How do you handle death?

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Someone I interacted with two days ago is now dead.  TBH I am struggling.

SaoirseS · Accepted Answer

These words say it better than anyone else ever could:

"You can shed tears because they are gone, or you can smile because they lived.

You can close your eyes and pray they will come back, or you can open your eyes and see all that they left for you.

Your heart can be empty because you can’t see them, or you can be full of the love you shared.

You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday, or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.

You can remember only that they are gone, or you can cherish their memory and let it live on.

You can cry and close your mind and feel empty, or you can do what they would want.

Smile. Open your heart, love…. and go on."

-Elizabeth Ammons

I am very sorry for your loss. Please feel free to DM me if I can help.

misfittoy · Accepted Answer

i lost both my parents back to back, my neighbor killed himself and i lose patients in healthcare. grieving is always with you in one way or another, just reflect on your time you had together. there is no text book step by step way to actually get over death depending on the relationship, how long you knew them, your interactions etc. but know you enjoyed the time you had while they were in your life, thoughts and condolences to you

Bricealan · Accepted Answer

So too have I, Loves. I have lost two persons since May 11. Both persons I was close to, and I still cannot believe they are gone. I am sorry to hear you have lost someone close to you, and I understand what you are feeling, as I am feeling the same. I don't think there any words of comfort, at a time like this, as it is always an open wound when someone close to us dies. I only hope you can find some comfort knowing that many people suffer grief in the same way.

Your friend,

Bruce

exitseven · Accepted Answer

Sorry for your loss. I have dealt with it in different ways. I always try to let myself grieve instead of just pushing my thoughts to a corner of my mind and trying to ignore it. It can be difficult.

AviatorTom · Answer

Dealing with death is different for everyone...

When my father died, my main job was to support my mother. I didn't have much time to grieve because I spent so much time helping her. She wanted to memorialize his death date, and I convinced her it was better to remember his birth date.

When my mother died several years later, it was a relief, because she had gone through such pain at the hospital for 3 months, after a botched heart operation.

I guess I deal with the reality of death because we all die, it's inevitable. I grieve for family and friends who die, but I try to remember the good times. Though it's been many years since my parents died, I still think of them on their birthdays. It's not something I consciously do, it just happens.

Overall, I'm an optimist, and I always look for the good when things happen. When people die, the good is remembering the happy times.

Emiliamazing · Answer

I am sorry to hear this regarding your losses. I have lost older family members, and one cousin (long road of cancer that was not caught in early stages.)

I would often revert to fond memories or try to understand that life passes when you least expect it. Loss often is reminder to live kindly and be a benefit to those close to you ( mentally and physically).

Take care and lean on someone who can help🥰

DryGermanGuy · Answer

Well, you don’t, at least not completely. I guess it’s added weight to the individual package that every person gets to carry. The people I lost years ago are still in my thoughts. Not daily, but they show up, so to speak. I see that as proof of the strong connection we had. 👉👈🙂

TroyDT2 · Answer

Poorly. You'd think I'd be an expert by now, having lost my mom and dad before kindergarten, then their replacements my grandmother at 16 and my grandfather at 19. Over time the pain becomes a dull ache that lingers and flares up now and again.

Anonymous · Answer

A loss is always an emotional rollercoaster; there is no one way to grieve. Just take your time and allow yourself to feel the gambit of emotions (including the happy ones; sometimes your psyche needs a rest from being sad so it finds something to bring you up while you're still in the middle of greiving).

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I see nothing to ''handle'' - people don't live for ever, and I find this to be 'natural'. As I tend to be open with everyone I know, I also see no reasons to regret things that were ''unsaid''. The 'real' issue is to arrange with those who are left behind, and who need to spend more time on this silly planet - me included (until further notice).

purplepoppy · Answer

I help out with some of the local elderly so I've had my fair share of bad news. It might sound harsh but you've got to remember they've had a good innings and it was their time to go.

Agape93 · Answer

Need to talk?  I give myself a few days to grieve if I cared enough about them before I say goodbye. Then on next Samhain, I celebrate their memory before giving them a final send-off

pewter_moon · Answer

Same way that you handle life. Feel it. But keep going.

Sparkie460 · Answer

Death is never easy to deal with. I've lost so many people that now I expect it to happen. I used to just shut down when someone died. Now, I get upset but life does have to go on.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

That’s very sad to hear. Hugs, I am sure it’s been a struggle and you can’t be expected to function as if it’s a normal week. Your fam and friends supporting you?

Blackcupcake · Answer

you just let yourself feel the grief and give it time

NerdInDenial · Answer

It's difficult to handle death especially when you have to deal with the affairs after. I talked to different people who I am close with about my feelings, cried sometimes, and dove into work.

RichardoStyle · Answer

After all, living things are mortal. We all die after certain years of life.

bowenw · Answer

I'm so sorry for you loss. My condolences. My only suggestion is to grieve and celebrate the person's life.

msc545 · Answer

I grieve. This is the normal human response to the death of someone that is close to us or was a close friend. It is very painful and thank God it fades with time.

Tim-loves-it · Answer

Its a part of life, unfortunately. I've lost both my parents in '09, Yes it was a horrible time for me. Time heals all wounds. Just remember the good times. That the best I can say.

Gramkabir · Answer

You've to give time... Keep yourself busy with other works. Time will heal you and give you strength to overcome your grief... Let me know if you need any help from me

loveslongnails · Answer

You can recognize that their work on the planet is done for now, while yours is not.

Charliefretz329 · Answer

Death is a natural and essential part of life. Another step on our eternal journey. They still exist but only in a different way

Juxtapose · Answer

You wait for it to hurt less then process it logically.

LadiesFavoriteToy · Answer

Meh, death is great. Its just a normal part of life. Yes miss those you love.

nawtee_me · Answer

sorry for your loss, enjoy every moment because we are not promised tomorrow...

LifeBeautiful · Answer

Thats so hard. How close were yıu, and who is that person exactly? If you dont mind me asking

krin_m · Answer

So sorry to hear that. My sincere condolences.

CubaPirate · Answer

Time and talking about it makes things easier speaking from experience

WhitneySnow · Answer

I’m so sorry. I’m not good with death.

Dnice1 · Answer

I cry and give it time

MountAverage · Answer

I have not found a way yet.

Yellovv · Answer

Who is dead someone in here you mean?

LemiaOfThunder · Answer

Not well.

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