Would you date yourself if you were the opposite sex?

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Valdemort · Accepted Answer

You know, I had written:
"Probably not.
Although I do genuinely believe I am capable of loving correctly, I've come to understand that I am usually too much too soon and I haven't found a way to calm that down. So I as much as I hate to know that I probably wouldn't even want to date myself, that's probably the reality."
Which is true, but I have come to realise something. Aside from that, I have also been to be one of the most supportive, open-minded and optimistic people others have met and I would love that in a partner.
There's a guy that I really care about. He's an absolute idiot of a person, completely out of his mind, but hilariously so. He's a delight to be with, even if I cannot and do not always understand him. He's genuinely one of the most unique and authentic people I know and I love him for it. Its exactly the type of person I am. Somewhat insecure, and still never afraid to hide his true, genuine, weird self.
I guess it comes down to what male-me would value most.
My friend recently told me she feels safe and understood with me, because I never judge her decisions, and just let her talk so she can figure things out for herself and I just listen to her. Sometimes I give my opinion if she wants me to, and sometimes I just let her speak her mind so she doesn't have to carry those things alone.
So you know what. I would.
I would date myself, including the over the top kind of loving; the unconventional and uninhibited weirdness that defines who I am; the absolute mindless humor I see in everything; the patience, the irritations, the unhealed trauma responses I'm still working on and the seemingly incomprehensible sadness that I have to deal with every once in a while. At the end of the day, I still fall asleep knowing I tried my best.
I'd go above and beyond for the person I love. No questions asked.
Like hell, I would date me.
End of this speech. Thank you.

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Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

Yeah I would.

wouldn’t be any judgement. 100% trust. If they thought like me and not exactly as me then it’d kind of work but actually it would work the same way because I’d hear my thoughts relayed back to me so I’d get new thoughts and vice versa.

I’d be motivated. I’d be able to chill out. And the only thing that would be ideal is he came from wealthy parents or he knew how to work hard/have discipline and he’d be willing to do most jobs that I wouldn’t like. Because all in all I need an exact version of me who will support me like no one else would lol

I can vibe with him but the support needs to be there because my family didn’t come from wealth so he’d need the advantage and advanced pace on society.

This of course would all apply if I had never married and didn’t meet my boo. It’s 50/50 and if I met my boo I’d take that route but otherwise I’d choose no one else and only myself. In my case I neverrrrrrr saw the level of reciprocity and respect that I wanted and deserved. Myself as the opposite sex would definitely be able to fulfill that. It wouldn’t be ME though because I’d never want a penis as mine and I wouldn’t want a pussy to work with either.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

Honestly the criteria for good chemistry is to have a lot of similarities. Similar interests, views, sense of humor, way of thinking, style of communicating, goals in life, sexual compatibility, etc. That way you can go to the same places and enjoy experiences you know you'll both like together. You'll agree on everything when it comes to perspectives in life. Because you think the same way, there will rarely be any conflict because there's nothing to disagree on. You'll laugh at the same things and find each other funny. You'll want to end up in the same place in life because your vision of 20 years from now is the same. You'll have the same way of communicating through physical or verbal means and appreciate the same thing from each other. You'll have the same kinks and sexual desires.

So yes... if there was a feminine version of myself (submissive rather than dominant in bed, dresses, speaks, and appears feminine) then yes... I see no reason why I wouldn't date that girl. It's literally what I've been looking for.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Good question to ask.

I f*cked up big time with a bad addiction I had 2 years ago (compulsive gambling). I wouldn’t date myself at that time.

But I also took complete responsibility for my mistake. I sought recovery on my own and have worked my ass off to make amends and pay off debt. I am proud of myself of owning up to it. Didn’t lean on anyone. Didn’t seek bailouts. I independently got my sh*t together.

I could date someone who did the same thing. Because it show they have self accountability for their actions.

So the answer is yes again. A cautious yes but still yes now. It was very painful but I manned up and did the right thing.

devilish-cutie · Answer

Hm, its a wild concept since then it would be 2 me... me as a man... n me female that I am
Funny enough I think id be better as a man cause im brave, direct, logical, initiative...

When I try to imagine if I were a guy n would I date a girl like me... to my mind comes that id be afraid to try anything w her... damn what?
But its such a paradox so its hard to say how accurate my answer is...

Laciejordan · Answer

No! We would definitely clash. It would be cool enjoying the same things, having the same beliefs, having the same goals….. but we would expect the same things from each other also. For example, if I want my feet massaged, they’re gonna want it too! They’re always gonna want to get the last word in during an argument! They’ll never decide where to eat! It would be a total nightmare!

normalice · Answer

It's hard to imagine what a woman version of me would be like. Too many aspects of my personality were developed around my adolescent desire to "stick it into something pretty." This would obviously not apply to a woman and its not immediately obvious how it would translate, either.

aceleon · Answer

no if i was exactly same with the character, aside from her not believing in love just like me, we would constantly fight at everything and would both be selfish and manipulative.

if only talkingabout looks wise but personality is opposite (at least in most cases) i would, cuz i know i would be one hell of a chick, if there was a score for 1 to 10 i'd score 11.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

You mean I suddenly meet a female clone of myself? Or like they were born the other gender? Cause if we're born a different gender their life would have been very different and they would be a different person.
Anyway I wouldn't. I ask too many questions, would do my head in

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Um... I probably wouldn't. I would want to see some weight loss. I definitely would have dated myself earlier in life, but I've simply gotten too heavy since the pandemic.

That's why I'm pushing to lose weight though. I need to solve the problem.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Like I said yesterday, a few years ago I found a picture of a girl almost as tall as me that looks like me if I would've been born a girl and, yeah, I'd love to date her!

Unit1 · Answer

Very likely.

So if I want to move to Thailand, the female myself would too.

if I hate drama and unnecessary noise and fights, so will my female self too.

I am childfree and am uninterested in marriage and my female self would be too.

I say Money is everything and my female self agrees completely.

Like there would be zero conflicts and endless sex sessions and not involving papa and mama government into our private romantic business.

JHAYES317 · Answer

So basically would I date a girl who is the same height/weight as me, but presumably a lot less muscle mass so more body fat%, bigger boobs, butt, but with a vagina instead of dick & balls, longer hair, much less body/facial hair, and a much higher voice, but with my personality? Hmm…yes, but I would tell her to lose weight…and since she has my personality she would understand…

MemeSupreme · Answer

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Lily02 · Answer

No 😭 I wouldn't!

I'm too indecisive and too clumsy, I need someone who's the opposite of me so he can help me with decision making. Also, I would like to date someone who isn't afraid of roaches to help me get rid of them. The two "me"s would agree to buy a new house just to run away from them.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

No, If I were a woman, I'd still want a woman who thinks like me, so my partner preferences would still be exactly the same as they are now, with the only difference being that if I were a woman, I'd be a lesbian.

SotiCoto · Answer

No.  I can't even look at my daughter without feeling uncomfortable because she looks too much like me.  How does one even tell their daughter  "Sorry you're 50% ugly. It is my fault"  ?

NathanDavis · Answer

nope... I would be a lesbian and still date every girl I've ever dated

JacobJordan · Answer

Yes. I definitely have some parts that annoy people but all in all I am a decent human being. I treat people well and I am an attentive and patient boyfriend and husband

AaronKrieger · Answer

Nah, I do not want to date someone who is too similar to me. Those differences are what make it interesting.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

Not sure. But I wouldn't look that much different as a guy. LOL

swordbreaker · Answer

The ability to form emotional bonds between people is an important part of human nature and can be a beautiful experience in developing loving relationships between people.

exitseven · Answer

I probably would. I think I turned out better than I thought I would

CozyCoffin · Answer

I have no idea. Would I hate myself like women seem to hate me (at least when it comes to dating)?

DarkWinterNights · Answer

I check all my own boxes… personality, tradition and belief-wise that is, so yeah- probably.

LaurenM1997 · Answer

No I can’t stand to look at myself in the mirror at times never mind the opposite sex

Anonymous · Answer

Sure, I'm good looking, I own my own home, multiple cars, a 6 figure income.. Good personality, very family oriented.. But alas I'm married so it would never happen.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope. Because I'd want to only date a slimmer version of ms. I'm slightly chubby.

ab2shifty · Answer

I’ll pass 🤣

Heolurt · Answer

Nope, way too ugly and I don't see being a girl as being any better looking.

JonesT10Apr · Answer

no, I should have get better paid job with weekdays off. and build my own home for myself

JayBones · Answer

Dude. My buddy asked me if I wanted to go to the bar with him. I asked "who all is going" he said "just me and you" I said "fuck no I hate those guys"

Anonymous · Answer

Well they seem to like me and I have been told I have a nick dick.

Account · Answer

Surprisingly, yes.

Simslover92 · Answer

Not a chance in hell.

Xia1994 · Answer

No cuz I'm not that interesting.

Anonymous · Answer

I would me only and not anyone else

Chthou95 · Answer

No because im not gay

HappyWoman34 · Answer

Heck no.

Dinklex3 · Answer

Definitely.

RebelinSteel · Answer

No chance,

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

Nope 😔👎😜😜😜

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