I am confidant, make good eye contact, and am a good natural conversationalist but I keep getting rejected by girls?

[Asab33]

I have decided to approach girls. I approach, tell them the line of "I know this is random but I think you are really cute." then I talk to them for a bit and make good conversation [not shy at all] and still get rejected by every girl. What is going on. I thought if you were socially confident and a bit funny and make a connection, then you get the girl. What am I doing wrong?

[NathanDavis]

you started with a lie...

" I know this is random "

no that was not random at all... you purposely targeted her because she was good looking, and you purposely targeted to satisfy your intentions without considering first, if she ever had any interest on that or on you in the first place or none at all

so when you say "random" it is an absolutely lie, and your acting is full of entitlement as well

those are two wrongs in the first minutes they ever had with you, so... don't be surprised when they are just not into that

[Guy13]

You have a high view of Self. This may be your issue… 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Asab33]

I get why you may say that and I know why some of what I just said might sound like BS. but trust me, I am not shy, I am a good conversationalist. The thing that hurts is that I am confidant and not shy and I do get some looks and I do see that some girls are attracted when I talk to them platonically. Why is it that when I try to do it with that plus a little flirting that I get rejected? That is what makes it hurt so much more.

[Guy13]

You seem to be histrionic to me. Guys who are of what I think your cloth is…. are interpreted as too Girlie, gay, and/or effeminate. Is this you?

[Asab33]

First of all, I am not histironic. Second of all, no I am not effeminate. Just frustrated.

[Guy13]

You sound like a Drama 🎭 Queen here. Actors are histrionic. I think you are blind to reality. I go as far as to say Bipolar in a manic phase as we speak 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Asab33]

Listen bro, I came here for advice, not to be insulted

[Guy13]

Alright. I’m trying to dig down snd figure out how someone so perfect-like with all these good things that are self-perceived can still be Single. 🤷🏻‍♂️ I don’t give advice like this without context and/or Actuals

[NotTacocaT6969]

To know the real answer you’ll need to ask your female friends to help you.


Show them how you approach and speak to women and ask them if you’re doing anything wrong or acting a certain way that might make strangers apprehensive about you.

[Asab33]

I did and they said it was fine. That is what is upsetting me even more

[NotTacocaT6969]

The fact that nobody has ever expressed a problem with you or how you present yourself to strangers really leans towards you not being the problem.

Here’s another question though, do the women actually reject you? Like, you ask them for their number or to see them again sometime and they tell you no?

[Asab33]

Not always. I get numbers and snaps but they never respond. Some do are taken, other rejections are just the bs "I have a husband, boyfriend"

[Asab33]

How does a girl feel when a random dude approaches her. Also, I am 6' 2'', really big (not fat though), and am just confidant am natural with her. I am talking to her like I already know her. I am not nervous at all. I have been told that I am good looking too. [Not trying to sound like a douchebag but this is simply the case). Could this be the case? Is it something else? I feel like if I am doing all these things, I should be getting results

[Asab33]

Lemme ask you a question while trying to not sound like a total arrogant prick. I am a big, beefy dude, 6' 2'', I approach them with total confidence, not nervous at all [I do see many of them nervous thought when I talk to them], and just talk to them like I have known them for years. Also, I have been told I am good looking. Could that be a big issue?

[Asab33]

Because if it is, I won't really care and will do things to address that

[NotTacocaT6969]

One thing, spelling confident correctly might help. Lol :P

In all seriousness though, women can and do sometimes feel intimidated by men they find attractive.

Sometimes it’s because they’re nervous, but other times it’s because attractive men have been mean to them or hurt them some kind of way and it makes them think all attractive men will behave that way.

It really sounds like you just haven’t met the right girl yet.

Getting turned down might seem like a bad thing for now, but when you do finally find a girl who likes who you are, all of the rejection will be worth it.

[Asab33]

thank you. I do notice that women do get nervous and on the one hand, it is flattering but on the other hand, it is frustrating. Lemme ask you this, if someone approached you randomly, how would you feel? Like what would your reaction on the inside be?

[Asab33]

And how do I make a woman feel comfortable and not intimidated by cold approaching her

[NotTacocaT6969]

Being approached by a stranger can be pretty overwhelming, especially if they’re tall, muscular and handsome.

The most handsome guy I ever met used to hit on me and I always thought he was joking.

10 years later, he asked me why I rejected him…. I was speechless…

[RolandCuthbert]

I am not sure you are looking at the situation honestly. Have you tried just going out with some girls instead of trying to establish a romantic relationship first?

[Asab33]

Most of the time I approach for a friendship, they think I am trying to get into their pants (with the exception of a few and in groups). I do have female friends though

[RolandCuthbert]

I think you need to going out with your friends and in groups. Most women are not logical beings. So a lot of times that direct approach doesn't work.

[FilmGuy93]

How long are you talking with these women before you try asking them out? Relationships and dating are about consistency over time.

[Anonymous]

Life is not that simple. Keep trying.

[Asab33]

do law of averages?