Is she interested or not?

[Anonymous]

Hey,

There is a girl that I'm interested in, but I don't want to read the situation wrong.

She often places herself in my proximity. We can both be in a wide open public space, but somehow she will end up in my line of sight or a few feet away. Sometimes I'll be sitting down and she will cross right in front of me to the point that it startles me because I did not see her coming. She'll also pace back and forth right in front of me.

However, she NEVER looks at me, smiles or anything. She looks in my direction but her eyes are always looking above my head, over my ear, etc. It's like I'm right there but invisible to her even though she's looking in my direction.

I've heard that when a girl puts herself in your orbit that she may be attracted, but also know if a girl doesn't look at you that she's not attracted.

Please be honest is she possibly attracted or not?

[Ninania]

You're reading way too much into what may very well just be a coincidence. Just because you notice her doesn't mean she noticed you or did any of that on purpose.

[Asker]

I agree with you and I've thought about things from that perspective. Am I projecting my attraction onto her and then seeing things to fit my thinking.

My devil's advocate is that coincidence isn't numerous times. Coincidence is maybe once, twice, three times. This is ongoing where she ends up next to me in a large space. It's like being in a massive empty parking lot and someone parks right next to you.

I'm not a guy who thinks that everything a woman does means she likes you. I've actually missed out on plenty of signals always thinking no she didn't do that for me.

Even though you disagree, does my point at least make sense to you from a woman's perspective?

[Ninania]

Could be a number of different reasons that have nothing to do with you, though. I personally wouldn't take these actions as a sign unless the person actually approached me, even if they were on purpose. I don't fuck with hints or mind games, only direct actions and clear intent.

[Asker]

It can be so confusing for guys, because we are always told to pick up on subtle signals because girls rarely, if ever, approach. But I totally get your point.

I agree 100% with your last sentence!

[Ninania]

I may be biased cause I've had way too many experiences with guys thinking I was sending them subtle hints or signals when I was just existing in the same space as them, minding my own business.
My advice is that it's better to be sure than trying to interpret a stranger's actions.

[Asker]

I have never said a word to this girl, but in your experiences, did the guys approach you? How did you know they thought they were receiving subtle signs?

[Ninania]

Yes, I know because they told me that was the reason they thought to approach me. They assumed I wanted their attention through the "subtle hints" they had "picked up on" smh. 🙄

[Asker]

Ok got it.

But here's the thing, I'm sure that you have sent signals to guys that you were attracted to. How did it make you feel if that specific guy wasn't catching on?

[Ninania]

I don't send signals, I approach. Signals get lost in translation, direct communication rarely does.

[Asker]

Wish more were like you, it would make life much easier... lol!

[Anonymous]

Why do u like her

[Asker]

I find her physically attractive and like the way she carries herself.

[Opinion Owner]

How does she loook?

[Asker]

Good.

[Opinion Owner]

How tall are u both

[In_Trance]

Nope

[Asker]

So why always putting herself in my proximity?

[In_Trance]

She's bored