When I first met him I thought he was ugly, and now I can't stop thinking about him. Has this ever happened to you?

[Anonymous]

I worked with this guy for the past year, but we never met in person because we both work in different offices. We always chat on Skype so I saw his photo and I always thought he was ugly (mean, I know, but just that's what I thought).

Then when I finally met him in person a couple months ago, again the first time I looked at him I did not think he was cute at all. We had a short conversation because we were both really busy, we didn't get to talk much or hang out. But then a couple days later I found myself falling super hard for him and now I can't stop thinking about him. I literally only saw him for 2 days and we barely worked together. There was just one weird moment where he caught my eye and I was kind of staring at him and he stared back at me and that was weird and lasted maybe 5 seconds.

How could that happen?

Has that ever happened to you before?

[johari]

Happened in high school, this new kid looked like a rapist to me I don't know why. He had interesting eyes later that I ended up layer liking... at first he was so disrespectful so I guess that's why I didn't like him but the next year I was so checking for the guy

We actually got along well but he had a girlfriend and later broke up but by then I wasn't trying to be rebound

[johari]

Thanks :)

[deusexmachinaa]

Yep. That has happened to me. I feel like sometimes its not that they're ugly, its that you don't give that person a chance, like their whole vibe changes the way you see them, and you end up being really attracted to them.

[Asker]

that's true, maybe he actually wasn't but I was being judgmental :)

[deusexmachinaa]

Yeah it definitely is your judgement. Don't let your ego come in the way, you could be missing out on someone really great.

[Asker]

I know, thanks! :)

[nala_rawr]

sometimes a good persnality can make someone super attractive. its perfectly normal :)
ur not as shallow as you thought u were.
its happened to me before. i fell madly in love.

[Asker]

did you end up dating?

but the thing is we didn't really talk much... so I didn't even get to know him.. which is why I"m really confused.

[nala_rawr]

maybe its someting about his style, or his personality that u see. maybe its the way he interacts with others. could b anything, really.
we dated, had a baby, then got married <3

[Asker]

Awww that's so cute! Did you hit on him or did he hit on you?

In our case, I don't even know if he's attracted to me or into me at all. Especially because we work together. I'm just so nervous now cus I found out I need to go back to his office soon and I feel so uncomfortable about seeing him.

[nala_rawr]

we worked together too. so it was a little weird. umm.. it was kinda mutual, but i think i initiated it more.

[Asker]

Oooh haha. Yeah I'm totally initiating it as well ;)

well glad it worked out for you

[nala_rawr]

me too!!!
good luck :)

[Asker]

haha thanks :)

[Brian_11]

Well I'm glad you realized that looks doesn't matter. I'm so tired of women judging a guy for looks and looks only as they do today. Looks fade get to know him it sounds like he has a good personality

[Asker]

Thanks but I'm super scared to hit on him since we work together. I get intimated and worry he might not be interested and don't want to make a fool of myself...

[kingarthas]

Didn't happen to me. i am too young maybe