How to not be creepy with girls?

[XhmadRooz]

I know the first requisite is to sent friend request without asking hr if it is OK. What are other criteria for not being a creepy boy/man?

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Sorry there are a couple grammatical errors.1) not to sent friend request2) her

[DrBanana]

Ok I’ll give a few reference points to help and maybe point you in the right direction I hope.


1. Dress well/clean - humans process a lot of data and if you look well put together and clean ( depending on the situation) you will be though as more stable an nicer as a person generally. You don’t have to wear all Gucci suit with a Rolex. Make sure your close are neat/ clean and not full of holes.


2. Have confidence NOT arrogance - to be being confident is being able to feel comfortable in your own skin, people will pick up on it if you feel nervous and it may make them a little nervous or have their guard up around you. Just be on the moment and go about your day. If you make eye contact you don’t have to stare any one down just give a friendly no and small smile before breaking eye contact and maybe even an hello.


3. No sexual jokes off the bat - ok so around most people no sexual jokes or anything crude until you get there sense of humour you can maybe google a few other generic jokes or even make a good comment about a situation people are in ( also no politics).


4. Wording is key - using words also brings power and intent to a conversation. There is a major difference between saying something like “ oh your hot as sh@&£t ! Let’s f@£:&k !!” And “ I’m just looking for something casual at the moment if you are interested, if not I totally understand and respect that”


As a random example ( not my best I know working off the improv here haha)


5. Just be friends with girls - when some guys ( not saying you per say) but some just think about women and what’s attached to their bodies. Don’t hit on everyone you see be friends ( genuinely) with them this will help you to talk to girls more and understand their social dynamics, also helps to socialise and network from a social point of view.


6. Do Not touch - touching another is like me placing my hands all over your stuff you don’t want some one to touch. If you want to break the touch barrier start small with a hand shake, fist bump, high five that sorta thing.


If you get to the hugging stage offer do not force a hug on them.


7. Read the room - before you try talking to some one look around and see if they are doing anything like are they busy? Having a blast for some one else see what is going on in the moment.


8. Have good body language and posture - having good body language and posture can help you look more positive and approachable.


9. Don’t box them in - as an example don’t put them in a corner and make them feel there is not an option of to leave a conversation or situation. So what where your standing and respect distance boundaries while be understanding of where you are in the physical presence as well as the social presence.


E. g if a person feels backed into a corner a persons brain will scramble and look for a way out.


Well have a little brain storm there and that’s what’s came out.


Use what is useful and discard the rest my friend and good luck.

[inhua]

step 1) be as physically attractive as possible and pass her bare minimum standards. the more attractive you are, the easier she will make it for you to attract her. the less attractive you are, the less margin of error for mistakes you have, if she doesn't find you attractive at all, there's nothing that can done. you can't talk your way into attraction.

step 2) toughen up a bit. appearing scared and nervous would give the impression you have something to hide even if you don't have anything to hide. also it can ward off other dudes.

step 3) speak qualitatively and quantitatively in accordance to her body language. some things are a no go i. e. death or rape threat. do the same for certain actions like flirting or sexual remarks.

3 seconds is all it takes for a woman to categorize you as in either the "don't go away" zone, the "I can tolerate" zone or the "fuck off or I'll call the cops" zone. if you pass step 1, then step 2 and 3 will boil down to strategy and luck.