What would you do if you found out your boyfriend had a gay past?

[Anonymous]

[Starbers99]

If you mean fully gay then it would be an outright no for me. If you mean bisexual and you're young and just looking for fun, fair enough but if you have feelings for this person and might want to get serious with him, potentially have a real future, kids etc. further down the line, I would be careful. Personally I look for security and stability and I don't think I would find that in someone who could potentially be attracted to anyone. I know straight relationships can be the same but from what I've seen, bisexual men often ultimately end up with men and bisexual women ultimately end up with women. Both sexes are wired differently physiologically so it can't be helped. Your life, your choice obviously but I know it would completely put me off knowing that.

[BlueScorpio]

I'm sorry but that would be deal breaker. I'm not interested in men who sleep with or are attracted to other men. We can be friends but knowing he was sexual with other men is a turn off.

[WonderBell99]

As long as he is bisexual and still attracted to me, I don’t care!

[DubiousIntentions]

So basically, you don't mind a cheater who cannot be fully committed to you alone? Surely you have more respect for yourself than that.

[Asker]

@DubiousIntentions why would you connect someones PAST to cheating?

[WonderBell99]

@DubiousIntentions Uh the asker never mentioned anything about cheating. Read the question before you make any assumptions. Surely, you have more intelligence than this.

[WonderBell99]

Gay “PAST”. So if he is with me, he’s obviously bisexual.

If you’re against bisexuals, just eff off already. I don’t need your stupidity this early in the morning.

[DubiousIntentions]

If you have sexual relations with anyone else while in a relationship you are cheating, bisexual or otherwise. Seeing the success rates of relationships anymore why would you go with someone who may have the propensity to jump ship for the other sex? I might point out that gays can be very jealous.

[WonderBell99]

@DubiousIntentions Obviously, you’re speaking as though I’m unaware of what cheating is.

Just because someone is bisexual does not mean that they would be unfaithful. Lots of straight people are unfaithful too… that does not prevent you from going out with heterosexual men, does it?

[DubiousIntentions]

@WonderBell99 If I knew about their past it certainly might. You have no concerns about anyone's past? Like what if they had been in jail for date rape?

[WonderBell99]

@DubiousIntentions Bad comparison. Do better next time.

[DubiousIntentions]

It is good enough of a comparison to illustrate my point.

[WonderBell99]

@DubiousIntentions Nope, just makes you sound dense

[DubiousIntentions]

Probably compared to your standards. How are they working out for you?

[londonlocal]

Doesn’t matter to me. He’s with me in the moment and we can probably end up telling stories about our exes like I would with any boyfriend. If he’s bisexual, he’s bisexual. If he’s straight, he’s straight. If he’s gay, he’s just my friend. Simple.

[DubiousIntentions]

So you are willing to settle for whatever you get? And then girls on here wonder why guys can't be faithful. Doesn't matter what gender/whatever they like. You're in. Like what?

[Asker]

@DubiousIntentions Why is it settling? Are you hinting that it devalues someone?

[DubiousIntentions]

I'm talking about bisexuals. Would a straight person settle for a bisexual because she hasn't met the right straight person yet?

[Asker]

@DubiousIntentions Why would someone being Bi be something to settle over? It seems like you're using a value system without realizing it.

[DubiousIntentions]

Anyone who would settle on a bisexual is either bisexual themself, or are hoping (such as a guy) that they will get into some threesomes.

[DubiousIntentions]

If they had a gay past there is a possibility that that persuasion is still there, or at least maybe bi. I would not be interested if he were either.

[Sour-rose]

"That's nice, hun... Jesus chr- (friend), wtf are you doing? There is an enemy coming! I told you not to pop a shield cell, we're going to fartin' die because of your dumbass!"

[Faith18letsgo]

Honestly I would be happy. Means he gets being on the receiving end of the male gaze and other bullshit. I respect guys who can really follow their hearts.

[SassyAussieAddy]

A gay past or he is Bi. If he's gay id wonder why he is with me. If just Bi then there's no issue as I am Bi as well

[DubiousIntentions]

Hell, every girl on here says she is bi. There are more bi girls than bi guys it seems. I can see some cat fights coming up over these guys.

[Revvl]

I'd encourage him to continue down that path while I slipped out the back, Jack.

[sheikalana]

That means he's gay and I would wonder why is he with me?

[Strangerdanger2120]

Yes. Honestly I don't want to hear about their past loves regardless of gender

[Anonymous]

It wouldn't bother me. His past is none of my business anyway.

[lorenagshi]

I don't know I wouldn't really care about it... if he liked men before that's totally fine and understandable and if he likes women (or both) now I'm fully supportive

[watercolor_lions]

Nothing. It's in the past.

[TrueConfection]

Get tested for AIDS and Monkeypox?

[Ms_Facesitter]

Feel even better about myself.

[AsaKyo]

Would probably be no longer interested

[BrookeAZ90]

No big deal