Getting over the approach and the whole dying process?

This is something that plagues me when it comes to dating. The fear of approach and dating. I see the woman as more important, because they are the gate keeper and it is the difference between me possibly living out the rest of my life single, instead of happily married with kids. So there is a lot of anxiety and fear going into every encounter or just any thought of approaching a random woman. This also leads to not having the charm or words to really get her attention. I need help with this, because I am older and haven’t figured this out yet.
Getting over the approach and the whole dying process?
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