15 year age gap okay? and if she likes older guys and made the first move should other people judging matter?

[JJMcc5049]

She's 21 naturally pretty with a incredible figure and works as a gym personal trainer who doesn't wear makeup no tattoos or fake lips etc and doesn't have insta or other apps for constant attention and complements. I'm 36 and just normal and she's not my pt but every time I'm in the gym for around 3 months she's made a effort to speak to me.. At first I thought she nice and friendly maybe a bit touchy feely but a couple weeks ago told me that her ex was 34... then the other day said she was kicked out of college for sleeping with her teacher and she said that she thought she was in love and doesn't sleep around. What do you do?

[TrueConfection]

Should other people judge? Probably not, but they will. You'll be viewed as a cradle robbing sugar daddy and she'll be seen as a gold digger, no matter how true the love is between you.

It's also odd that a woman would advertise about the men she's been with. Red flag maybe?

[JJMcc5049]

We were chatting and she commented that I seemed so respectable and was probably such a over achivever at school and I laughed and said I was suspended twice then she made another attempt to say basically that she liked older guys. I agree about the red flag

[Straight2thepoint]

Yes it matters. While she can experience a heartbreak, and cry to her same age friends. Or go out to dinners with family and friends.

You'll be casting a big cloud. She'll never experience her age range loss of a lover, friendship, company. It'll be replaced with questions. Like , father and daughter night out? Is he registered? Does She have daddy issues? Are you guys a couple? And so on.

[TrueConfection]

I agree with this. The couple with the age gap is always awkward with any age group... Either he is too old or she is too young.

[OddBeMe]

I would normally advise to stay within age limits. But she being over 21, there’s no issue of manipulation. So go for it.


That’s the only thing with these types of Qs. Usually it’s a 16-17 yr girl with a 20s-30s guy. Ehh no. But you’re cool.

[DaisyM23]

eesh she definitely might have a thing for older guys, father figure type maybe I dunno? But I don't know why she would be kicked out of college for sleeping with her teacher if she's 21, like it's bad and the power imbalance is there but surely he should be punished more - but yeah, she thought she was in love with the teacher hmm I personally would avoid this

[Drumlin2001]

Not sure I'd see a long stable relationship there but if you wanted a fling then go for it

[bamesjond0069]

I'm just about to be 36 and my girlfriend is 20. It's fine dude. Go for it.

[moviedude714]

Interesting, she was the one to approach you?

[JJMcc5049]

I know but tbh I've found strong women who make the first move are incredible in bed

[moviedude714]

Yeah but that's the last thing you would expect a woman to do

[Charliefretz329]

Age means nothing if your souls match well