Why is a Man who likes younger women framed as a "predatory creep", while younger women liking older men are always framed as "empowered"?

[genericname85]

it's not about my personal preference. i just read another quistion on the topic just now and wondered why there's this double standard.

like why is it not "predatory" for a young woman to specifically hunt for an older man?

[Finchie40]

Because we live in a judgmental world , everyone one has something to say and not everyone is going to agree with certain things , All that matters is you do what’s best for you , Fuck what everyone else says , I don’t hold age as a deciding factor when it comes to liking a girl , I consider myself wise enough to not do anything stupid so I wouldn’t go for an under legal age girl but if she is legal and we have amazing chemistry and connection that’s all that matters to me I have dated younger girls that were way more maturer then girls my age or older , so that’s all that matters , fuck what other people think , if it’s not your monkey and not your circus stay the fuck out of it , that’s the problem with this world , everyone can’t keep their noses out of anyone else’s business , people always have to get into other people’s business , worry about yourself , if you don’t agree with something stay the fuck away from it talk it over with the people that are in your circle , because the reality of it all it doesn’t mean shit , people are going to do what they want to do whether you agree with them or not , If they ask for your advice give them advice if they don’t ask for advice stay the fuck out of it it’s not your problem. people are always going to do dumb shit , that’s something they will have to learn on their own and suffer the consequences of their own actions. Whether they learn from it or keep continuing to do dumb shit that’s their problem not yours , the only time it should become
Your problem is if it’s affecting you or your family’s lives and your friends , the people that matter , other then that fuck everyone else. If a younger girl wants to be with an older guy so be it , if an older women wants to be with a younger male so be it , it’s not your problem

[genericname85]

i think that understanding the thought process of other people helps you a lot in navigating the society you live in by understanding how it works. it doesn't mean you'll accept, respect or even reproduce other peoples behavior or opinions. just knowing about them and how they works is important in my opinion.

[Finchie40]

Yes , we can learn off of other people’s choices but that comes down to you , what you choose to do is up to you , nobody else can make those decisions for you, No matter what we think is right there will always be a wrong , no matter what we think is positive there will always be a negative , where there is good there is bad , Life is what you choose to do not what other people tell you what to do or choose , we all make our own decisions in life and we all suffer the consequences of those decisions and actions that we choose to do , I choose to stay out of the shit , to me it’s wasted time and energy worrying about someone else’s life and decision , if it’s not affecting me in anyway I stay the fuck out of it , if I feel like voicing my opinion on something then I will not caring about whether other people agree with me or disagree with me , if they agree with me cool you think like I do , if not then so be it move on and find someone that does agree with what you think because when push comes to shove that’s all that matters in life

[NamerOfStars]

Small dog syndrome. See, in general, small dogs aren't actually prone to worse behavior than bigger dogs, but when they act up, it's seen as "cute" or "unimportant", since "it's not like they could actually HURT someone", so it gets ignored. It's pretty much the same with women.

Add in older women who feel they can't compete with younger ones in the looks department, and so try to keep their hold on their men SOCIALLY, by demonizing natural impulses, and you get that attitude.

[genericname85]

Well the worst men do to women is maybe bruise them. The worst women do to men is mentally cripple them for life.

[NamerOfStars]

Not hardly- why do you think domestic violence rates are so much higher among lesbian couples than straight ones, and so vanishingly rare amongst gay men? When you're never taught to restrain your violent impulses, you're a LOT more likely to indulge them. And a society where the two dominant ideas are traditionalism, preaching "women are above morality, but beneath contempt" and feminism, preaching "women are above reproach, but below accountability", you're not going to be taught self-control.

[NamerOfStars]

Not that you're wrong about the dangers and damages of MENTAL abuse; it's just that it's not limited to that.

[genericname85]

probably, cause those who have issues with their sexualty are more likely to have other mental illnesses. besides. i don't think anyone is ever taught to restrain their violent impulses. i certainly never was but i'm still not a violent person.

[genericname85]

i think generally there's more "violence" in the male gender role than in the female. and those who are gay or trans seem to overemphasize the traits of the opposite gender to compensate for their lack of physical traits.

that's why trans/gay men tend to be a caricature of what women actually are. way more flameboyant and colorful and overly "feminine". same with lesbian/trans vice versa.

[Explorer91]

I don’t see it this way. I see younger women who like older men in the exact same way. I once had a massive crush on my manager who was a lot older. And in the back of my head I was thinking what’s wrong with me this is so disturbing and creepy he is so old. So I think it just depends the people you listen to or talk to. I think it works both ways.

[genericname85]

well at least you don't have that double standard then :D i just see it a lot on here.

[soulbabe]

Speak for yourself I think older women who go for younger men are still creepy

[genericname85]

i'm not speaking for "myself". i'm speaking for what i'm observing on here. this was about younger women who go for older men.

[soulbabe]

I don't care either way still creepy

[genericname85]

ok. fair enough.

[soulbabe]

Women going after younger men is creepy women going after really old men is considered a gold digger

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Tell me about it. And don’t even get me started on the Facebook/general social media thing where a woman can say a little boy is cute and everyone sleeps but if a man said a little gorl is cute they all drive to every Big 5 in California to get some rifles, shoguns, and fishing rods ready and assembled. DIIIII SCRIMINATION

[JDavid25]

Men's sexuality has been seen as predatory for a while not, maybe even since the beginning of mankind.. Feminism exaggerated that bit of fear that women have always had of men's sexuality..

[genericname85]

yeah feminism can't be taken seriously. it should be considered to be the leftist extremist movement that it is and always was.

[JDavid25]

True, Unfortunately feminism has a low-key strong grip on our culture like the cancer that it is..

[genericname85]

well cause our culture is overall low key leftist extremist. at least the higher education strata.

[JDavid25]

Yes!.. Most definitely.. They have invaded most of not all institutions that can influence minds..

[genericname85]

well that's because people who are liberal will also mostly gravitate to educational or creative jobs. it's a viscious cycle.

[genericname85]

or the humanities... ask me how i know that humanities is full of libtards xD feels likre you're all alone as a conservative in the humanities.

[JDavid25]

Yeah, that makes sense.. It's the same with acting, full of far Left leaning people.. I feel that though.. Must have like you were in the valley of the shadow of death.. It's definitely a crazy cycle.. One that hopefully will be broken one day, but my hope is waning.. Lol..

[genericname85]

Well it will be broken. Once there's no money left for the ideological leftist fever dreams, conservatives take over. Which isn't always a good thing either as Hitler showed us.

[JDavid25]

Yeah, well a lot of Conservative commentators makes it seem like it'll be anyway now when the Leftist Utopia dream will come crashing down.. It's nice to give some hope, but a bit more realism helps balance things out. And Hitler was a racist, socialist, tyrannical, dictator.. I'd hardly call him a Conservative.. American Conservatives prefer to Conserve values more than anything..

[genericname85]

Well take a look at Hitler's family and social cohesion Views. He strengthened the core family and created community, purpose and belonging specially for younger people.

[genericname85]

If he wasn't a racist maniac placing to take over the world, he could actually have done pretty well for Germany.

[JDavid25]

True, makes sense, since a lot of Germany especially German women were Conservative at the time I think.. But I feel like Hitler was a product of an already hostel environment to the Jews.. Since the Jews were Capitalist middle men..

[genericname85]

yes. it's exactly what i was referring to before. upon years and years of wasting peoples money for leftist fantasies, there's gonna be an economic tipping point, where people are gonna follow whomever delivers them "a solution". and hitler did that. he offered a scapegoat in times of desparation and a plan to get out of the situation. not a good plan but a plan.

[Avicenna]

there's always someone who's going to be vocal about some topic or topics without actually thinking about them. The type of person you're talking about probably is critical of men in general.

[genericname85]

yeah it's funny tho that their idiotic outbursts find so much positive reinforcement while opposing opinions are silenced and morally supressed.

[genericname85]

not "funny". rather curious meaning i don't get it.

[Avicenna]

Consider who's giving the applause to such comments.

[genericname85]

it's not just on here. in the media too.

[Avicenna]

Agreed. But are the clowns in the media any more reasonable? Of course not.

[genericname85]

Well you know I kind of stated thinking this can't possibly be them being stupid. I think lot of it is inhumane social experiments. Just like this LGBTQ gender identity and BLM bullshit.

[Avicenna]

You're probably correct

[LazerBean]

I have never even once ever heard women liking older men being described as "empowering".

[genericname85]

well i've never heard anyone frown upon it. it's always a sort of "you go girl" situation.

[LazerBean]

If the man is around 10 years older, then I have not heard anyone make any sort of comment on it. But if the woman is after a man who is significantly older than the most often thing I have heard the woman being told is to be careful that he isn't just using them. So I have not found that to be true either.

[genericname85]

yeah "be careful". but like it's always sort of implied that the man may be exploitative or predatory. why is it that women are never thought about like that? i mean women certainly can be predatory and exploitative too in sexual/romantic contexts.

[LazerBean]

This website is full of men complaining that women are exploitive, so that is also not true.

But even that is beside the point, which is that your analysis is incorrect.

[LazerBean]

*Incorrect from what I have experienced

[genericname85]

my analysis is certainly not incorrect, cause i'm not saying anything about prevalence or frequency. i'm just speaking about a pheonomenon that demonstrably exists. you could say this is a rare side occurence that i'm paying too much attention to. i could agree on that even but i know i'm not "categorically wrong" with this.

[LazerBean]

If it is a rare side occurrence - which it is - then to say that "men who like younger women get framed as predatory and younger women liking older men are ALWAYS empowered" is incorrect.

And yes, you did say "always".

[genericname85]

well that was refering to that type of question on here and i litterally didn't see a single one on here where that wasn't the case but you're free to show me that i'm wrong.

i know in the more general society this isn't "always" the case. but in every question vaguely around this topic on here it is.

[ericclayton]

Generally, It's older males who seek younger women seen as "creepy" where as cougars are seen as "empowered". It's a compensating tactic for perceived injustice.

[genericname85]

naw dude. it's younger girls who intentionally and specifically look for older men too. this is not a one sided ordeal.

[TroyDT]

Maybe due to the perceived power dynamic. Big dog chasing a poor kitten vs. the cute little kitten choosing to rub up against big dog.

[genericname85]

yeah i don't buy into the "poor little kitten" analogy tho. more the big dog chasing a posionous snake. could end bad for either party.

[SunnyHeythere]

Where did you read it?

If they are underage it is understandable, but otherwise makes no sense

[genericname85]

i'm not talking about underage at all. but there's many (specially female) idiots on here who're bitter about their age or whatever who call a man a pedo, cause he's in his 30s or 40s and takes liking to a 20 year old. you will see these things a lot if you spend any ammount of time on here.

[BJP21]

One key factor into the equation. Violence against women.

[genericname85]

how is that a "key factor"? would a younger man be less violent towards a woman?

[BJP21]

@genericname85 Look at stats for violence against women whither its young or old.

[genericname85]

you can't look at a statistic and just make such conclusions. reality isn't that simplistic. there's many different variables involed. i don't see the conntection between the age differential and violence.

[toymollyota]

Women who like older men are often called gold diggers. They get a bad reputation for it.

[genericname85]

i think there's a difference between a gold digger and a girl who likes older guys. cause being old doesn't mean you're wealthy xD

[toymollyota]

Of course, but others don't know that. You say you're dating someone 20 years older they automatically think your some gold digger. Think of all the stars who have much younger partners, rod stewert for example, people won't say oh she's so empowered. no, they would say she's a gold digger.

[genericname85]

yeah. but that's celebs. they're rich xD so that it sort of makes sense to think it's about money or fame (which is probably often true which is why celeb relationships fail so much). it's different with your normal every day people.

[pizzalovershouse]

Depends on if under age

[genericname85]

what i've seen a lot is that people call these men (30-50) who like a girl who's like 18-24 "pedos" deven tho that's utter bullshit.

[pizzalovershouse]

But the girl has right to say get lost

[genericname85]

of course xD i'm not speaking about that situation at all. like why is it not ok for an older man to like a younger girl but for that same younger girl it's totally fine to like the older guy. makes no sense to me.

[pizzalovershouse]

Yah I had a post where a guy was marrying hisb18 year old God daughter she is 18 he is 48 how crazy

[genericname85]

well still. it's both of their choices. not his exclusively as people make it sound. as if he somehow made her do it.

[pizzalovershouse]

Probably cuz makes the guy seem like a teen perv

[magiusX26]

double standard