My 28 year old boyfriend says he feels like a loser because girls never found him attractive?

[Anonymous]

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I think he suffers from low self esteem

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What can I do to help though

[Anonymous]

Well you find him attractive and that says something. But he’s probably second guessing himself that you really find him attractive and only like him for other things.

I actually had this problem in my 20s. I was definitely a ugly duckling in my teen years and women treated me like crap. But then I got jacked in my 20s and started getting lots more attention. Was told I was cute/handsome all the time. But some early childhood experiences can linger in your mind given those are formative years.

[Avicenna]

Tell him that when a woman find a guy attractive she almost never tells him she dies, meaning some have without him knowing.

[Agagagagaga]

Ain’t that the truth. Women absolutely don’t know how to give compliments and if they think you are attractive it’s only something they ever tell their girlfriends. I could spend two months in a gym working out and show up with a pressed shirt and tie and polished shoes and the best I’d get—if they even said anything—would be, “Did you get your haircut?” 🤔

Thanks ladies. You really know how to build a man up.

[MoniqueTLC]

Low self-esteem and seeking validation externally. There's not much you can do other than just let him know that he is attractive, and you clearly see it because you're with him, but ultimately he needs to do some introspective work on himself and deal with his own confidence issues. He needs to see his own value within himself, nobody else can do it for him.

[Agagagagaga]

Every woman who posts pictures of themselves to fish for compliments is seeking external validation from low self esteem.

Do you recommend they do some introspective work on themselves and deal with their own confidence issues?

I think they should stop posting pictures of themselves and asking people if they cute or if their tits are big enough. They need to see the value within themselves, rather than asking for reassurance from others that they aren’t fat, flat, or fugly.

🤷‍♂️

[MoniqueTLC]

@Agagagagaga I agree with you, women do post pictures for external validation or for example they're not receiving enough attention from a certain someone so they'll look for it elsewhere. It's every one in this day and age, and not specific to a gender or type of person.
Some individuals are just not conscious of it, if you know what I mean.

[boggboss]

OK not really aure what your asking just let him feel loved from u I guess

[boggboss]

Clearly he does not much u can do but let him know how u feel about him

[Asker]

I wonder if he would dump me if I build his confidence up

[boggboss]

At that point your saying he is not a good boyfriend lol

[Asker]

Nah someone commented on this about it do it made me wonder

[Asker]

So it*

[boggboss]

Nobody but him can tell u if he would or wouldn't I would hope u picked a guy that wouldn't lol

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Give your boyfriend a blowjob & tell him everything will be ok.

[chicosuave]

why does he care about others opinion which he should only care about yours. he is insecure.

[Twalli]

Clearly you did. Maybe mention that to him. Obviously not all girls did, otherwise you wouldn't be dating him.

[Anonymous]

Notice how guys never say the same about not finding their purpose.

[richgentlem4n]

You're the girlfriend, are you not the woman who found him attractive?

[Anonymous]

Find him attractive. And maybe not say he has low self esteem.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he really is, you just love him too much

[Opinion Owner]

yeeaeaah h give thesteem maybe he dumps you after

[Asker]

Why would he do that

[Opinion Owner]

human nature, usually

[Asker]

Oh well I'll get someone else I have plenty options

[Anonymous]

I bet he suffers from low self esteem.

[Opinion Owner]

Do you remind him that you found you attractive?

[Asker]

Would he dump me if I build him up

[Opinion Owner]

What does your gut feeling tell you?

[Anonymous]

So he never had a girlfriend until he met you?

[Anonymous]

well he's probably right he probably is a loser