Would you date a friend's ex girlfriend or boyfriend?

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Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

Yes and I have, but never in secret, always open about it and talking to my friend about it. Would never do it in secret to betray or hurt her.

We are all close enough that we realize just cause someone's ex wasn't for them doesn't mean that they aren't a perfect match for someone else.

This is of course dependent entirely on why they broke up, if he was a cheater... then no way would I ever.

I know I'm a bit unique in the fact that I stay friends with my own ex's and often try to set them up with someone else, which could very well be a friend, or a friend of a friend and if we were friends first, I would like to stay friends after and have had decent success on that.

Unless it was a cheating ex, then I curse him into a pool of hot lava that looks like a cute girl he can go try to hump and see how humping hot lava works.

UnknownPuppet · Accepted Answer

No. No way. It is a betrayal for our friends. I mean imagine your best friend to date your ex. How would you feel?

Loveisgirthy · Accepted Answer

Depends who they are and why they broke up. If it was mutual then why not. Like a girl my friend dated in HS recently really turned herself around and lost a ton of weight seems much happier. Still stays just engaged to the guy she's been with for a few years. To me it looks like she's getting ready to move on out of that. And see my friend wouldn't shut up about the sex they were having but then she cheated on him with a friend and so it's already happened, she ain't loyal but physically is more attractive very pretty little liars vibe. She's made passes at me before and I always refused and still will. But if she was a decent lover I'd consider it more. Apparently she's got high class ass though

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Horrible, horrible violation of the bro code!

Avicenna · Answer

My best friend suggested that I date his ex-wife (whose family is very wealthy), but I knew better than to do that since I know all that he went through with her. It's just not something I'd want to do anyway.

hahahmm · Answer

Unlikely. First I'd have to ask the friend if it's okay BEFORE even approaching their ex. And I'd have to believe that my friend is the type who is 100% honest about how they feel and won't change their mind a month or a year later which is totally unknowable. There's really no point. It's like asking if I'd eat food out of a friend's kitchen garbage can. I guess if it's the end of the world and there's been no food for weeks, who knows. But it's just very unlikely.

loveslongnails · Answer

Yes, I'm not close enough to any men friends to care about that, especially if you were his ex! :)

Weapon77 · Answer

Nope. Had a chance to a couple times, and I refused because it's a dick move. The ONLY situation when it is ok is when the friend didn't have sex with them yet. Otherwise, it's unnecessary and disrespectful.

Staximus · Answer

Maybe, if the ex was from like 20 plus years ago

Pyrofox · Answer

If the ex encourages it as a mutal friend and is happy with us together sure. I would never force it if it means our mutual friend is gonna neuter me over it though.

OnTheLevel · Answer

I've never been in that position and I'm not sure how I'd feel about it. At the very least, it would be awkward having a friend who has "been there before"

JaxiCats · Answer

No they broke up for a reason and I don’t want to experience why

Nathan25 · Answer

Not without asking, and maybe at least 8 months. I understand bro code but I would never want to be the reason 2 people I care about can't enjoy their life

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

There is a chance not too sure, after all, that's someone's ex Lol

Finchie40 · Answer

No, out of respect for my friend I would never do it , plenty of fish in the sea to find my own catch

matchrestore · Answer

I never did it, but one of my friends is now married to one of my ex's. Luckily it was a pretty clean breakup and we're still good friends.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Only when ''peace overall'' will be kept up. There are a number of no-go's to me; such as a split-up that didn't go well, or one that was single sided and ''broke a heart''.

Blackcosmo · Answer

Nope. I feel like I'm violating the sis code.

Sandeeppingping · Answer

I did, and I am still, he isn't a friend anymore and wasn't ever really

RavVid · Answer

It is a bit close to the bone I think. I wouldn't completely rule it out.

ArtemisSilver · Answer

Probably not, unless they were fine with it or I wasn't really in touch with said friend often.

humanearth · Answer

I did many many years ago. There was a reason he dumped her and I found out the hard way

janet101 · Answer

personally, no. i strongly believe in bro code. i feel its kinda respect that you give to your friend but this kinda stuff and choices are always subjective so it depends on the people who are involved

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Maybe, if the vibe was perfect. Probably not though

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Depends how significant the relationship was.

MangoBob · Answer

Of course, i was always taught to share my used toys with others and to reciprocate in kind.

Adronicus · Answer

No i would not, I'm a firm believer in the Bros b4 hoes philosophy.

DaddyDiablo · Answer

Nah that's wack bruh n shoes the respect there is obviously smh

leahh_loyen · Answer

I have done this however this friend was entirely over him and had moved on from him for many many many months a couple years even! And I didn't really talk to this friend we were more like strangers

Pudsmucker · Answer

It depends. How long ago were they a couple? What kind of friend was he?

Lotusinmud · Answer

Nope bros before hoes it’s an unspoken rule not to date a homies ex

maximumpower · Answer

Sure. Why not?

nspencer · Answer

Never

SolitarySolace · Answer

No. I like being single

Avcfhcic · Answer

I would date anyone that gives me a chance

Bluemax · Answer

Perhaps, but unlikely.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I don't know but i don't think so...

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

No, I would never do that.

petitedollbabee · Answer

Not unless I was given the all clear to do so.

worldscolide · Answer

No, never.

Philyouup · Answer

No that’s like crapping where you eat, too messy

Guardian45 · Answer

I would seek permission first.

roy_ricky09 · Answer

Never. Friends are everything

berwise13 · Answer

No that is one thing I won't do.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Sure if they okayed it and was casual then sure

Jerre · Answer

Yes I would if physically attracted to her

Passing_by · Answer

Nope. Sounds too complicated.

Rbfhngjbgh · Answer

Noo way 😂🤣

kareka · Answer

Why not? I did before lol

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Probably not.

eagle1951 · Answer

would and have

Joker_ · Answer

yeah lol

TallAnon · Answer

A heavy "depends"

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Negative

MikeInHawaii · Answer

Sure.

Exterminatore · Answer

Never.

DS_Madking · Answer

never

RealDaveThomas · Answer

Nope

Tommy789 · Answer

Maybe

Twalli · Answer

Sure

EaterPeter · Answer

Depends.

Anonymous · Answer

Definitely

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