Why don't people?

[Wolfynight]

Why don't people think it's important to wait until marriage. Or why are guys kinda dismissive when a girl suggest it?

[misogynistic_pig]

Virginity in marriage was successful when casual sex was hard to come by, that's why it was easier for men to get married and ensure sex for life, after the legalization of contraceptives and divorce, sex is cheaper and easier, since women are much more promiscuous, that's why men don't waste their money and time in marriage, only beta men get married nowadays.

In the modern Western context, marriage is a system of legalized prostitution whereby a man bribes a woman with food/drink, shelter, emotional security, job security, transportation service, an expensive ring, and a lavish wedding.

[Wolfynight]

damnnnn

[D-Pad_Chad]

I hate to say it, but he's right. Either the "nice guy's" taking women who want to settle after being hoes from 18-30 than at 30 they look for the nice guy, but even then they long for Chad or Tyrone, ironically my name is Chad so awkward for me lol.

Couple this with western divorce and family courts that incentivise women to leave their husband's. Most men don't see any positive to get married and all negative.

[Wolfynight]

@D-Pad_Chad
yea.. i get that, ig i just need to look in the right places

[D-Pad_Chad]

What does place have to do with it? Statistically men have been legally screwed in marriage, that doesn't change if they're met in a bar or by a car. That won't change if they're near or far. If you want a husband you better show him your a wife.

[Wolfynight]

@D-Pad_Chad yea, i get that too, i just mean look for the guy I like and that have similar morals ig,

[D-Pad_Chad]

Ah gotcha. Well a bar is going to have drunks. Religious establishments like churches will have men of moral fiber, gamers and the like will be at conventions & gaming lobbies. Fitness enthusiasts will be at gyms.

[Wolfynight]

@D-Pad_Chad
yea, i was thinking of looking into my church, but tbh.. i'm not exactly a saint lmao, I have very kinky freaky thoughts, but don't plan to act on them till i'm married... and I don't know what kinda girl that makes me, or what kinda guy it attracts?

[D-Pad_Chad]

It's normal. Kinkd aren't what attracts men of value It's the things outside the bedroom. The bedroom is important too. You might do well asking or looking up the question "what men like in a woman" and see how you measure up against the general concensus.

[Wolfynight]

@D-Pad_Chad
ohhh, yea that could be my next question or so, thnxs you are helpful!

[D-Pad_Chad]

Youtube can help as well. Although I will caution you men don't play games and we are straight to the point. So just because answers might be direct doesn't mean they're bitter or coming from a place of malice. Even if some are it may not make the responses any less true. Things to weigh in your mind.

[D-Pad_Chad]

Also you're very welcome.

[Anonymous]

Because most people (this includes women) today look at marriage as temporary. People today can't even conceive of committing to someone for a lifetime. And guys know marry a woman that will ultimately flake on him will have deep financial ramifications. And as you get older the more destructive marrying the wrong woman can be.

[Wolfynight]

hoes ruin it for girls who want it

[Opinion Owner]

Aye. And unfortunately they don't come with name tags that say "hi, I'm a hoe". That's why a guys only defense is a long vetting process. If she is a hoe she won't be able to hide it forever.

[Opinion Owner]

And it's double bad for women. Because guys know hoes will sleep with them without any kind of commitment. So it teaches guys they don't have to commit. And then they erroneously think all women are like that. Or that those those that don't are worth the wait. When generally the opposite is true.

[Wolfynight]

yea, i want commitment cause i don't wanna be a hoe, or have a man hoe as a boyfriend

[Opinion Owner]

The problem you're most likely going to have is young men don't fully get commitment. It's not that they're not capable of it. But young guys put far too much emphasis on the physical. They want the most attractive girl they can get. As though that were the complete measurement of her quality 🤣. So I guess what I'm saying it they're capable of it. It's just hard getting them to see the benefit. As I'm sure you've heard guys mature slower than women. If these guys understood how good women don't stay single for long, they're usually the first one married off. These guys would be trying to lock these women down as soon as possible.
So I guess that's the positive I have for you. If you're a good woman. Some good guy is going to see it. That I promise you.

[Wolfynight]

thank you, it's amazing hoe bad peoples morals are today

[Summeroflove]

Well there are both men and women who are like this. I think that some people just don't want to have morals or anything meaningful. If a guy does not respect a person's boundaries or a woman for that matter. They keep pushing something. Then it is time to let that person go and move onto the next.

If someone is really interested in something with someone and a future then they will respect one another's boundaries and if something is a big problem maybe it is just not meant to be and they should stop wasting each other's time.

[SiberFox]

Because enough women are giving it away for next to nothing, making the majority of guys see waiting until marriage as a scam. Why should he work hard and wait for something that she very well could have given away freely to a guy who didn't work half as hard as that? Or get a girl who won't make him work as hard or wait?
Women cause problems for other women.
Queue the angry women on this website who don't want to be held accountable for their poor decision and past mistakes.

[Wolfynight]

well i get that... it's just giving it away for free don't ift, andi feel if you really love someone the way you say, then waiting for them is worth it

[Aus84]

Cause Its not important. Marriage is a signed piece of paper. Knowing your partners sexual desires / boundaries and knowing you're compatible with someone you're planning to spend the rest of your life with is a lot more healhier and better in so many ways.

[BJP21]

Ill agree with you on that many guys do; however, in the mean time, I would educate yourself on proper sex initiations for both male and female. You will thank me later. Study things like Kama Sutra which is the text book of proper sexual technique and disiplins when that time comes after marriage.

[Berethor]

Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? there are a lot of hos nowadays.

[WhitneySnow]

I agree with you. I’m not sure I’m gonna wait till marriage but I’m def not ready yet.

[Anonymous]

Guys can’t wait because they need sex more than women, why wait for something so good to share

[Bethany22]

I wish more people thought like you

[Wolfynight]

Oh? thank you. tbh i have a struggle to keep in that mindset.. but i think that's something i should stick to

[Iron_Man]

Yes, they should wait until after marriage

[In_Trance]

Because to a lot of people it's not important