getting back together with your ex.

2. The break up is still somewhat fresh.

3. Still like I said, harboring feelings for her which is ultimately blocking you from opening up your heart and mind towards others that may just be more compatible with you.

4. Good luck. It's hard. So many other choices. Not everyone is healthy (unfortunately my ex) or genuine. You're also probably tired of dating and relationships for a while. Try taking a break and focusing on yourself, your goals. Maybe then in the near future, you can try again with a refreshed feeling. Because since your relationship ended, it's not like a switch and you don't have feelings for them anymore. It's NEVER like that. Before night, there's evening, before morning, there's dawn. It's all transitions. At least that's the way I think of it.

-SV

[Danny_dan92]

It’s actually none of those things…

Someone else pretty much beat the nail on the head but pretty much I’m just afraid of another woman doing the very same shit she did to me.

I basically have ptsd pertaining to love

[TenderFantasy]

You have to realize not everyone is the same

[FilmGuy93]

Because relationships are investments, at the end of the day, and the price of failure is your investment, whatever extra effort you put in to make the other person feel special, and then the damage they decide to do to your reputation for eventually walking away. You spend all this time investing in someone who takes your sacrifice and shows you how worthless it is, and then punishes you for not tolerating their abuse. If someone invests their money in a certain type of company and then that company went bankrupt, and the investor has to do jail time because they happened to invest in the wrong company; why the hell would they be excited to invest more in the future?

[Anonymous]

I think age plays into it. Humans take for granted what they have in abundance. Women have a wealth of choices when they're young and therfore can take men for granted as they age they see those opportunities shrink. Men conversely have been dealt so many blows by that point by women we question whether they're worth the effort anymore.

I haven't quit. But I'm quite happy being single. It's going to take a worthwhile woman to change that. If not, I'll stay single... everybody's happy. 🙂

[MoniqueTLC]

Sub-consciously you're preventing the possibility of making yourself vulnerable to get hurt again. You're probably a bit in the avoidant stage where you're not allowing yourself to connect with anyone on that same level because of the damage it's caused from your previous relationship.

Not only this, you probably haven't started talking to anyone that's actually spiked your interest that much that you'd take the 'risk' again.

Heartbreak definitely needs to be dealt with, otherwise it will affect relationships moving forward whether you think so or not. It's not a great experience, but you'll get there!

[Danny_dan92]

Yes and no, it’s odd.

I’ve come across women who I had a lot of interest in at first but over time of communicating with them I begin to gain a sense of bitterness as I also grow closer it’s so fucken weird.

Like a part of me does want to get into another relationship but then the majority of my emotions become overwhelmed with remembering what I last got put through so I immediately become disconnected

[melanieeeB]

Broo she wasn't even worth the heartbreak tho anyways you should heal first bevor going out and casually dating around.
Like personally I do take a lot of time to think about my hurt, why stuff maybe happened, past people, what i have learned, what i wanna have next and just like confront the hurt and work on doing the best out of it. Figuring stuff out.

Plus it does take time to heal a heart and I'm sure when you meet the right person for you, you will be ready again and it's going to be good 🙏🏼

[ShadezMcgee]

Fear of commitment or building up into something more out of fear from potential failure and disappointment possibly?

[Danny_dan92]

Precisely

[DDBella2011]

The last relationship was all a fucking lie and I don't ever want to be with anyone again... I just want to hurt and destroy everyone who I come into contact with so everyone can be d3ad inside like me. I guess he wanted to spend his life there gd luck

[bubblegunnn]

U just scared of the possibility getting hurt again after u have new relationship w a girl.. maybe it'll take a long time til u ready and really comfort for someone u trust

[Jacobbbb]

Man I can't really relate at all to that lol. My bad breakup happened and it feels like there's a void that needs to be filled. I understand what you mean tho

[Nathan25]

Because it hurts. You evolved to prevent painful events for happening a second time. It's why we aren't too fond of lions when there's no gate

[exitseven]

when you fall off the horse, you need to get right back up in the saddle. You have not done this but it is time to cowboy up.

[Anonymous]

It seems you still need more time. You will feel better.

[Danny_dan92]

I don't know about that one, little one.

It’s been many years

[katestar]

Well. It's really true about that.

[TheBigGuy9]

Love is deep.