Would you date yourself if you were the other sex?

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zeitgeist057 · Accepted Answer

Wow, that's a great question and really makes me think.

No, I don't think I would date me. Well, maybe I would? I don't know, it depends on what I was looking for. I think I would be a lot of fun to hang out with, and I can be very nice, fun, generous, &c. So, a pleasant experience for the most part.

I also think it is tough to date me, I'm also selfish and have boundaries so I don't always please the other person first, which I think is what a lot of people look for. I know I look for someone who wants to please me, and I want to please in return, but I also run into issues when other people expect me to put them before myself. I don't know if I expect that of other people, I don't think I do. I might be too independent to be good for dating, unless the other person is also comfortable with independence.

I think I would be a good friend with benefits, an occasional lover, or someone even to have a deep connection with, but not a good candidate for a "attached at the hip" type relationship.

Would you date yourself if you were the other sex?

Maybe_1day · Accepted Answer

First time I've came across with such question. It's quite interesting to be honest because I doubt we often ask if we would ever date ourselves!.
In terms of "Would I", like I said, I've never thought till now so let me see.
If it's about my loyalty, kindness, support, love and affection. The answer is YES.
To be fair and honest, I do have some traits I need to work on. Such as some insecurities because of my childhood traumas or my past experiences.
So it would be challenging to understand deep down myself. So I'll say 60% yes. But I would of encouraged the remaining 40% to be a better version of myself. And by doing so, I would be a very supportive partner to overcome those scars.

hIopinionated_ · Accepted Answer

Yes.

Even though I’m a pretty detached person. I understand I can be this way for a reason though. Pretty much everything negative about me, I am that for a reason: my introversion, highly opinionated, I also judge harshly, etc but for reasons. For example, If a person says they admire Andrew tat (I just learned who that was). That is extremely questionable to me. I would be highly skeptical of that person and I would ask them questions because I hate wasting my time especially on the wrong people

I also know I am loyal, kind, and considerate for the right person. I’m never fake I’m actually pretty bad at pretending. If I’m having bad sex, I won’t moan or stroke an ego. That’s just me. And I won’t do out to make a guy feel bad, it’s because I’m horrible at lying to myself and others. I’m also super genuine. Pretty sure I’m perfect for myself lol

BlueScorpio · Accepted Answer

I dint think so? There's a high chance we would never meet or interact cause I'm very introverted and keep to myself. I'm sure my male self would be the same way.

Bethany22 · Answer

We might show the same type of guilt when one person doesn't talk too much. Other than that, I'd probably run for the hills.

Account · Answer

I would. But I probably would find it hard to understand me.

AviatorTom · Answer

Of course. I'm interesting, good looking and pretty good in bed. Why wouldn't I, as a girl, date myself (the guy).

Rab1901 · Answer

Honestly, I would in a heartbeat. I don't think it's cocky to believe this. I always wanted a girl who's just like me. I think I'd get along with myself so well, and I would feel confident in knowing how faithful we'd be to each other. In fact, the last girl I dated reminded me of a younger version of myself, and I loved that, but it didn't work out in the end because obviously we had our differences. Different cultures and she was not mature enough, but I did find myself thinking she might be great in about 6 years. That's our age difference by the way.

Tempest68 · Answer

Yeah, I think I would. I'm pretty humble and easy-going... not something younger women necessarily want but a lot of older women like those attributes.

I'm still attractive and in decent shape (for 54).

Positives: I have a good sense of humor, try to be "happy go lucky", wear my heart of my sleeve, and have a passion for music (been playing guitar for 40 years now).

Negatives: I've never been very ambitious. Money is just a tool to me, not something I really strive for. A short temper but then I'm over it. Baggage! My love died July 4th 2018, we were planning our wedding for that December. I think about her every single day. I've dated a few times in the past year or so and I'm honest about my feelings but I don't think most women want to deal with a man trying to get over his grief.

It's certainly an interesting topic you bring up though!

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Yeah, most likely. Although I'm not sure how girls are wired, on one hand, (going by how girls seems to be) I'd see that he was a very kind, loving, loyal, caring guy, very tall and not bad-looking (possibly very good looking, according to some girls), and he's the kind of guy I've been looking for for a long time but, on the other hand, I'd see how wonderful he is and start running for the hills to get the hell away from him and into the waiting arms of the nearest abusive asshole I could find to spend my life with!! But, I'd at least keep him on the back burner as someone whose shoulder I could cry on when I get beat up by my new boyfriend!
From what I can see, THAT'S the way girls are!! Just thinking about it is actually really bringing me down!! It's REALLY SAD!!

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t know… as a woman, being raised when I was, as a girl? Would I be like a lot of women or would I be more like ”me… me?”

My interests would probably be a little different … so let’s say like my sister, though younger. Would I have had the difficulties dating guys that “guy me” has had dating (women)? Would I expect “Guy me” to provide, and would I expect a level of income outside of my league? Or would “girl me” be unattainable (maybe I have just married some shmuck of a guy early on to get out of my situation, and girl me is either stuck in a bad marriage, or divorced with kids)?

I know a woman who I personally would have thought I would have been successful with. But for all we are so similar, she’s not interested. So would guy me date girl me? Probably. Would girl me date guy me? Harder to say.

letuswaltzforthedead · Answer

Assuming my personality remains pretty much the same as a guy, not at all. I wouldn't be my type in both looks and personality. In a relationship, we would clash a lot since our ambitions and wants wouldn't mix well. I would get along with male me as a friend (same vice versa) but not as a relationship. I wouldn't do it, as a man or as a woman.

ThinkFitness23 · Answer

No, I’m a nightmare…

I need lots of attention, reassurance and I’m jealous.

I don’t really have a wondering eye anymore (I say this generally) if I see someone extremely hot then I note this but do nothing. I do like attention from the person I describe though.

Ill_made_Knight · Answer

Hard to say. I wonder if you could truly step outside yourself and observe yourself for awhile, would you be surprised by what you see and observe? I'm pretty sure I would be... Even the sound of your own voice on recording can be quite shocking.

Kaneki05 · Answer

100%. Would be pretty fun we would get into some right kinky shit. Along with knowing how to respond to each other and when we are both not in the mood. They would buy similar shit so we could always just share. We could keep the same amount messy.

scooterman · Answer

Of course I would definitely want to date somebody who doesn't play video games doesn't watch sports and doesn't want to stay home all the time and doesn't drink or smoke pot but loves coffee loud music and an adventure even if it's only an hour away from home

MCheetah · Answer

No, because I'd be a woman and women notoriously do not like short guys or men who are less than physically perfect nowadays. If I WERE a woman and knew me as well as I know myself, I'd admit that I - the true male me - would be one of the smartest, most profound, but complicated and flawed people I'd ever meet and would make a truly interesting partner "to someone" out there. But still, "he's only 180 centimeters and he's black and he's overweight and ugly; Michael B. Jordan he ain't! I only get with Michael B. Jordan and Chris Pratt types!" As a woman, I wouldn't be good enough for female-me being less than an 8.5.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

It’s a difficult question if you overthink it. If I had a similar mindset and life experiences almost without a doubt. I could get along with me pretty well. But realistically and gauging from how different my sister and I am, I would probably be a completely different person, so I don’t know- maybe not?

Wish4UrB00ty · Answer

I forget what the show was but I saw this thing in Amazon prim that was basically a B rated gamers show about people getting sucked in to a game they all played and then needing to live it out until they could find a way home. Kind of a sword art on line kind of thing but live action and super B rated. Anyways one of the main characters ends up finding out that a man leading this camp she has been trying to get to for a long time was actually a male version of herself. She had made herself two or three characters in the game. So she had sex with him. It was wicked weird!! Haha!
For me though. I would maybe want to have sex with myself so I knew what I was doing… haha! But no!

Marklaw12 · Answer

Nah, I'm too much of a romantic. Also, I'm not adventurous. The house will be dull. I go out with women who are fierce and like to go out cos it helps me move to rather than only go to work.

I also love crazy cos the sex is always fire. I mean so far the ones I've dated.

I'm too calm that I tend to handle crazy girls. They rarely have one over me.

tzdc21 · Answer

Absolutely. I want someone who is chill, who doesn't make a fuss out of everything, who doesn't feel the need always be out and about, and who appreciates the little things. That's pretty much me in a nutshell.

c0mlink · Answer

Oh hell to the yeah. we can pool incomes and do wicked cool shit. I consider myself pretty reasonable and love to spar verbally. I don't know might be a bit weird sometimes but we could talk through it and reach a good compromise.

inhua · Answer

nah. I'd want someone taller, stronger, better-looking and has more money and social status than me. he has to be better than me in almost every single way for me to feel feminine. more importantly, other girls want him too.

NavyblueTacos · Answer

I like this question lol

I dont think I would, mainly because, what I (would) look for in a partner, is not what I provide in a relationship, so someone would end up feeling like their needs werent met.

Lucy68 · Answer

Probably not to be honest. I mean I'm not really the best looking and I'm not really the most interesting, so I'd probably not want to date myself

Bre_0611 · Answer

Yes because I understand myself. I would be able to treat me exactly the way I want to be treated.

Meamdmyself · Answer

Tbh, yes just cause I would like to give myself a chance that I know I will not have.

But if it wasn't just out of pity, I would not date myself cause it would be pretty hard cause I don't look good at all, and my personality... Ehh.. just a NO

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

That would be like dating your twin! No thanks I’ll pass on the incest shit however some families nowadays are close & into that stuff so if you like it go for it.

Makeushiver · Answer

I spent a good part of my youth and still find the occasion where dating myself is the best option available. I've tried to play hard to get but that way lay madness

Faith18letsgo · Answer

Yeah I’d love being in a relationship with myself. We’d just to chill fun things together cuddle make out and sleep.

Pinky_what_why · Answer

Yes I would, not being cocky. I honestly think that I'm a decent human being and I wouldn't be a bad pick when looking for a partner.

Paulalove98 · Answer

Yeah I would of course lmao. I don't know how I'd put up with my emotions sometimes but ehhh.

flautistnaturist · Answer

What, in all reality, is the realistic basis for this question? How could it even be considered as part of that which actually exists? Weird.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Yes, no need to get to know eachother already, you already do.

annabananna · Answer

Probably not because our personalities would be the exact same. I would need a personality that compliments mine not the exact replica of mine.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

Damn that would be one rugged looking chick xD... yeah there are stuff personality wise I'd love to see it in a girlfriend or even a friend of mine...

Heolurt · Answer

I want to say yes because I know what kind of person I am and how I would treat the person I am with but like everyone else I'd probably see me and think I was too ugly and probably not even talk to me.

PizzaPieMamaBear · Answer

Heck yea!!! Someone to cook me yummie food clean my house and have sex everyday heck yea

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I've thought about this a few times... I think I would probably want to at least give myself a chance.

GreenLanternI0I · Answer

That would be quite literally a PERFECT Wife for life.

Anonymous · Answer

1000% yes if i had a daughter even, Id be 1000% ok with her being with someone like me.  im very happy with my self as a person

DribbleGodCurt · Answer

hell yeah i have so much self love and confidence it's insane.

SnowedIn · Answer

This is a great question. Made me think. Yes, I would date myself.

4ngelic · Answer

na, not the prettiest and personality wise eh

YourFavoriteFriend · Answer

Yep! I'm awesome and I adore myself so I definitively would!

linka_pat307 · Answer

I wouldn't because I will be different in other sex , gaining other characters that obviously I don't like

bayoubob · Answer

Fuck no. Your self affirmation, being kind to yourself, having compassion for yourself is some real weird shit. To say I'd do me is just like Buffaloe Bill from Silence Of The Lambs dressing himself in human skin that he murdered. Then tucking his junk between his legs and saying "I'd do me," whilst growing my hair out long and putting on a shit ton of red lip stick.

CoolCatMar1 · Answer

Yessss i would date myself but I don't know if it's worth it

NotTacocaT6969 · Answer

Yes.  The funny thing is, that’s what my friends all said when they met my crush.  “Omg! You just introduced us to yourself, but with a dick!” Lol

Noahzaid · Answer

No! Having a lot of imperfections is hard to over look.

Gent207-2 · Answer

I would probably end up killing her because there can only be one mad enough to set off Yellowstone. Or alternatively trigger a land slide that puts over half of the U. S eastern seaboard under water

Spiritofn · Answer

I'd try and fuxk on the first date but we dont talk about that cause im respectful.

TroyDT2 · Answer

No. Another person as eccentric as I am would make us both miserable.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Yep, if I were attracted to the opposite gender version of myself, both physically and mentally.

fembotnpc777 · Answer

I would go back and forth on it a lot, and then either fall in love with me or decide I'm not worth the trouble.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Maybe. I'm just lazy and stingy with my time, so that could be a major problem.

Twalli · Answer

No. It's not a good idea to date someone extremely similar to you

Fireguy17 · Answer

Yes, and I would ride me like a rented mule! In all honesty I am a good person, so yes, I am dateable, only if my wife approves.

NathanDavis · Answer

I would date Katy Perry... if I were the other sex

ZenJen444 · Answer

As far as appearance and having a lot going for myself. Personality wise no I wouldn't date me. In public I come off as very social but in reality I'm an introvert and like my own space.

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Fuck no! I wouldn’t want to date a female version of myself

dustybiker · Answer

I might be too much for me to handle. I’m lucky to have found someone who grounds me well.

Nominal · Answer

No, i wouldn't date my self if i be a women.

JonesT19 · Answer

if I settled and work and live in same city I will do marry as opposite sex. it's called as fantasy right

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