Do you believe that re-attracting someone you dated is possible?

[grim21]

Do you believe that re-attracting someone you briefly dated for a month or so is possible even when they were the ones who ended it?

[Avicenna]

Maybe, but she'd have to be a better prospect than anyone else you're talking to right now in order to justify the effort. Might also depend on why she decided to end things.

[grim21]

Basically she wasn't able to enter a relationship because of her life and work issues but also because i rushed things and she thought the whole situation was too one-sided.

[Avicenna]

Have you been in touch with her regularly since it ended? How long has it been?

[grim21]

It's been almost 40 days since it ended.

We got into a no contact period of two weeks, then started texting again and even had another date for my birthday planned but had to cancel. Now it has been another no contact period of 18 days.

[Avicenna]

Try to re-establish contact by seeing how she's doing and if there is a few days of contact, suggest a meetup.

[grim21]

You think so? I mean honestly i'd really like to know if she's doing fine in her life and if she is alright. However the last time we contacted each other and before the second no contact period started, she said that i could contact her if i could be more relaxed about this and maybe more friendly.

[Avicenna]

Take her advice then. Now, you also need to be past whatever emotions came up from things ending- your head needs to be clear. And you also have to be ready to accept possible rejection.

[grim21]

This past weekend i realized that i pretty much lost myself because of things ending and the heartbreak i felt and that i need to find me again so to speak. You know the man who could even attract a woman like her. I don't think that this has to be done for her sake or our situation's sake but mostly for my well-being.

Also i believe that if i could attract her once then maybe there is a chance that i could attract her again at some point.

[Guy13]

Perhaps, but I would not be wasting my scoot-scoot acquisition Time on chasing the Past...

[KenzoTak]

I do