What age can I expect guy to stop fooling around?

[Anonymous]

I’m 20, in university, and it seems like the guys here are always full of tomfoolery when it comes to relationships. Like they want to have their fun first before setting down cause it seems like some of them never get into relationships (despite having the chance to) or some get in on but not for too long.
When can I expect a guy to stop wanting to get in everyone’s pants?

[watercolor_lions]

A lot of people are gonna disagree with me on this, but I told my little sister guys aren't worth dating until 26.

I say this because a lot of guys (not all) are ready to settle down by this age. They're done fooling around, trying to get laid. They're more interested in a commitment by this age. They want a family, a wife, a stable home life.

Just my opinion.

[LazerBean]

I would never expect anyone who fools around to stop, I'd just assume they're always going to be trashy.

[inhua]

if they have options, why would they settle down when the women around them ain't settling down either?

eventually they will settle but not with any of those women who were fooling around with them. they'll just go find themselves a virgin wife.

if relationships are what you're looking for, then maybe you should look outside the box and try elsewhere.

[BarryLiverstone]

On average I’d say guys in their 30s start to settle down. Any reason why you wanna be serious in a relationship rn?

[Asker]

I might die soon

[Asker]

Jk.. But yeah guys have this whole thing against giving it up to people you aren’t serious with. Also it feels kind of bad to be used

[BarryLiverstone]

Hey I might die tomorrow. If I do it’s green I great ride! Agree being used feels bad. But you can flirt and have casual fun if you communicate and respect boundaries

[Asker]

I see casual fun as being used. What am I getting in return for my body if it’s not his love?

[Asker]

Plus A LOT of guys have a stigma against women who have “casual fun” despite being the ones to want it. They don’t want a wife who has been used a lot I heard.

[BarryLiverstone]

Any guy who wants a pure virgin wife is drinking the koolaid. It’s 2022.. people have body counts and live their lives. If you are stressed about being wife material one day my advice is stop worrying. Wife material when a guy is ready isn’t about her past.. it’s about HER and how she can be his most special person and partner in life moving forward

[Asker]

I hope so. I wish it were that easy but I also have to get over the feeling of feeling used. friends with benefits is out of the picture. And how romantic does a guy dating just to have sex and leave later sound? Not very.

[Asker]

Knowing that you only want someone temporarily upfront sounds so.. I don't know demeaning.

[BarryLiverstone]

I have said before if a guy promised and was legally bound to stay in a relationship for at least one year this whole dating game would be so much less complicated. Like a year isn’t a life long commitment but it gives a girl security knowing he doesn’t fuck and drop her.. let’s her be herself knowing he doesn’t ghost after a bad weekend

[BarryLiverstone]

But that’s where guys mess up.. they feel like committing too early is trapping them and not letting them try new things

[Asker]

However I get 20 isn’t a reasonable age lol. One thing though - women over 30 here have still said that guys never settle. My 40 something year old cousin is with a guy who doesn’t want to be married. How can I ever even guarantee that i’m not going to be used for the rest of my life

[Asker]

Oh hm so it’s kind of like a feeling that eats the guy up on the inside? by committing?

[BarryLiverstone]

Go ahead and follow me here. This isn’t morphing into a conversation and not just me answering a question.

[Summeroflove]

Don’t date men who are whores. Find someone who isn’t a whore

[Anonymous]

I got to be honest I don't know that I've ever heard anyone born after 1950 use the term "tomfoolery". 🤣

[Asker]

I promise i’m not 70 😭

[Static_In_The_Attic]

You can expect a guy to stop fooling around when he’s dead.

[Faith18letsgo]

They’re already there there just not as aggressive so you have to make the first move.

[TheSpaceGnome]

That is NOT an age thing, you are simply hanging around the wrong kinds of guys, and they aren't going to change. Find a better guy.

[bean2k21]

Relationship? Is that one of those things you get on when you go fishing?

[FilmGuy93]

It's not an age thing. It's a personal maturity thing.

[Anonymous]

Never. They will always be looking for the next conquest. Even if they get married, they’ll still be running around cheating on their wives with strippers and hookers

[Hardworkingguy]

I can imagine that after 27 when most of us finally mature enough for that

[Joker_]

yeah lol, lots of tomfoolery

[answerALLquestions]

Never, we always want to get into your pants

[Anonymous]

It will never happen.

[jayhams]

It's not an age thing.

[In_Trance]

never

[Anonymous]

After graduation.