Do you text or call your significant other on the phone?

[ShadezMcgee]

Which one do you do or which one do you prefer?

Call

Text

[AmandaYVR]

We text. Very seldom, very briefly. For informational purposes only. Like what food to buy, or order, when one is on their way home, and maybe a logistical issue or q. But never just to check in, say hi, that kind of stuff. And so, text only, phonecalls wouldn't make sense, not necessary.

However, our second conversation ever was 11 hrs long. We went all night, and hung up because we had to go to work and school. We were really jiving, to say the least. After we eventually decided that we were going to try being in an LDR, we spent the next year on the phone, for hours, or at least an hour, most nights. (Using the free beta Google Voice.) I did not have a computer or cell phone at the time, so we were lucky to have that. (22 years ago.) I used computers, but didn'[t own either yet.

So, not exactly sure what is at the root of your q, but it depends on circumstances. I've done both, and they both have their benefits.

If you reaaaally want to get to know a person, voice is the way to go. But it is possible to get to know each othe really well, just over the written word. Some people are honest and take seriously, representing themselves reasonably accurately.

But once I'm in a relationship with someone, irl, I don't spend much time with on phones at all. I prefer large gaps in between, and save up communicating for when you see each other.

[ShadezMcgee]

See, I really like this response, Amanda. I feel like you understand the importance of communicating in relationships, but at the same time understand how to keep it functional minus use of a phone and lively.

I agree that giving space in between and talking face to face is the way to go to create and keep that connection going. Texting seems to have taken the front seat compared to old school phone calls and what not too. Kind of sad actually. I feel the phone should be used to set dates and call each other with intent in that part when getting to know each other, but when exclusive, I feel it is fair game to talk on the phone longer, especially if you won't see each other for a while.

Thanks for the reply

[AmandaYVR]

Thanks, Shadez.
Yeah I hear you. Totally agree. 👌

[DizzyDesii]

I dislike texts. Tell me good morning and good night but other than that, call me

[DaveJord]

I do both, and at times I like texting and then at others I like calling or getting calls. All depends on the circumstances.

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

I do both. I like long form conversations and discussing things over texts and phone

[NathanDavis]

both, but prefer and usually call

texting is for when you cannot call

[Twalli]

Both, I prefer call becasue I'm more invested ithe converation that way

[Midgetmcwidget]

Neither, I’m not significant or an other.

[JustinTheGreat]

Mostly text, but we call a lot too

[sirderpsalot123]

Both but we usually text.

[Nikki1989]

Nope, never.

[Kelly6]

What you mean never?

[Fuentes]

I be texting

[Kelly6]

Do both