Girls, Why can't I find the girl I like?

[Sreekantta]

[SueShe]

You are the only one that can help that situation.

In order to have friends or a girlfriend, you must be pro-active and find friends. They will not just pop up in your life without you being involved in the relation. Best is to join a club, take a hobby where you can meet people with similar interests.

If you are good at one specific occupation, then see if you can find a club or place where others meet that share that passion. The rest will just fall automatically into place. Sharing the same interests with a person is always a good start to get to know that person better because you have common grounds.

But you have to work on yourself first. That would include shyness and social anxiety.

You can train your approach, your attitude and expression in front of a mirror for example. Think of what message you want to bring across and rehearse it until you are satisfied. The next step is the most difficult one and that is the one where you have to put in practice what you learned and rehearsed.

But without you wanting and acting upon it, nothing will ever happen. You have to get out of your comfort zone for it to happen. The most important is not to be afraid to fail. If you are rejected, get back onto your feet and try again.

[PrettyPriya]

That is hard to answer with no context to the question at all. Why don't you think you can find a girl that you like? Are you too picky? Are you not getting out there and meeting girls? You see how this is hard to answer.

What I suggest to users on this site is to look in your local area for activity clubs and groups that interest you. If you find one, join it. You will meet likeminded people that share an interest, including girls. Plus, you get to do something you are interested in and enjoy.

Just because you haven't found her yet doesn't mean she isn't out there somewhere. Trying to force a relationship is never a good idea. You just seem to be not meeting the right girls. Though, without context, I have no idea for sure.

You may want to use the update box and update the question with some more information that better helps us answer that question. If you do, I will revise my opinion accordingly.

[Bethany22]

What kind of girl do you like?

[AsaKyo]

- Standards are too high
- They might be too low and you're getting low end hoes
- You might just not be their type
- You may be trying too hard
- Might be the way you dress
- Might have an unlikable personality

I'm just guessing here cause' I don't know man

[TrueConfection]

Whee did you last see her? 🤓