Is she really interested?

[Anonymous]

Keeping short and not posting all the details. We've had 3 dates and 5 hangouts classed by her as 'adventures'. Message everyday and is very affectionate. Playfully teases, flirts and trys to get me to take part in her interests.

But no intamcy despite her saying she's interested. Worries about me and shows a level of caring.

She is quite emotionally closed of and slow to trust due to past experiences

[SueShe]

It is not because you could not yet get into her pants despite all your attempts that she is not interested.

She is simply taking all the precautions because don't forget, women are the ones that take every single risk and bear all the consequences when it comes to fornicating. Guys are usually the ones that do not want to take the most basic precautions.

She is the kind of person that needs to have all the securities on her side and she feels that the time has not yet come to assume all the risks related to copulating. I praise her for being reasonable and not to hurry things when there is no need to.

It seems that you are in a hurry to be intimate and that it bothers you to no end that she does not agree with your views.

Give her another 5 or 6 dates. There is no hurry.

[Asker]

When I say intamcy I don't strictly mean sex. We haven't even kissed just cuddle and in the early stages discussed sex a little

[SueShe]

Well, she is not in a hurry to get intimate. Cuddling is also a kind of intimacy.

[Asker]

Not am I. I am just trying to gauge interest

[Anonymous]

Some people require extra time. Have some patience.

[Guy13]

Shy and Insecure requires patience and minimal pressure.

[Guy13]

Do you really like this girl?

[Asker]

Yes. I like her a lot

[Guy13]

I don't know but you seem like a right fit... There's nothing like "I'm going to conquer a virgin piece" emanating from you.-One of those types get a hold of her and Damage from that type will be lingering. That hug from the or back, chin on clavicle is hot for shy girl etc.. I'm hopeful !!

[Asker]

I've liked her for a long time. I finally got my chance then something happened at her work that made her struggle emotionally. I took a backseat because I really do care. Now she's getting better and I'm not 100 percent sure where I stand

[Guy13]

Whatever you do be consistent. She does not need more wishy-washy. She is at a perfect place to decide for her and walk her through dating relationship. Hello !!! Silver platter handed to you. Be her "man-up" man...

[Asker]

How is the silver platter handed to me? We've just had our 3rd actual date. Do I now tell her it's time for a relationship or is that not walking her through it?

[Guy13]

Dude, make it happen or not. She obviously needs a strong shoulder and you are pissing the chance away. Silver platter... door couldn't be any more open... I mean damn...

[Avicenna]

Have you tried to be intimate with her?

[Asker]

No I'm not chasing that part as of yet. More just general intamcy e. g kissing or hand hold I'm happy to go slow I just don't understand where I'm at with her

[Avicenna]

Then you need to ask her directly