Want to sit on boyfriends lap but not lead to anything further? How do I initiate it?

[Anonymous]

Basically i would like to either sit on his lap, not facing him, or lay down in between his legs and cuddle, but i don’t want him too seem as if we’re going further than that and whilst he woudlnt act on it, also how do i sit on his lap withou fit being odd , most of the time we are laying down/ sitting on a sofa/bed next to each other. i read and apparently it’s common for guys too get excited with this so what do i do if he does?

[quaranta]

In a relationship, you should be free to do what you actually want to do, and to trust your boyfriend enough to communicate with him about that.
If you want to sit on his lap, you can just actually sit there without any "intro".
If you see he activates himself to get sexual and you don't want to go there, you just have to tell him you didn't mean it that way or are not in that mood.
If he gets aroused, that's "his" problem, you are not expected to do anything with that, unless you actually want. He may ask, or try, but if you don't want you just have to say you don't.
Things should be this easy in any relationship, no guesswork or things that risk to get not consensual. Any couple is different so there is no "script" to follow, you are not expected to do something you didn't announce before, and in any case you can always say "no" anytime you want. If he loves you he respects you as well and will agree for the "no" automatically. If he doesn't respect your "no", then that's not a healthy relationship for you.

[Jamie05rhs]

So you plop your pussy on his dick; and then if he gets aroused it's HIS problem? Get the f outta here...

[quaranta]

@Jamie05rhs I used the "", you can get the meaning if you read it in context

[Jamie05rhs]

@quaranta I know what you're saying, and I agree with you on that part.
The part that I disagree with is just the premise that a woman can touch a man sexually and not expect him to get aroused.

[quaranta]

@Jamie05rhs He can get aroused for sure, here the point is that it looks like she thinks that if the guy gets aroused then she has to do something with it as a consequence, as if it's expected or obvious

[Jamie05rhs]

@quaranta Yeah; I'm 100% with you on that. We are in agreement on that point, for sure.

[Summeroflove]

I understand. Just do it. If your relationship is innocent and not sexual and you’re waiting. He should understand boundaries and I’d he did do something. Make it clear you want it to be innocent.

[slatyb]

Ask him. Can I sit in you lap? If he gets too aggressive just say no.

[Anonymous]

Just ask him, and trust me, if he likes you, then he won't say no, lol.

[Asker]

if he got excited then do i just stay sat there or do i move?

[Opinion Owner]

Stay if you feel comfortable. :)

[Twalli]

my girlfriend lays against me all the time and sometimes on my lap. I generally don't get hard because it's romantic, not sexual.

[Jamie05rhs]

You can't. It's Impossible. Don't even try it. You're playing with fire.

[boggboss]

All u can do is tell him u don't want to do more

[boggboss]

And yes its somthing guys would get excited with

[Asker]

so do i just stay sitting there? or what?

[SyoZonE]

He will probably be excited , sorry there is no escape. You shouldn't sit if you don't want to.

[FunkyMonkee]

Just tell him so.

[Guardian45]

Tie him down