OK man what are you truly looking for in a woman?

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I don’t mean the basic skills test because let’s face it cooking and cleaning are essential for any human to do. Because as a single person avg 28, you should be able to sustain yourself. Especially if you have children now and coparenting.

What do you like about women?
What are some traits?
What type of morals and values should she have?
Is financial stability a thing for you as a man?
Is age really a big factor?
does having children or not having children affect your decision
what is your biggest fear in approaching a woman besides rejection?

YourFavoriteFriend · Accepted Answer

What do you like about women? EVERYTHING! I mean, yeah some things piss me off but I love the fact that they are not men. I mean, don't get my wrong. I love my male friends but women are just different and other than my mother, I rarely interact with one so I love the fact that they are something different. What are some traits? Necessary: Is able to cook to a basic level Takes care of herself Isn't someone who is "stuck" to her own ideas and ways and doesn't want to talk and consider alternatives of working and leaving together Doesn't smoke Haven't done any kind of sexual work in the past (could miss but I would probably avoid her) Didn't had a body count of more than 5 in her 30s (could have more tho but I would tolerate less things in this case) Doesn't have any serious mental problems (like been bat-shit insane...) Wants to have sex (cause I know some young girls don't) Makes me feel (mentally) safe and in peace. So doesn't make me feel jealous and like my needs and feelings doesn't get through and are ignored Doesn't have annoying parents that will not like me and that I'll have to deal with Isn't in dept (maybe I wouldn't mind if I was rich and was a small dept but still better not) Haven't cheat an ex partner And a couple of other things that I cannot think now but are probably rare to happen/not happen. Would be appreciated: Been a virgin Wants to have a lot of sex and experiment on it Is extra kind and sweet Has a very fit and sexy body Wants to spend a lot of time with me and enjoys my company Match in every decision What type of morals and values should she have? She must be a kind and loving person. Is financial stability a thing for you as a man? Like I said, I don't want her to be in dept but I don't care if she has a lot of money as well. At this point in my life, I live with my parents so If she wants to live together, she'll have to also find a basic job and pay 50-50. But I'm fine. Is age really a big factor? Yes! I would prefer a cute and young girl but I would also consider try with an older woman. But if I had to choose, I would probably choose the younger one unless the older one had any very unique traits that the younger one didn't. does having children or not having children affect your decision Yes! I would 99% of times avoid a single mother. what is your biggest fear in approaching a woman besides rejection? I do not "fear" rejection. My biggest real fear would be that after I finally find a relationship, it will not be as I wanted it to be and I'll get disappointed and sad and want to break up. If I had to guess, I would say that this is probably more common that I think...

VanillaSalt · Accepted Answer

Not enough space to give all that…

Priority wise I want someone focused on the home and family. I don’t like career women because they have less time and energy to give for family. It forces me to focus on the things I don’t like.

Age is an issue. Both for me and her. I don’t wanna be 50 by time my child’s an adult. The older she gets the hard it is to have kids and the higher the chance of issues for both her and the baby. Furthermore the older we get the more experiences, both positive and negative, we have. She and I will have more partners to compare each other to. This means competing with the best of years of partners and suffering how the ones that came before mistreated us.

Traits and morals and foundations are dependent on the person both me and her. You be you I’ll be me and we’ll look for what we want so k owing what I want don’t help you and knowing what you want don’t help me… Find your own foundation both in what you want and who you are. When you find a partner worth knowing then compare foundations. Finding a compatible partner is all about foundation and chemistry.

Sucks to say but her having kids that arnt mine is an issue. Sacrificing for my own kids is one thing but asking me to sacrifice for someone else’s is she has less time for me and my actual kids. More cost on me. Furthermore it shows a possible habit of bad choices.

I haven’t even a slight fear of approaching or rejection. I’ve come to expect it but I still pursue simply for the interaction. Women think it’s based off fear but it might just be we haven’t a clue what to do to get good results. And to be frank if the results arnt good then not only are they a waste of time. Why create drama when failures expected and the potential gain is low especially if you believe there’s only a limited numbers of compatible partners for you?

I’m not sure what you mean by financial stability for men as a man. I don’t need financial stability of a woman coming into my home because I bring it. If she has it already then it shows good financial choices which is good. But again I don’t want a woman that works 40+ hours a week and can’t stay home for children or family.

Lionman95 · Answer

I basically look for a partner for a partner in life. I like about women that they often have different perspective and a different on life. Women often have a better sense for what fits together and what looks good in terms of interior and decoration. I love their kindness and attentiveness and that women are more open to talk about certain topics without showing a sign of judgement.

Besides that character traits I love are a good humor, intelligence and a passion for something.

Because I´m a Christian, she also should be one. The problem with dating people of other religions is that different cultures have different holidays and that could become a cause of arguements so I want to avoid that.

Financially stability is important to me but there are exceptions to it like debt because of raising costs for basic parts of life like food or because she had to paid high amounts of money for her education. I just want to avoid a woman that has highly expensive hobbies she can´t pay for her alone or is addicted to something.

Age is a factor to me since I´d prefer a woman that´s not more than 5-6 years younger or older because I´d like us to be in one generation since that helps me to connect with her.

Currently I´m not planning to have children because I´m not good with babies or young kids but that could change in the future.

I wouldn´t call it a fear but I´m generally not good at starting a conversation with people in general so my problems are not only focused on women. For me the bigger problems that I fear a rejection the problem is rather that I´m not good at starting a conversation without making it look weird and make me look like a fool.

Another problem I have with approaching women is that I´m not into clubbing, I´m no part of night-life, I don´t use social media as much as many other people do. I don´t have instagram or snapchat. The last time I posted something on Facebook Corona was only known as a mexican beer company and not connected to a virus.

When I´m out, I´m so much in a rush that I rarely think of dating or ask myself what women I find attractive and I could approach her. Most of the women in my social circle are taken or married.

MCheetah · Answer

This is asked a lot on GAG, which is why I have a copy of this already made.

What type of morals and values should she have?

PERSONALITY:
1. Kind/positive
2. Loyal/faithful
3. Classy/ladylike
4. Accepting/nonjudgmental
5. Open-minded
6. Intelligent
7. Strong sense of humor
8. Strong work ethic
9. Patient; not easily offended or bothered
10. Respectful
11. Politically moderate (not too liberal or conservative)
12. Strictly heterosexual and monogamous
13. (Optional) Artistic
14. (Optional) Nerdy; into video games or superheroes

What are some traits [should she have]?

PHYSICAL:
15. Tall: 5'10" to 6'5"
16. Curvaceous; big boobs, big booty, thick thighs, etc.
17. Feminine style
18. Great smile and good teeth
19. (Optional) Redhead (or strawberry blonde, or blonde)
20. (Optional) Young: Between 23 to 30 is ideal

What do you like about women?
It's not most women who have this, most definitely, but I like women who are kind, caring, and empathetic.

Is financial stability a thing for you as a man?No. Literally only women care about money in a partner, since most women, even if wealthy, wouldn't share their wealth with a man anyway. So men do not look for, nor care about money, when looking for women.

Is age really a big factor?
Between 23 and 30 is ideal, but I'd probably date as old as 39 assuming she doesn't look and act her age, and no one younger than 21.

Does having children or not having children affect your decision?
Yes. I'm not interested in single (or married) moms.

What is your biggest fear in approaching a woman besides rejection?
She lies or misrepresents what she is, such as being born male, being a political extremist, or not actually being straight/hetero (queer; "bisexual," "pan," etc.) Those are very much all dealbreakers.

D-Pad_Chad · Answer

• What do you like about women?
A: I honestly couldn't tell you, everyone is their own person so I can't really say in general

• What are some traits?
A:
1. Healthy weight (under 200)
2. Doube Ds (preferred, natural)
3. Gamer
4. Cooks & Cleans (or we split chores if we're both working.)
6. Same value system as me (conservative-Christian)
7. Wants children
8. Doesn't currently have children.
9. Enjoys comedy & can take a joke.
10. No social media or willing to get off it (unless for business use)
11. No drama/isn't combative
12. Loyal
13. Monogamous
14. Virgin preferred (body count under 5 a must)

• What type of morals and values should she have?
A: it varies from man to man, but to me conservative Christian.

• Is financial stability a thing for you as a man?
A: 🤣 this one never gets old. No, men don't care about a woman's finances or job, we know it's nothing we'll have access to so it's irrelevant.

• Is age really a big factor?
A: 30-32 is the cut off age, tbh 28 is pushing it.

• does having children or not having children affect your decision
A: children are a deal breaker.

• what is your biggest fear in approaching a
woman besides rejection?
A: that's a leap to presume fear. In my case, I've got more important things to do.

Regardless of how someone feels about my post is irrelevant, this is how it is. You can either get on the bus or stay, but I'm driving 😆

SonOfPiper · Answer

I love a woman who confides in me, she trusts me with information  that I can use against her but does it anyway. In this life being able to open up and tap into each others minds is a life goal since everyone around us has a block. Of course I have to convince her but It puts all my attention unto that person when we get through that barrier.  Plus having a woman be extremely feminine around me  is a win especially when she isn't normally like that. I also love women with quirky interests that makes them unique . I'm a thoughtful gift giver and I noticed I loved girls who I could get something which is only special to them so when they have a quirky interest I love to encourage that anyway possible.  I'm sure this is common but she needs to be family orientated and still maintain a good connection with someone in her family within reason. She needs to be relatively inactive on social media because virtually every average/hot girl has crazy DMs flowing around. The only reason my woman should be financially stable is to acknowledge that no business is in control of her. Age is not a big factor and children is as is. Perhaps my biggest fear in approaching a woman is I simply dont know what I am getting into.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

She needs a sense of adventure, she needs to be comfortable in her own skin, she needs to have decent conversational skills, she needs to have a degree of self awareness, she needs to, if not formally educated, at the very least demonstrate a thirst to learn and explore. She absolutely needs to display a degree of desire to learn basic homemaking skills.

Basically, men want women who are a compliment to [the men's] lifestyles and who have the ability (or at least the desire to learn how to) to perform very simple homemaking functions that make our lives better. I don't care if you aren't a gourmet cook, it doesn't matter to me, but I at least want to know that there are a few recipes you know how to make.

The issue that a lot of modern women are running into with attracting men is that most modern women are not pleasant people to be around. It's not that you aren't pretty and accomplished as professionals, it's that there isn't really a reason for me to want to continue interacting with you.

I went on a fantastic date with a lovely woman I met online, recently. And even though she was physically gorgeous, intelligent, and has a wonderful job where she makes lots of money; she's not a bold or adventurous person. I don't stare into her soft brown eyes and think about all the interesting things (totally non-sexual) I would go do with her. That interesting thing is what so many women miss. They haven't been taught how to be exciting. That woman, as captivating as she is, is a boring person.

genericname85 · Answer

i mean obviously looks are a thing. age relatively close to mine but rather younger than older. i'd like her to have secular humanistic morals. be nurturing with a high sex drive and a sort of assertive but not "dominant" character overall. i like if they are articularte and communicative but also able to just shut up and spend some quality time together. nothing more annoying than a person who just won't ever stop talking. i prefer a woman to be financially independent, cause i'm looking for a "partner" to carry the load of life together with. not a pet i gotta walk and feed. i don't go for women who have children because i don't want to have to deal with the consequence of her having sex with someone else. that's none of my business and i don't like to get involved with other mens children.

i have no fear in approaching women. rejection only hurts if there's already a lot of investment involved. the reason i may not approach is not fear. i don't know why this is always the first thoght women have when they try to explain it to themself. for me, the issue is investment and return. like if i work up the courage to go talk to her and it allgoes nice and i put lots of effort and then like an hour later, she drops the "i got a boyfriend" bomb, i just wasted a bunch of time and energy. i don't know if you love wasting time and energy. i don't. that's the reason why i may avoid approaching a woman.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

What do you like about women? Feminine. That's the overall theme. Attraction. What are some traits? Sweet caring innocent submissive feminine healthy shape What type of morals and values should she have? Sex is special. Men and women are different. Not materialistic. Loves kids. Trustworthy. Honest. Is financial stability a thing for you as a man? No. Idgaf about if she makes money or not. Can't have dumb debts like credit cards or student loans. Is age really a big factor? Yes. Younger the better. Under 25 is general rule but even younger is better. does having children or not having children affect your decision Absolutely must not have kids. No exceptions. Most things can be worked around but not this. what is your biggest fear in approaching a woman besides rejection? Waste of time. Most women aren't even close to this so its 99% a waste of time.

Anonymous · Answer

What do you like about women?

Everything. I love women very much.

What are some traits?

Women being caring, romantic, "emancipated", making their own money so that they don't need ours and can pay for themselves.

What type of morals and values should she have?

I'm not selective. Don't be an ass, a gold digger or cheat is pretty much all I ask for in terms of morals.

Is financial stability a thing for you as a man?

I am not sure what is meant by that. I finance my own living and I prefer women to do the same.

Is age really a big factor?

No, it's just a number.

does having children or not having children affect your decision?

Yes. Only Childfree for me please. I rather go on vacation on an island and drink cocktails than being woken up at 4 AM by a screaming baby and slave away my life for it. Sorry single mothers but I can't deal with that.

what is your biggest fear in approaching a woman besides rejection?

The only thing I am guarding myself against are gold diggers or those harpies, who use us for free meals. Do not forget, that I love women.

Anonymous · Answer

"cooking and cleaning are essential for any human to do." - And yet most women that age today, at least in the US, don't know how to cook anything more than mac n' cheese or SpaghettiOs. I will not marry a woman who can't cook well.

What do you like about women? - Femininity
What are some traits? - Kind, unselfish, nurturing, submissive, sexually uninhibited
What type of morals and values should she have? - Traditional values
Is financial stability a thing for you as a man? - As long as she's not in debt, she's fine
Is age really a big factor? - Yes
does having children or not having children affect your decision - I don't want a woman who already has children, but I do want to have children with her
what is your biggest fear in approaching a woman besides rejection? - Being accused of something I didn't intend to do

GreenLanternI0I · Answer

1. Respect (If I be respected as a man and a head of a house hold, I would be treating my woman like a queen).

2. Loyalty for life (If a woman can be loyal for life, no matter the circumstances, I will let Her to choose how many children she would want to have, because I would know for a Fact, that I'm staying with her 100% until my death).

3. A LOT of sex (If I always be running dry and empty, if you are catching my drift, there is absolutely no reason for me not just to even think about cheating, but even look at another woman).

JDavid25 · Answer

I like that women are softer in skin and demeanor, their longer hair, and that they are more personable and empathetic in many ways.. And of course the essentials (boobs wider hips and softer butts).

-I like bubbly slightly assertive but not domineering personalities. Likes to joke and is good with working together on chores. A bit nerdy too.

-The morals to where she really cares about people, but not overly virtual signally.. Closer to old school morals is where it's at for me.

-Financial stability is cool, and preferred but not required..

-As long as she can bear children and is ocee the age of 18 and under the age of 45 I'm all good..

-Yeah, it does.. I do want us to have children one day..

-Not being able to provide or be in my masculine enough..

TroyDT2 · Answer

A lady who is free of manufactured drama, has hobbies and interests, is not obese, and practices good hygiene. Morally she must not be a thief or a deceiver. Financially I care more about how responsible she is rather than how much she makes - I've know ladies who make $20/hour who have everything in order and others who make $200K+ who are always broke. Age? I tend to date women who are older than I am, maybe because my grandparents raised me and they were older even for grandparents, so their friends' grand daughters were usually 5 -15 years older than I was. I do not auto-reject if she has children, but I will want to know the backstory. Might sound cliché, but a faithful widow is preferable to a never married lady who has multiple kids from multiple guys. I have no fears in approaching a woman.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

I like many things about women. They are loving, creative, supportive, empathetic, energetic, and wanting to team up for goals. I like women who are confident and intelligent; who enjoy being playful and competitive but also have responsibility and can work hard.

TallAnon · Answer

I live on my own, so like you said; cooking, cleaning, etc. I already do myself. What I want is companionship. If she generally makes my life better, that's good enough for me. Of course I want a girl I'm physically attracted to as well.
Financial stability? Just pull your weight and don't take any handouts for granted. If I earn 4 times more than her, I'm prepared to pay 4 times more of the rent too. But do put in an effort. A career or passion is important, I don't want someone who sits around all day or is content working at a supermarket.

Lkid23 · Answer

If a girl is kind, caring and empathetic, I like her.
Her moral values matters a lot. She should be able to differentiate right from wrong. Her past also depends. If she has history of falling into married men, cheating on her past boyfriends, that would be a big no. If she has high body count, that is a no as well.
Well for financial stability, she should have at least a degree or some kind of talents that she could earn money.
Age factor- younger the better, women with same age as mine is also fine as long as she is matured and can make logical decision.
I wouldn’t date a divorced single women, forget a woman with children.
No fear in approaching women. I fear the women who are manipulative, women who plays victim and gold diggers

big_ben_007 · Answer

I want a woman who's my ride or die. We'll grow together, go through highs and lows together, never give up on each other, and always encourage each other. Thats what i want.

Building a future with my woman has always been super important to me. I've never been the smash-n-dash type of guy.

Gent207-2 · Answer

Are you looking for a textbook? Because My God do you sound like one.

Introducing the pillars of marriage: sex, money, kids and in-laws. - These pillars will make or break any long term relationship whether legally binding or not, due to their relevance to the other.

Introducing my old checklist: commonality, personality, spirituality.

glennos89 · Answer

A caring and honest woman who isn't a whore. These days the number of woman selling nudes online is exploding. Very unattractive and a lot of woman can't even take care of themselves anymore, let alone care for a man. There are lots of good woman out there but they are hard to find when they are actually single. I like modern but traditional woman

clampfan101 · Answer

A good Christian, fun, smart, similar interests, and wanting children. I think my age difference limit would be 10 years, but the closer the better.
I’m not sure what I would fear other than rejection.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

I am 21, unmarried, little to no experience with girls of my age. Can I answer the question then? You seem to be specific about age, above 25.