How would you go about talking to someone at the gym if you wanted to get to know them?

[Anonymous]

i recently went back to my gym , noticed a couple different girls there of interest. but i'm not really sure how to talk to them if i should try and talk to them at all.

had mixed results when trying to talk to girls there before , this one girl i knew as she worked as a server at this place i went too and she was ok with me talking to her but still a little awkward. another girl just blew me off entirely , had seen her there a few times prior and had liked her.

so kind of going about this cautiously if i do say something , girls too that notice me and seem perhaps interested but we never like end up speaking

this gym also doesn't have group classes or anything like that where it be easier to talk to someone , also kind of like to be selective about this , don't want to go around the gym and be seen as hitting on everyone obviously like to keep it to just the main people i wanted to meet but realise if there not into it don't want to be a bother

[Twalli]

Just start a conversation with them. If their responses are monosybolic or curt, decide they don't want to talk to you. Be friendly first. Maybe just say hello to them every time you see them for a while so they don't find it weird or creepy. Be their gym aquantance, then make moves when they're comfortable with you talking to them.

[Asker]

well agree its key to talk to them somehow , that kind of what i tried to do in the spring with that first girl but things just sort of dragged on and never went anywhere. some i haven't really talked to before so be starting from very little

[Twalli]

All relationships, friendships, or otherwise start from nothing.

[Asker]

bu all we have to go on is that we go to the same gym and live in the same area

[Twalli]

Yes, which is enough to start a cordial relationship.

[avaisfree]

Haha I just wouldn't and I would never want a guy to hit on me at a gym either. It would feel like blackmail because if I reject the guy then I'll feel uncomfortable every time I go back there.

[Asker]

i know thats what happened with that other girl i mentioned although she still goes there i saw her there once last week

but is still one of those things , if the girl wants to meet me and likes it , it would be ok and could lead somewhere

but agree if it goes wrong , obviously be awkward when we see each other there

[Asker]

but in a place my size ( 20,000 ) you could still run into someone at the gym who you rejected somewhere else. we only have 1 main gym and a couple smaller ones so you could see someone from elsewhere.

its also possible even if she intially say yes and ok with me being around , it gets awkward when she see's me a second time if she decides to not want to see me again. cause she'll know i like her and be an expectation we spend time together or talk i've had that happen at bars