Im puzzled as to why mean are ashamed of dating a bbw? Can someone enlighten me why men are scared of us?

[HernameisSTAR]

[Telekinetic-Potato]

The reasons range from the guy being insecure to the point where innocent negging is something they avoid at all costs to sometimes guys rip on other guys for going after bbw's because they're generally easier to get than skinny girls. Some guys take it to an extreme because they're so turned off by fat girls that they literally can't comprehend how another man could be genuinely attracted to them.

I would say most of the time it lands somewhere in the middle with a bias to one side or the other.

Shout out to my the thicc bitches!

[TheSpaceGnome]

I can't speak for other people, but I'm not into overweight women, and only date petite ones.

It has nothing to do with fear, just sexual peference, and as far as skin color goes, I'm indifferent, but I do prefer very stereotypically feminine looking shapes, so if I were dating a black woman at any point, she'd have those, not the bbw look.

Not sure why someone would be ashamed of dating a person they are into though.

[TrueConfection]

I think everyone has preferences. There are LOTS of married bbw and LOTS of men who find them attractive.

[Anonymous]

I find BBW generally unattractive. There are a few exceptions.

[Opinion Owner]

It's like how women are disgusted by most short guys.

[Anonymous]

Over simplistic.

If you're wildly over weight, I don't suppose you'll be popular. But some fat on a woman is to be expected in the mature real world. Sometimes even desirable.

And have you considered your personality? Maybe your positively and self assurance dominates the conversation and is off putting.

Use of words like ashamed and scared in the little that you've written suggests to me that you may be hard work.

[Anonymous]

We aren’t “scared”… we simply don’t want obese women.

Why do women feel like men should be expected to want them because they tell themselves that fat is sexy? It isn’t. it simply is NOT.
It’s just easier to try and shame men for not wanting you than it is to stop eating like a pig who doesn’t care about their health

[Anonymous]

We aren't scared of you. Most of us just aren't attracted.

But if you want to interpret that as men being "scared" and that makes you feel better, go for it.

[Berethor]

Because thin women tend to be more popular nowadays.

[Alex8736]

when it comes to being ashamed has any of these people looked at themselves in the mirror before judging others?

[slatyb]

We're not scared, were just not attracted.

[Anonymous]

Not scared; just not attracted to.