How to distance myself from a bad friend?

[Anonymous]

I've known her for 6 years and I remember in the past she would be so jealous if I went travelling and would talk to me in a bad tone. She would also flip out if I made a stir fry because it looked like a big portion but she knew I stayed trim because I played sports. Now that I have a new boyfriend she asks "is he nerdy?"

Like I'm tired of her comments and really want to distance myself from her

[Sandeeppingping]

What the anonymous girl said, slow distancing doesn't work, if they keep on talking you'll keep on talking and that's a problem, you'll remain where you are with her, you just cut her off never see her and when she texts you (or accidentally sees you somewhere) where have you been and stuff like just say you're really busy and when she responds don't open the message and close the app for a while or say that you're in a hurry and have to go because blablabla, you could also block her and everyone that you know that might ask you about why you blocked her, that's a bit extreme but I've done it and is the best way, I've done that to people who have been my best friends for 15 and 8 years now thankfully I don't even talk to these fake cunts... But the cutting off also works, it's technically distancing yourself since that there is no fight or anything, but it's an extreme way of doing so, all the while being very formal when you very occasionally HAVE to interact with them (they're constantly calling you, you bump into them on the street)...

[Sandeeppingping]

Oops I feel this so much that I wrote a freakin essay, sorry for that

[Asker]

No its really helpful. Well thankfully I don't live In the same town as her anymore I live about 1hr 30 from her

[Staximus]

What kind of fucking psycho flips out about stir fry? Just say "I don't need your negativity in my life" and stop answering her calls and texts.

[Asker]

Because she's a bit over weight

[Staximus]

Yeah I'm kind of fat myself but at least I get happy when I see stir fry like every other fat person besides your dumb frienemy

[Asker]

Why is she doing this to me

[Staximus]

Just distance yourself from this nut

[Asker]

So hard to find a friend that doesn't pull this crap

[Staximus]

No it's not

[Asker]

She also kept saying my boyfriend is nerdy about a hundred times but yet her boyfriend is becoming obese lol

[melanieeeB]

I always directly ended friendships that were bad for me. So i would say, talk to her and tell her you don't wanna be friends anymore and then definitely delete them everywhere (trust me on that)

[Bee-Hatch]

From what you write, why did you think she's your friend? She sounds anything but.


Sever contact and move on. She's toxic

[AmeerX]

Just set her up with a guy. Or a girl if she is LGBT and she will probably forget about you

[Anonymous]

You don't distance yourself. You kick them out of your life and find better friends.

[Asker]

Just so rude with those cheap shots. She said her boyfriend is putting large amounts of weight on I never say anything rude at all

[MrJMM]

By leaving.