What to do if your boyfriend talks about a future together but keeps asking for nudes?

[Anonymous]

[WonderBell99]

If you are not comfortable with sharing nudes with him, you should not. If he coerces or pressurizes you into doing so, he is not the right man for you. When a man truly cares about you, he will prioritize your comfort over his desires and that is the way it should be.

Some people sweet talk or love bomb their partners to manipulate them. I hope that is not the case with your partner. Not saying he is manipulative, but just a possibility.

How long have you been with your boyfriend? Have you tried telling him that you are not comfortable with it? If not, you should. If you keep complying to his requests, he would think you are comfortable with sending them to him and hence, he will keep asking for more. He is not a mind reader. If you have talked to him about this previously and he is still persistent, your best bet would be to end this relationship with him.

[WonderBell99]

Also, however perfect the relationship might seem now, people change after breakups. You simply cannot trust anyone with anything. Sending him provocative pictures comes with HIGH risk. There is always a possibility that they may end up getting leaked online. Please be very careful.

[Asker]

We were together back in 2020 but brokeup and got back together again.
I have already told him i won't be sending any of that kind no matter what.

[WonderBell99]

Good for you, glad you stood your ground and made the right decision.

Is he persistent even after you telling him no? If so, you might want to reconsider your relationship.

[Asker]

He isn't that persistent.
But kinda gets upset always. How much ever upset he gets i just don't heed to it.
He is kinda good in all other ways. It's only this that's kinda on the downside.

[WonderBell99]

Upset as in? Does he make you feel guilty?

[Asker]

Nah.
I don't feel guilty for telling no for something that i don't like.
He just gets upset.

[WonderBell99]

It's good that you don't feel guilty and if he gets upset, he can go F himself!

[Asker]

Thank you. You are awesome!
I have got clarity on how to deal with it.

[WonderBell99]

That's very sweet of you, thanks! <3

That's great, glad I could provide my input :)

[PrettyPriya]

He sounds like he is trying to butter you up to get those nude photos. That is what is sounds like to me anyway. You can handle that a number of ways. You can simply put your foot down and tell him you are not comfortable sending nudes to him.

If he cares at all for your feelings and has any sort of respect for you, he will drop it immediately and not ask again. That is what I would do. You don't have to be mean about it either. Approach it as an adult and tell him you don't want to.

The issue with you sending those to him as then he is in complete control of nude images of you. What happens if there is a big fight or bad breakup? Do you trust him to not share those or post them online? I wouldn't.

In fact, I wouldn't even trust someone if the relationship is perfect. That is just too risky in my opinion.

[Asker]

Thank you. In fact i replied to him earlier "no matter what i am not doing it because it's my decision and my body" these exact words

[PrettyPriya]

I think you did the exact right thing and what is best for you. There is absolutely nothing wrong with saying no I'm not going to do it. That is your choice and he should now just drop it if he cares for you. Good on you for handling it the way you did!

[Asker]

Thank you! You are amazing!

[PrettyPriya]

Wow, thank you for the super kind words! That just gave me a big smile! 🙂

[Shamalien]

Seems other users gave you the right answers already. Seems like he’ll do anything for nudes and that is his highest priority lol…probably not in it for the long run. If a guy is in it for the long run he’ll usually show more respect

[CallmeTheKnight]

You need to let him know that's not something you're gonna to do.
Any guy who keeps wanting nudes is a red flag.

[Asker]

Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Every guy I dated who was like that, it didn’t work with. Now I’m in the longest relationship I’ve even been in and not once has he asked for nudes or sexy pics. This has given me some insight on intentions, and I feel like the right guy wouldn’t be asking these things of you.

[Anonymous]

It makes sense if he’s long distance? But after a few nudes it would get annoying. I’d space out asking for nudes. I mean just never put your face. Or give him such poor nudes he’ll stop asking.

[zagor]

Hasn't he seen you nude? If so, tell him 3D is better.

[Asker]

Nope.
Hasn't seen me.
But i like your comment "3D is better".
Thanks!

[MiseriaCantareAFI]

What's wrong with asking for nudes. He's your boyfriend, right?

[Anonymous]

Well you should totally send him nudes. What could go wrong. 🙄🤣🤣🤣

[In_Trance]

Not exactly sure what you're asking here.