Is there a way to prove I do love him?

[Anonymous]

He's been crushing over me since our Senior year of HS and we're now 23 year-olds. I never focused on him at the time. I didn't think I would catch feelings for him.

We've been dating for 6 months now and he just found out (overheard a conversation I had with my cousin and friend) that I was dating him for an $100 bet. The deal was he was suppose to fall for me, then I would ditch him after collecting the money. I used to make fun of people falling in love.

What he heard was really bad. They asked if I feel for him and I explained I don't love him, in fact laughing about all his pathetic, overused love phrases, that it's all just for the dare, how we've done this a couple times already, etc. However I then excused myself to the bathroom. I've realized I did really caught feeling but was trying to be the tough, rebelious girl to them. That was just me talking but not feeling all that. I was planning to ditch the dare game but on Sunday, he confronted me, breaks it off and doesn't believe me at all.

Needless to say, catching feeling for him wasn't part of the game. I actually do regret it now though. So is there a way to prove to him that I do love him? I didn't realize. It's for real now.

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He said he can't get over what I said, that it was my own voice he heard, my own words... that they didn't insult him, I did. Yes I did but I regret it. I was lying to them too by pretending to act unloving and making them believe that I was still into the dare.

[CubsterShura]

No, there is no way of showing a tangible proof of love. He is on the right to leave you because you had the motive of using him.

The best you can hope for is if he's willing to hear you out, maybe you could ask him if he can lend you an ear for once, in which case if he does that would be very generous of him, you can simply tell him about your feelings. Be very honest. Just tell him exactly what you told us. It was supposed to be a bet but you realized that you actually have feelings and want something serious.

If by any miraculous chance he decided to give you another chance, tell your cousin and friend you are serious about him and from this point in time you are no longer accepting any disrespectful remarks about your boyfriend or relationship because this time it's not a bet anymore.

[Asker]

I had the motive and yes that was the original plan but as time went by, I did caught feelings. I've expressed myself and said it all but he isn't sure of continuing the relationship and we're still broken up. He can't get over the hurtful words I've said. He can't get over what he heard.

[CubsterShura]

Well that's all you can do really, just tell him openly and honestly that you indeed have developed true feelings without realizing it yourself, but afterwards what he does is up to him and you have to respect his choice.

[Mish_a]

Nope... He has to trust on you. If he can't i am sorry he don't deserve you, as there no other way to prove an emotion.

[Asker]

I'll work hard to gain his trust back. It would mean a lot if this can be forgiven one day.

[Mish_a]

Did you did something that you shouldn't?

[Asker]

Yes and I wish I could take it back.
This was part of how the conversation went (the part he heard the most that he recorded on his cell to confront me a week later this Sunday):
My female cousin and friend asking (with giggles and smiles) if I felt something for him at least
My answer ''Me falling for him, with HIM? You're joking right? (Laughing) This is for the dare. Besides why would I love some romantic idiot with corny, overused phrases. Please. I'm only saying I love him for joke. He continues falling it it, lol.''

[jayhams]

You are lucky is doesn't drop you for being an awful person. The only way to "prove your love" is through actions overtime. Put everything out on the table and explain to him what you did to us.

[Asker]

He said he can't get over what he heard and it hurts him because it was coming from me. They didn't insult him. I did.

[Asker]

This was part of how the conversation went:
Them asking if I felt something for him at least
My answer ''Me falling for him, with HIM? You're joking right? (Laughing) This is for the dare. Besides why would I love some romantic idiot with corny, overused phrases. Please. I'm only saying I love him for joke. He continues falling it it, lol.''

[Anonymous]

Lol you’re fucked up!!! Let him go, at least let him walk away w some pride. I could never take a girl serious who would do something like that to me.

[Asker]

I underestimated myself and didn't realize I would catch feelings. I was used to playing games for the longest, playing jokes, teasing people and laughing about people falling in love.
I do mean it now. I've canceled the dare and didn't collect the money.

[Opinion Owner]

Think how you would react to this if this had happened to you. Would you believe him? Would you take him back? I think I’d you can answer those questions honestly you’ll have a good idea of what to do.

[Kevinb18222]

This is tough because if I were him that would of crushed me. The only way I guess is to just tell him the truth. Say it was true but you fell for him. If he accepts it then show him you love him through your actions. Not words

[Asker]

Thank you. We spoke again but he's still hurt about everything I said. He can't yet get over those words he overheard.

[slatyb]

No, there isn't, except by consistent loving behavior over some period of time.

[Asker]

Ok. Yeah hopefully he'll believe over time. I am serious now. I've already canceled the dare and didn't collect the money.

[Googlemyahoo]

You should watch this movie from 80s

https://www.youtube.com/embed/aNmP7z1Eemo

[TheSpaceGnome]

Wow, you really suck. Have fun with that mess. 🤷🏻

[Asker]

Alright, I know. I'm trying to fix things. By the way, I've already canceled the dare. I didn't collect the money.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I don't think it's fixable tbh.

[Still-alive]

if he had any sense or self respect he would leave you forever. just fucking awful smh

[Asker]

I've never felt like this over a guy ever. I didn't think I would catch feelings. I was so used to playing these dare games and not get serious till now. But honestly, I do feel terrible now. He can't get over what I said.

[Asker]

The game backfired. I wasn't suppose to catch feelings but I did.

[Still-alive]

welp like cubster. the decision is completely his to make if he wants to be with you. but if he never speaks to you again you have no choice but to accept it. and you will be 100% responsible for why. if that happens then take it and learn from it for the next guy you fall for.

[boobliker]

not at all you just have to do things that he likes to win his heart

[Anonymous]

you can't karma came right back at you. you played yourself is what you did

[Asker]

Though I've already canceled the dare and didn't collect the money. I don't want it anymore. I'm serious now.

[Opinion Owner]

to late. you hurt his feelings. you'll have to come up with something to get yourself out of that mess if you can which i highly doubt

[FunkyMonkee]

Used to be, that's what sex was for.

[AsaKyo]

Well.. that's unfortunate lmao

[Asker]

Not funny. I take it back. I'm trying to win him back.

[YourFavoriteFriend]

Yes there is. Get out of his life.

[Zachary00112]

Leave him he's a predator

[Asker]

Him liking me from our last year of HS makes him a predator? He sounds very hurt now.

[Zachary00112]

So what he's a predator and only won't you to be lucky and keep his kids

[Anonymous]

Yeah hun we've seen this movie too. 🤣🤣🤣

[Teriyaki70]

Confused

[Asker]

He overhead me speaking to my cousin and friend that I was dating him for a dare, to get $100 and then ditch him. Basically I was playing games with him.

That was the original plan but it backfired when I caught feelings for him. Now it's for real and he doesn't believe me.

[Teriyaki70]

Ohhh gotcha. Trust is out the window now

[Asker]

But it can be regained if I work hard though? There has to be a way to win him back.

[Teriyaki70]

If he's not going to believe you now he might not later