I was going to go to a concert with a friend of mine next week but she‘s sick so she can‘t go. I started dating a guy, we‘ve only been on 4 dates but I really like him and I thought maybe I could ask him. Would you ask him or is it weird?
No ask him. Damn I’d be psyched to go unless it was like some chick band or something lol ask him before I ask him lol I’m sure he would love to go. Don’t wait too long he may end up making plans. I mean this could be your 5th date. What concert?
thank you! :) I just asked him and he was actually really excited about it! :) the artist is aries, maybe you know him but he‘s not that popular.
unfortunately he can‘t go because he has to work :( I‘m glad I asked him though! I don‘t know anyone else who might want to go.. so maybe I‘ll have to go by myself.
Damn if I was him I’d call off. Especially if he’s never missed work. I’m sorry to hear that. To me I know I have called off once in a blue moon, but if he’s loyal to his job that tells me he’s a good man. Hopefully I’m not wrong. Maybe suggest something else on his day off.
I agree but it‘s his first day at a new job so I think it would not be a good idea to call off. It‘s sad though bc I was so happy when he said yes!
Well I guess in this case it’s the thought that counts. At least you know he has a legitimate reason. No other girlfriends who you could take w you?
I don‘t have that many friends tbh and since the concert is on a Monday the friends I do have can‘t go because they have to work. And they all don‘t listen to his music anyways. :( would you go by yourself or is that weird? I‘m shy but I really want to go
As a male I’d go by myself cause I’m going to have fun. I’m not going to see all the other people. For women I know it make feel more awkward being alone, but as a male I’d go. I have actually to various concerts like Tool, Static-X. Course I will say I met some chicks there, strangers who happened to be pretty chill. But if I was you I’d still go, but that’s coming from a male’s perspective. I don’t know how you would feel being alone, or concerned other dudes try to hit on you or what. I’m off Monday I’d go w you lol
okay then please go with me lol!
I‘m just scared that people will think I‘m weird because I‘m there by myself. I‘ve never been to a concert before actually. Is it weird for a girl to go to a concert by herself or do people not really care/notice?
So one thing please do what you want to. Don’t be concerned about what other think. I know that’s easier said than done but a lot of people go through life never doing things they want to because they’re scared of what others may think. So go if you really want to see the group. Maybe post online see if another girl would like to go, make a new friend. Even if no one goes I would encourage you to go, just be safe. I mean if I lived near you I’d go just to check out this band as I’ve never heard of them. I’m into all types of music but don’t recall ever hearing about them.
Okay, I will! I‘d post it but it‘s embarrassing if no one replies lol. the concert is in munich so probably not close to where you live, right? :D and it‘s a solo artist, you should look him up, he‘s cool
Nope no where near me. I’m in the states. Why would it be embarrassing? I mean who the hell is going to know it’s you? If you can learn to control your emotions your life will be so much easier. Maybe if I win the lottery by Monday I’ll fly your way lol
so where online would you post? Well yea that‘s a bit far lol. I hope you win by Monday 😄
But I think if I don‘t find someone I‘ll definitely go by myself. I think once the concert starts the attention is on the artist anyways so it doesn‘t matter if I‘m without my friend
Again don’t worry about everyone else. You’re there to see a band, not everyone else. You’ll have fun. No brothers? Sisters to go? I’m saying just go solo but I know it’s hard to not think about what others are thinking so I’m trying to come up w other people who may go. Yes if I win the lottery by than I’ll be there to pick you up lol so tell me a good song of theirs so I can listen to it.
you’re right. I should stop worrying. I don‘t have any siblings and I think going with my mom/dad would not be a good idea, especially since they probably won‘t enjoy the music lol. you should look up aries - sayonara. I don't know if the link works but here it is:
https://youtu.be/QMpEi3wwv3g
and I hope you win the lottery lol!! would be good for both of us
I’ll look it up as soon as I’m off work w in an hour here. I work night shift. What time is it there? Yes just go. You don’t think your mom or dad would like it? I mean even just to spend time w you? I went to a concert last night, well the night before w my brother. So what is there to do where you live?
it‘s 3:14 pm here right now. what time is it in the states? I‘d love to go there again one day!!
my parents wouldn‘t like the music and I‘m pretty sure I‘d be the only one there with their parents lol. I‘d probably feel like I‘m a teenager too :D I‘m 22 but people often think I‘m 16 or something so I‘d feel like I actually am 16 if I‘m there with my parents haha.
what do you mean by what‘s there to do where I live?
I see. Right now it is 0622 in the morning. I have about 30 minutes before I’m done for the day.
Oh I was asking like what kind of things are there to do fun wise where you live? What type of music do you listen to?
So you’ve been to the states once? What part of the states?
Ok cool. well there‘s a lot of things you can do here, like go dancing, to a bar, clubbing, to the movies, going to the park, go mini golfing, visit musuems and castles.. you can even go surfing on the „eisbachwelle“ but only if you‘re good at it 😄
I‘ve been to california and florida. I was really young but I remember it was really nice and beautiful. Where do you live?
and I listen to a lot of music. mostly hip hop and pop
Oh wow sounds like a lot to do. I live in Arizona. It has a little of everything, the hit hit heat in Phoenix, cooler temps up north. Yes you should come back one day. There’s a lot to do depending on what state you’d visit. I’ve been to a lot of places w in the states, maybe over half the states as well as numerous countries when I was in the military.
So what would we do in your town besides the concert if I win the lottery by Monday? Lol
oh wow that‘s cool, I‘d love to go to arizona. do you like living in the states?
well what do you want to do? lol
I like hip hop, a lot of the older hip hop, some of today as well. I love listening to older music. One of the songs that keeps going through my head right now is Love Bites by Def Leppard. I love country music as well. So if I showed up Monday winning the lottery what would your man think? Lol
that‘s cool :) I don‘t know that artist. and, well, I don‘t think he‘d be happy with that. but he hasn‘t made anything between us official yet so I don't know lol
I love the states even though a lot of other people may not. I like it cause we have a mixture of people. I can eat Mexican food or Italian, or Chinese, there’s a lot of everything here. I can go up north to the snow. New York is a good place to travel, so is Cali, Las Vegas, there’s a lot to do. As for being there w you I’d be up for whatever so long as we were having fun.
I listened to the song. I like it. Not bad.
I see. What do you like about him?
I see. I hope I‘ll get the opportunity to live in the US for a few years, that would be a dream come true. Have you been to germany?
what I like about him is that he‘s really charismatic and intelligent. He‘s also really nice to me and makes me feel special. however, sometimes I‘m unsure bc he makes me feel like I‘m just an option. so I don't know. I‘ll see.
I‘m glad you like the song! :)
Where would you like to live in the states? So let me tell you I’m a man’s man as they say. I feel like I’m one of a few of real men out there. So if you want to know what men are thinking ask me n I’ll tell you lol
So why do you feel as though he makes you feel like an option? How does he make you feel special? Have you slept w him yet?
No I’ve never been to Germany. Would love to go though.
I was thinking Florida or california since I‘ve already been there and I really liked it! but I‘d get more info on other states since I really don‘t know too much about them. I always wanted to move to the US when I was little lol :)
and about that guy, he makes me feel like he really likes me and he told me he wants us to be like a serious thing, he wants it to turn into a relationship. I know that he‘s been with quite a lot of girls though and I‘m not sure if he‘s really in love with me or if he just wants to sleep with me. we haven‘t slept with each other yet and he knows I don‘t like hookup culture. on our second or third date he asked me personal questions like how many guys I‘ve been with, how far I‘ve gone etc. so a lot of intimate questions which threw me off and I don't know what to think of that really. what do you think? how do I know what he wants from me?
I like that song! :) makes me feel good
Honestly that is hard to say at this point. I say that because men know how to play this game to make a girl feel special so she gives him what she wants. So it can go either way. I mean if I was to come straight out and say I want to have sex w you you’d probably say hell no and never talk to me again. So men know what they have to do to get what they want. It can go either way like I said he may be genuinely interested or he may be Plath g that game to get what he wants. At the same time a lot of women complain why doesn’t their man treat them the way they used to when they were dating. Because it’s all part of that game to put up that front to butter her up. Honestly most men don’t want to know how many men you’ve been w? I mean yes and no. A man is usually not going to take a girl serious who has been w a lot of men. So I’m thinking he’s asking these questions because he wants to know how long before she puts out. I mean why would he be asking how far you’ve gone w these other men. How old is he?
I really like it too. Glad you like it. One of the best songs I think.
I just don‘t really understand because I feel like there are girls who are ok with just having casual sex or whatever and I made it clear that I‘m not into that. so why would he spend time with me if he could just be with them? before him I dated a guy a few years older than me, he was really nice and gave me a lot of compliments amd he didn‘t ask these intimate questions. especially not this early. the guy I‘m currently seeing is 22 as well, a few months younger than me actually. he doesn’t compliment me that much. he says he wants a relationship but it just doesn‘t FEEL like it, you know? honestly, I don't know if my standards are just too high and I‘m expecting too much or if he really just wants to get me into bed. Like yesterday I told him I‘m going to get a shower. He said we should one day go shower together. Maybe I‘m overthinking this but I just think that‘s not something he should say so early, you know?
do you know the arctic monkeys?
Don’t thinks so. What’s a good song of theirs
https://youtu.be/ndL_xLnWh_M I like this one
Honestly yes that’s a little too early I think to be asking those questions. He’s feeling you out, but which way I don’t k ow. If he’s genuine he’s wanting to know ok is she a hoe. Sorry I’m not calling you one but he wants to know has she gotten around cause if she has than I don’t want to be w a girl like that. Even though us men love women who will put out easy we don’t want a girl like that as far as an actual relationship. Or he’s trying to guess how long before she does something w me based on asking you all these questions. Maybe he likes a challenge that’s why he’s rather go after you than the other girls who are willing to just lay down for him. What do you look like if you don’t mind me asking?
Pretty good. I like his voice.
well that doesn‘t seem very romantic lol. do you think it sounds like he might actually like me or does it seem like he sees me as a challenge?
I can‘t really show you a photo here so I‘ll just tell you lol, I‘m about 5‘3, blonde long hair, I wear size xs-s so I‘m not super skinny but still skinny I guess, green eyes. fair skin.
glad you enjoy it.
I like the song! probably a stupid question but that‘s country, right? that‘s something I would listen to on a roadtrip in the US haha
You sound like a little cutie. Well again that is hard to say cause it could go either way. Whether he’s playing the game of trying to sleep w you or actually be w you they both pretty much start off the same way. Let me ask you this. What makes you different than all the other girls he’s been w? How many has he been w? I say that because at that age, 22, chances are he’s just trying to get some. I remember being that age, trying to get w a lot of women. What did he tell you as far as why you’re different than the other girls? As for the shower remark, he just wants sex. Making that remark. I know if I made that remark I’d be hinting at something sexual.
Yes it’s country. I like country a lot cause it makes me think of when times were simple. Good old American family working hard, getting what they earn in return.
Thank you, I appreciate it. actually I don‘t know what makes me different from them, he hasn‘t told me anything about them or how I‘m different. He said he didn‘t count how many girls he slept with and that it was about 6 girls.
I get hit on kinda a lot, as I‘m sure most women do but I rarely really like a guy in a romantic way. so I don‘t want to overthink this and ruin it before it even really began. It‘s just that I also really don‘t want to get played and my heart broken. I don‘t have much experience. I just have a feeling that he might only want sex from me and I really don‘t know what to do. He also kept asking me if I ever had like a friends with benefits thing or if I‘d ever do it to which I said no.
Ok so asking about an friends with benefits to me says he just wants sex. How big are your breast? You have a descent backside? Just asking cause if so then I’m sure a lot of men would like to have sex w you. You a virgin? I’m thinking he just wants sec. In what amount of time was he w those 6 girls?
yes I thought so too. but since he knows I don‘t want friends with benefits he said he wants a relationship. he’s been with those 6 girls since January. He told me that some of the girls he slept with were one night stands and some he made it clear that it was just friends with benefits. but who knows.
so do you think he just says that he wants a relationship in order to sleep with me?
ugh this is making me so sad lol. I just want someone to actually care about me and have feelings for me.
I’m not a virgin, I’ve slept with one guy who was my first boyfriend. and I don‘t know if I‘d say my breasts are big haha I have a C cup and I have a small waist but slightly wide hips.
it is a nice vibe. I think I don‘t really know a lot of country songs
I’m thinking he’s just after sex. I could be wrong, I don’t want to mess that up for you but something tells me he is.
Size C’s are a nice size. Pretty eyes. So how can I keep in contact w you?
is there a way for me to be more sure about if he just wants sex or not?
I don't know, you tell me. I can tell you my username here? so you can add me.
Ok. What’s your username. You could say something like you’re not looking to be w someone sexually for a while. There are a few men who will wait, but a lot of men won’t. I’m sorry this is really hard to determine what he really wants. To me 6 women in a years times is too much to go from that many to now I just want to settle down. Does he message you a lot?
I‘ll text you after dinner :)
You sure? Lol I may go to sleep for awhile. I work to Igor but would like to get to know you more. Especially since you’re from outside the states:
Ok just text me when you can lol :) my username is emilialilly.
he doesn‘t next me that much, however I told him a few days ago that I feel like he‘s not texting me that much. since then he‘s texting me more so that‘s good!
and I don‘t want to compare him to my ex but with him, I never had second thoughts, he always made it really clear what his intentions are and he showed me how much he liked me. I feel like that‘s how it‘s supposed to be, right? at the same time I know I don‘t have much experience lol so I don‘t really know how it‘s supposed to be. maybe my expectations are too high. I don't know
Hello!!! Do I found your profile, added you. Tried to send a message but wouldn’t allow me to. You’ll have to message me first.
As for him not texting you as much as you’d like. Well if you have to tell him in my opinion it’s not genuine. What I’m saying is he should be texting you on his own w out being told. In the beginning when you meet someone you’re really into you will go out of your way to talk to them, to see them. But maybe I’m wrong. But I just know that if I was hoping to make a girl mine I’d do whatever I could to show her how interested I am in her, how special she is.
Ask him. I bet he goes with you and you have an awesome time.
Sure thing.. as long as he has the same taste as yours for the concert.. unless he won't have a good time and dont enjoy it
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Why would it be? Is this sexism: guy asking girl out, OK, but a girl asking guy out, not so OK?
no that‘s not what it‘s about. I was just wondering if it‘s a good idea since we don‘t know each other very well yet.
I saw this episode (Ералаш) and a film (Dickie Roberts) how a boy asked a girl out to the cinema for the first date. If cinema would be a good first date, why not a concert be to a fifth date?
Of course. That’s dating.
Sure! Ask him!
Ask him, for sure.
Sure why not..😁
Totally!
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