How often do you text/call/FaceTime them in a day?
+1 yI'm a "meeter". I hate lengthy sessions of calls and texts expect to arrange to meet. That said, I made it rule after a point never to date girls who live more than a few train stops away (10-15 mins tops).
So I often dated 5+ times a week when I was single. We'd meet after work in our work clothes still for dinner and have lots of fun after. But if she called or texted me, I cut it off briefly every single time. "Let's meet at 6PM [hang up or, on text, end convo]."
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I encountered a post here from not just one but maybe two or three women saying guys like me are selfish for not wanting to text or call so much. But it is not selfishness that drives me. I have seen way too much miscommunication being a software dev over text and voice and even video that almost certainly wouldn't have occurred in person. When I date a girl, I want to make the best impression, and the best impression to me is not talking to her over text or voice or video where I'm bad and can't respond to her body language nearly as well as I normally can (I might even be particularly good at this, and one of the reasons I say on here that you can't tell who I am by how I write since I'm so much better in person than over writing, voice, text, or even video).
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I'd prefer to be more a surprise you in person kinda boyfriend.
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1.3K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Both Text and Call when LDR. Broke Up now so Nothing Now. lolxxoo
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+1 yWe live together so we usually just talk to each other in person. When not together, we either call or text, no preference.
10 Reply 4.5K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Call on speaker or mic mostly. Facetime if can. Both hate texting and email.
10 ReplyI'm single but I'd like to answer this anyway if you don't mind... 😆
My last relationship I didn't like texting, it stressed me out. Like being glued to my phone to see if he replied to me, I didn't want to keep him hanging if he did reply. That induced so much anxiety that I just hated texting and I never wanted to text. I preferred if he called me but I don't know if he was someone who would call on the phone so I forced myself to text him.
The last guy I talked to where we were just getting to know each other, I wanted to text him all the time. He texted me once every few hours and it also induced a little bit of anxiety for me. It made me feel like he was stringing me along since he wasn't responding to my text messages that often.
But I kept reminding myself he had a life I can't expect him to text me all the time. I wondered like should I text him I'm taking a day off texting just to give him and I a break since I could feel my anxiety piling up into suffocating levels and I knew I needed to distance myself too.
Though, I was afraid that would make him lose interest by doing that so I stayed in my turmoil not knowing what to do.
But I noticed a huge difference between the two. My last relationship I didn't really like the guy I was dating but for some reason I was with him. The last recent guy I talked to I was very into and I wanted to talk to him. So definitely a difference in interest levels I just discovered.
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i have decided i will not exchange numbers with the next person I get involved with.
we will set times and places like back in the day. the whole texting whatsapp protocol is killing relationships. - +1 y
@DermalPunch Yes!! That would be so cool! Let me know how that goes. That will also save you from needing to change your number if the guy turns out to be a creep.
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That is so funny you mention thaybI DID have to change my number. I just don't want all this anxiety and trauma of if he's online, who is he messaging with... why he hasn't answered. what status did he post. blah nlah blah.
+1 yI do it all honestly. We text, call, and FaceTime everyday as much as we can. We both get busy but whenever we get freetime we're checking in with each other.
My personal favorite is FaceTime or Calling tho. I love looking at him and being goofy together like we are when we're in person.10 Reply687 opinions shared on Relationships topic. I text when there's something small to say, but I almost always prefer phone calls and I want to hear a woman's voice. I'm old school like that. Phone calls feel more personable and make me feel a little closer to the person being able to hear human life on the other end.
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+1 yI have yet to get that far. I have different preferences depending on the person, but I don't know how that would translate over to a relationship. I often text my friend Marc with memes that I think are funny that he would also like. I usually call my friend Michelle as she doesn't do texting very well. Mom and I exchange texts a few days while we talk on the phone sporadically as she has fibromyalgia and is in a different time zone.
10 ReplyMy boyfriend and I are very much into communicating with each other. A day conversation is with the use of all gadgets or devices needed either through text or call. If not on videocall, then voicecall or text.
10 ReplyEven if I'm not in a relationship, but I still check on my bestie everytime and he checks on me too.
If I've not called for a sometime, he'll call and ask what is the problem
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+1 yAs for me I’m single & accepting applications & if I had a significant other & I was unable to talk to her face to face I rather call her to hear her lovely voice vs texting.
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+1 yCall by far because I can hear her and it feels more personal and intimate. I can do text, but I find that impersonal and it is mainly more convenient when I don't have time to do a call.
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+1 yI'd usually text, call when I know it's fair, Skype when it's special, and meet up when extra special. And share memes any time.
But I'd have to be officially with someone first.
10 ReplyI'd prefer to see them in person, but if that isn't an option, then video chatting, then voice calling, and lastly texting
Texting is probably my least favorite thing to do, but if I have to, I will10 Reply9.9K opinions shared on Relationships topic. We live together, so we rarely need phone calls.
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+1 yI text more but I still also call. It's just that if I call someone I'm normally going to talk for awhile.
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+1 yWe love together so we barely communicate with text or calls. Usually I'll text if I'm out or call if it's urgent
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+1 yI am single but I do enjoy texting or face timing.
10 Reply1.1K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Id pick 2 , but not to " check " on , so I can't tick that box..
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+1 yMe and my boyfriend text to stay in touch when we're not like face to face talking
10 Reply426 opinions shared on Relationships topic. Calling. too lazy to text. And I cannot concentrate when just texting.
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+1 yCall if it's important face time if working away otherwise text
20 Reply532 opinions shared on Relationships topic. Depends. If it is a quick yes or no question, I may text. Otherwise I'll call since she usually has questions.
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+1 ySorry. Single ATM. Before I would rather text but I'm not a phone person.
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+1 yId prefer in this order: facetime >>> text>>>>>>>> calling.
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Hehe the last option 😂
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What do you call them?
+1 yI call straight up if someones comfortable. If theyre busy id drop a message.
10 Reply1.4K opinions shared on Relationships topic. I'm single. But I usually text, I'm very shy so it's a bit hard for me.
10 Reply1.1K opinions shared on Relationships topic. I like silence 🔕 nothing to talk about on a call
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+1 ysignificant? what's so significant about them?
00 Reply My boyfriend and I are on FaceTime everyday, this is probably not healthy but we always have fun
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+1 yWhatever they are comfortable with.
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+1 ytext... I send dic pics
10 ReplyText AND call.
10 ReplyTexter. Hate calling
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+1 yTexter. It's easier and more discrete.
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+1 yText and call but mostly text
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+1 yi text the asshole every once in a while just to check up on her
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+1 yCalle
30 Reply Depends on the mood I am in
10 Reply11.2K opinions shared on Relationships topic. I’m both depends what she likes to do best
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+1 yWe usually ft
10 Reply991 opinions shared on Relationships topic. Text, with a little bit of FaceTime😂
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+1 yTexter. I’ve no telephone.
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+1 yI text my wife so she can respond at her leisure.
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+1 yI am a 60 texter 40 caller
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+1 yWhen I have an SO, I'm a texter and a caller.
10 Reply528 opinions shared on Relationships topic. Single, I text my best friend.
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+1 yTexting
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