He's ugly, but I am oddly attracted to him. Has anyone had this experience?

[waterwingit]

I went on a date last night with a man I met. We connected mentally. He is 7 years older than me, working on his PhD in archaeology, funny, smart, great listener and extremely open minded. He is not very attractive though. He is tall but, a bit pudgy (not very noticeable though), the skin on his face is slightly pock marked, his nose is a bit large and crooked and his teeth are not very nice. His style is great, he looks so cute in his glasses and is handsome in a fugly scholarly way. We talked for hours and he asked me to go home with him. I did and we had an amazing time in the sack. His body is not sexy but, there's something about him I find extremely attractive. He is passionate and his mind is so interesting. I am a very fit, petite and attractive young woman, but I am so turned on by his "ugliness". Has anyone ever experienced this? I am worried about losing my physical attraction to him in the long run if things go further. Should I reconsider my attraction? Am I being shallow and immature?

[Anonymous]

Yeah! I´ve had this happen to me, you shouldn´t worry that much about the looks. The guy I like right now is not that gorgeous but I really like him, he makes me really happy and I think that is what matters. If your mind is on it then I think it will be hard for your attraction to go away. You shouldn´t reconsider your attraction, just try to enjoy it. It is not being shallow because you know that it is wrong in some level, so don´t judge yourself to harshly.

[katkaintkwit]

Is that you in your profile picture? If so you aren't cute enough to judge him. I mean if you like him what's the problem? You're shallow.

[waterwingit]

Wow haterade, I didn't ask you to judge me.

[katkaintkwit]

You're the one who asked if you're shallow. I'm tryin to help lol and trust me. I have no reason to hate on you.

[waterwingit]

I didn't ask about how I looked.

[katkaintkwit]

Only one person on earth is cute enough to judge looks. And that's Rihanna. So do better babe, that's really mean.

[Agent_Mouse]

1. She's EXTREMELY cute, just saying.

2. Either way, that was extremely shallow and judgmental of you to say. LAME.

[katkaintkwit]

she cute. Extremely? Not so much lol but I'm shallow and judgmental?! The girl flat out said he's ugly in the question title! You're...a joke.

[kheserthorpe]

I have heard of this.

The reality is that female attraction is based more on things other then looks then male attraction. You view him as smart, passionate, successful, etc. He's not pretty, but he appeals to you. Look at all the fugly rock stars who get laid constantly.

I suspect as long as you view him as smart, funny, stylish, and passionate, you'll find him attractive.

[funkadelic5]

Thumbs up for breaking the mold, girl.

You should choose whatever makes you happy, and there's absolutely no denying that physical attraction plays a significant role in who you associate with sexually.

But I think you just gave a sparkle of hope to some nerd out there, so I salute your bravery.

[Anonymous]

It happened to me once too. There was this girl who wasn't pretty at all - she had no curves, she was short and had a very plain face. Not at all the kind of girl I'd prefer. But there was something about her, something in the way she'd look at me and the way she moved and radiated. She wasn't my type but she had something about her. I don't regret spending time with her. I say if it feels good, go for it.

[Anonymous]

He'll be your financial security and girls don't care about looks anyways, most women out there chase ugly fat fuckers since there assumed to be great husbands and never cheat blah blah blah crap. Aside from that why the hell do you care what others think, if you had a good time and good sex then you should be happy... clearly your a shallow bitch who bases decisions on her relationships from what others think and society dictates. no wonder the world is messed up

[Racez]

It's because he makes you comfortable around him, and express himself well around you.

You should go for him. You're not being shallow.

[Anonymous]

I wasn't physically attracted to my last ex it was his intelligence and humor that drew me to him but then he turned out to be way too controlling/possessive so I left him. Goodluck.

[katkaintkwit]

Looks don't matter

[wizkid]

A man is never ugly.Only broke guys are.

[Fiona83]

That's a very shallow attitude. I've known (and dated) broke guys who were very handsome, at the same time I've met wealthy guys who were really...well, unattractive (according to my personal tase in looks).

[Anonymous]

It's the money your after