Should I ask this girl to go camping with me?

[Anonymous]

She broke up with her boyfriend about a month ago, and a few weeks before that, when we were getting to know each other, she found out I like to camp and she did too. Told me she thinks I could be "a guy she goes camping with". We've been a bit flirty but I really like what she said here, and I have a camping trip coming up, should I just ask her to come with and see what happens? Since she showed interest in that

[Anonymous]

Is that all it takes? A woman merely has to hint at something and a man will decide to give her his time, attention, and access to his personal hobbies? As far as I'm concerned, this is where men always go wrong. Too easy, too accessible, too desperate and never qualifying a woman to see if she's worth it, or even expecting her to put some level of effort into it. I see her comment as lame and safe.

Also think about it. A few weeks before she broke up with her boyfriend she was already hinting at going camping with another man. This is very poor form, disloyal, and disrespectful.

As far as I'm concerned, a woman needs to do a lot more than make some semi vague suggestion while still being involved with another man in order to have my time and attention!

[Asker]

Well there have been other things, just didn't want to make a long post. She asked me out for drinks after her breakup and had her hands all over me. She's been weird since then but we still talk, and flirt a bit. Breakups are not easy so I'm giving her some time and space, and thought the camping idea would be nice, since she already showed interest in that.

She was having issues with the ex and she's told me about it, how he didn't respect her boundaries and whatnot. She also told me she'd never cheat- I don't think she was referring to cheating with me, just making a comment about the situation and why they broke up.

[slatyb]

Yes, you should. You might try asking her to dinner first.

[Asker]

She hates dinner dates though. Was thinking something outdoorsy like a picnic outside, before going in to the camping details

[slatyb]

Anything less committal -- a picnic would be fine.

[Asker]

Alright so I'll talk about the camping trip but head into inviting her for a picnic over the weekend

[boggboss]

Ask her sure

[Asker]

If she's not down, should I try a more proper date scenario?

[Asker]

She did tell me one time we went out together that she doesn't like regular date, like her ex was taking her on, movies and dinner, etc. Which is why I feel starting with camping, and something she showed interest in, is best

[boggboss]

Yeah maybe