He is an incredible person but is very ugly, what would you do?

[Anonymous]

There is this guy friend who is great, I love his character, we have a lot of things in common, vibe extremely well, he is the only guy who makes me feel amazing, apprecciated, supported, makes me laugh like crazy and is a very deep person, we trust each other from long time.
But I don't like him aesthetically because he looks kind of "ill", almost anorexic and with fragile skin, bad teeth, bad posture, and very very skinny cheeks that make him look old, random non-uniform beard... I don't get a general idea of health by looking at him...
We like each other now, but he is the one liking me more, I like him a lot on the "inner" side, really he is fantastic but I can't match it with his outside... I had ugly boyfriends in the past but this guy looks "unhealthy" which is another level of ugliness for me.

What to do? Did you ever overcome the missing physical attraction (if not repulsion!) with someone you really, really didn't like at the beginning, but you dated anyway? I'm so indecisive about dating him... If it wasn't for this, wow, all the rest is just wow...

[Smoke-n-Growls]

It sounds like he's got a lot of underlying issues if he looks that bad. To me, here's what it says:

- poor skin quality: is he on meds affecting this, or is his diet poor because he doesn't know how to cook for himself?

- sickly skinny: does he have an eating disorder, or a history of it, or does he simply forget to eat and doesn't lift?

- bad posture: 100% he plays video games all day and doesn't do anything to fix his physical health

- poor grooming: why? Shave it off or maintain it. Why isn't he taking care of his appearances?

He might seem incredible, but his appearance sounds like he's not actually got his life in hand.

[Shamalien]

Lots of tall guys have bad posture, gravity is a thing. Working a desk job does this as well

[Smoke-n-Growls]

And lots of office workers do enough simple exercises and stretching to fix it.

Being lazy isn't the solution.

[Shamalien]

Yeah try being over 6ft tall lol it’s a real struggle

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Lmao, try doing some sit ups, planks, and stretches, kiddo.

You have a body. Use it.

[Shamalien]

I do all of those things lol I’m just saying ask anyone over 6ft who works a desk job and they will tell you how difficult it is

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Really? I know a lot of 6'+ officer workers in great shape with good posture, but then again I meet them rock climbing.

Guess you're just weak and not interested in keeping your health. It isn't hard to make sure you get up and stretch or do a few exercises every hour.

[Shamalien]

Why I waste time talking to the biggest cunt on this site I don’t know. I can do 10 chinups without breaking a sweat, I can hike for hours without stopping, I bet I’m in way better shape than you

And yes I do have some postural issues from years of computer work. Suck my balls

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Ew, no, they're probably sunken in from too much sitting on your ass.

[hhadeshatesme]

i wouldn’t date someone I’m not physically attracted to. not saying all the men I’ve been with have been 10s. some a little rough around the edges, but their was still attraction. I feel that there needs to be both physical/mental attraction for a relationship to work. Ugly guys with a great personality are a 0, and hot guys with no personality are also a 0 in my books.

[Guy13]

How about a 3 date get to know him. Often, the personality, demeanor, and care for others makes a less good-looking guy handsome. Beauty fades but the Person an his attributes remain !!! 3 strikes and you are out if it does not feel right. Sound fair?

[Shamalien]

If the physical attraction ent there it won’t work. If it’s all superficial shit like skin and beard get him into a stylist lol

[Anonymous]

Date him. Girls should not care about how a guy looks, looks only matter on girls, but if you really think he is sick, maybe ask him to get a doctor

[hhadeshatesme]

women aren’t allowed to have standards and preferences? oh god how did you make it this far in life