Guys, If you was scared to get married would you stick with them for 18 years straight just dating them?

[Ginger1907]

[HighValue]

I only don't want marriage because of the possibility of penalties during divorce for the man. I would totally have an exclusive LTR, live together, raise a family/kids together and stay together for life without being married if I found the right person.

[HighValue]

Maybe you could offer to sign a prenuptial agreement so he could keep all of what he earned in life if things didn't work out. That may change his mind. Most guys that are loyal only don't want marriage because they don't want to risk what they have earned to be stolen from them during divorce. And the MAJORITY of the time, women DO steal from the man during divorce.

[Avicenna]

It might make sense for done guys to do that. I imagine that most women who want marriage would not stick around that long waiting for it, though.

[Jamie05rhs]

Hmm. That's a great question! I guess it would depend how scared I was.

Then again, 18 years is a long time. So I would probably have to come to some sort of conclusion and make a decision before that point. Whether to marry her or whether to let her go and move on.

Also, I kinda do want to have sex at some point in my life. So I don't think I would wait 18 years. I'd probably only wait 5 or 6 years max.

[TheSpaceGnome]

No, if I'm scared of her or don't trust her, I'm breaking up.

[Ginger1907]

What if you had 3 kids with her?

[TheSpaceGnome]

That scenario is impossible for me.
1. I don't want any kids.
2. I don't have casual sex.
3. I don't date/have sex with a woman that I fear or don't trust.
4. If I wanted kids, I'd already be married first, because kids need both parents so I'd only be deciding to have them after I found my perfect match.

[Juxtapose]

I will never get married because it is a system meant to extract wealth from men and give it to women.

[TheSpaceGnome]

No thats divorce, and kids. And also failing to do a prenup.

[Juxtapose]

@TheSpaceGnome prenuptial agreements can be voided simply by the woman saying she signed it under duress 🤷‍♂️

I don't trust the institution of marriage and I don't need the government involved in my love life.

[TheSpaceGnome]

she has to prove it was under duress. If I record it, she can't even lie about it.

Secondly, my type would WANT a prenup, because my type tends to be wealthier than me.

Not because I care about money, but because when you prefer women who are pro artists, gamers, science nerds, etc. they tend to need a decent amount of money to perpetuate those hobbies.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Basically my taste in women hobby wise auto filters out gold diggers.

[Juxtapose]

Go ahead and ask a lawyer, they will tell you how women can plan this shit out years in advance to screw you. But if she is richer than you then yeah, you don't have to worry.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Odds are she will be, or at least rich enough that she doesn't even want my money.

[bamesjond0069]

Sure. Sounds ok to me. What else would one do?

[Charliefretz329]

Sure

[eagle1951]

hell no