- So I have a cute girl with me at work and I have a huge crush on her and she knows it. I asked her out to hang out couple of times (cinema, eat out.. etc) nothing serious and she either says ok but never follows up or says she got no time.
- I stopped asking her then and she started to propose things for us to do together and when I ask her to.. she says no time or so.
- I know it is obvious now that she is not that interested but she always shows a great deal of interest either through text or at work when i start to walk away but then she’s cold/hot again. She text me a lot and spend great deal of time in work chatting but outside of work she always not there.
- What is the right move here? Should I just move on for good? Or should I wait her up?
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Honestly, it sounds like you put a good amount of effort into letting her know you're interested, which is amazing! I wish I was so lucky.
I understand being busy, but the fact that she keeps pulling you back when you walk away only to push you away again, sounds off.
Maybe she is busy, but I doubt she's too busy for a coffee or even grabbing a quick bite. If she really wanted to get to know you she would make an effort. I would move on.10
My personal advice is to stay away. I've dated a woman like this who was also a coworker. The hot/cold thing stemmed from messed up insecurities. She wasn't transparent with comminication which is why we broke up.
Then she filed a formal HR complaint on me for breaking up with her.
So yeah. Stay away.10
Would just leave her if she doesn't have time to spend with you outside work. Honestly it would be weird dating a coworker if it didn't work out.0
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Not worth the effort. Who needs more instability in life…10
Wait a while longer. Sometimes things don't happen right away.10
Well just communicate better with her. Call her instead, tell her you would like to get to know her and she is she's interested in doing so. If not then move on but communicate your intentions first and see where she stands. Maybe she is interested but isn't ready or is truly busy