What to do if she’s losing interest from not making a move?

[Anonymous]

Been talking to a girl for a little over a month and went on two dates so far. Second date went really well, lots of laughing, light playful touching, flirting but didn’t make a move at the end of the date. Now she isn’t saying good morning anymore (still texting) but not as flirty. Asked her on a third date but she doesn’t have someone to watch her kid and told me she’d let me know when she’s free next. Would it be a bad idea to tell her “I usually take things slow at first, , I do want to see wheee this goes but just want to respect you and make sure things are going at a pace you’re comfortable with ” or something along those lines? I’ve been told recently by people I used to casually date that they lost interest because I didn’t make a love soon enough and don’t want to repeat the same thing with her.

[Anonymous]

It's on her man. Guys commit to women who make EQUAL effort to the guy. It's probably another unintended consequence of Feminism. Most women today think that simply having a vagina entitles them to whatever they want when it comes to dating and relationships. They don't get that dealing with emotions and antics is work for a guy. We want a partner. We don't want to be her babysitter. Give ONLY what she is willing to give dude. If she's losing interest then let her go. If you're a decent, caring, guy that makes effort, then that's all she has the RIGHT to expect. If you are a SOLID dude I promise you she won't do better.

[Guy13]

Make the move and kiss this woman. The relationship is like giving money to the IRS until you kiss 😘

[Asker]

I am on date 3, I’m just worried I ruined the chance for getting it 😂

[Guy13]

Gotcha…. I believe 💪

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Seems to me that there is a chance she was ready for at least a passionate kiss.

The door isn't closed yet but it might if you don't come forward by heartfelt words or in actions.

At least give her kiss.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

At least give her *a kiss.

[Anonymous]

I would be as open as possible with her. Tell her how you feel, what your intentions are and if she's OK with the pace you move at or if she wants more.

[Asker]

You don’t think that’ll turn her off to me saying something along those lines? Or better to have that open communication?

[Opinion Owner]

She has a child. She seems like a mature woman. I think she knows what she seeks in a man and how she wants that man to care for her child.

[Asker]

Fair enough, I’m just worried it’ll come across as desperate or insecure. But also worried if I don’t bring it up she’ll get the wrong idea and move on

[Opinion Owner]

I don't think you seem desperate at all. For me, a man only seems desperate if he wants in your pants on the first date. It seems like you like to take your time and not rush things. She may like that. Being a mother is a full-time job.

[Asker]

Yeah but that’s also what makes me worried to where she’s not gonna want to waste her time if she thinks I’m not interested. Hopefully she doesn’t take it the wrong way either or that it freaks her out

[Opinion Owner]

Are you wasting her time? Do you see yourself with her? Taking care of her child too? If yes, then it's best to leave now. If not, open to her. She’s a mother. She has gone through a lot on her own. She can handle it 😄

[Asker]

I sent it so we’ll see how she responds 😅😬

[Opinion Owner]

And now we wait. Let me know what she says 😄

[Asker]

If I’m being 100% honest I haven’t had like a real “dating” experience. I’ve notoriously jumped from relationship to relationship bc some how I’ve always known “my next bf” which is terrible I feel lol. It’s literally been the last 10 years of my life I don’t think I’ve been single for more than a week. But I feel like a lot of that has come from me having a kid bc with my age I worry that it’s gonna be hard to date or no one will want to and I don’t wanna be alone so I pretty much just accept the first person who comes to me. Which is also how I’ve ended up in really not good scenarios lol. In my position now, I’ve honestly only been single since September so this is kind of my first experience back into it. At least now I don’t feel like I need any body or at least with getting older kids are becoming a lot more prevalent in peoples lives so it’s not such a weird thing anymore. But I’m kind of glad you mentioned it bc now I’m in this weird spot mentally and I definitely don’t want it to come across as cold towards you. But I’ve been able to dedicate so much time to Baylor that now I feel like I have mom guilt whenever I leave her and not to mention I have a ton of mom guilt from how I’ve acted in the past. Since I dated people who seemed to think it was impossible to do anything with her I basically had to split my time and I hate that I’ve done that. So honestly I’m enjoying hanging out with her right now. And also the thought of intimacy is like so unbelievably stressful I don't know why 😂 hopefully you don’t take that the wrong way bc it’s not you, I think you’re super cool and I enjoy hanging out with you plus I really like the fact that you are respectful of being slow and my time and me having a kid. I just am having issues with the idea of anything relationship wise rn😅

[TheSpaceGnome]

If she loses interest after a month, she usn't worth your time. No one worth keeping is ready after a month.

[In_Trance]

make a fkn move

[Asker]

Obviously am gonna on date 3. Just worried that I won’t get to date 3 if she’s losing interest

[In_Trance]

I'd be worried too. Other guys she dates won't wait

[Anonymous]

I don't know.