Why don’t men take attractive women more seriously? (Page 2)

[jshm2]

You're not really "successful" by any stretch, just getting by. So maybe you're chasing away potential partners with your low bar on what "success" actually is?

That aside, you seem lacking in social skills, and seem to have a warped sense of self. Which is leading to you flattering yourself too much.

You really need to get better friends, and maybe use a matchmaking service.

[Asker]

Make no mistake, men tell me how beautiful I am DAILY. I am actually pretty insecure and mask my insecurities by saying what I’ve been told.

[HighValue]

It is simple. You are past 30. Financial assets do not increase a woman's appeal. It has nothing to do with it. Good high quality family oriented men have no interest in women past 30. Biology won't change regardless of any opinions or wishful thinking. You are very unlikely to be capable of producing a healthy family.

You rejected others based on money in the past. Congratulations, you now have money, but NO FAMILY. That is how life works. There are consequences to your decisions.

[MrCommodore]

I think the problem might be the type of guys you are attracted to might lack the ingredient of Commitment and lack the desire to settle down.

You sound like girlfriend/wife material from what you describe, unless there are other hidden factors that I'm not aware of yet.

[bamesjond0069]

It's because you're attractive for casual sex and unattractive for relationships.

Casual sex is about physical looks. Check. Strong. You accomplished this.

Relationships are about fertility, weak your 30+. Innocence, I assume you're not anything close to a virgin. Weak. Ability to depend on a man. You don't seem ready to depend on a man. Weak.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Story of every women over thirty. Wasted 20s over bad boys then want a good committing guy in 30s.

Even if I don't judge you , and be objective. Most good men don't get girls at all in their 20s. They can have their shit together , knows cooking cleaning but almost no girl will date them especially attractive girls. After 30 men with similar assets like you are highly desirable among women who are desparate to settle. Those men don't care anymore about girls of same age. You can built wealth even with a young attractive girl.

[MikeInHawaii]

Without ever meeting you, the one thing I can say is your income and assets probably don’t matter. Men don’t look at women the same way women look at men. There is the belief that her money is her money and his money is their money.

And, just because a woman doesn’t appeal to me, it doesn’t mean I’m intimidated by her.

[LazerBean]

Very simply put, your problem is somewhere between your mental illnesses and how easily and quickly you let guys sleep with you.

[aoihewgf]

I've come to find also that the women who claim all of the previous relationships were the fault of their narcissistic ex and she was perfect. Is immediate sign to run if you in talking stage! They the type that says they are easy going, but have something negative to say about everyone,

[Anonymous]

It turn's out that those 'bullets' you dodged where your best offers, you werent interested because you thought your money mattered, it doesn't all it does is cause YOU to screen out a larger percentage of potential partners and then complain that you aren't married.

[Asker]

No one will convince me that men addicted to drugs or will die for their hood is a good candidate for marriage.

[Summeroflove]

There you have a point

[Summeroflove]

Asker does

[aoihewgf]

Well then it shows you wasted time with losers and at least theb didn't know how to pick a partner.

[Opinion Owner]

The core concept which you apparently don't want to acknowledge is that men don't rate women by how much money they have, women however absolutely do rate men by how much money they have.

So because you have money your 'standards' are artificially higher than they otherwise would be, you are CHOOSING to exclude X amount of men from your pool of potential partners and then you are complaining that you do not like your remaining choices.

This happens all the time now in the modern world.

Essentially you believe your value is higher than it actually is.

[Matrix3003]

Maybe you intimidate some men. For sex is not a problem, but when the next level could come, they start to feeling insecure and fears come in. If you have dates with men that seems adores you, and in a little time dissapear with no reason of doesn’t want to continue dating with any reason… that usually is fear to be with an abobe average woman. This is the curse of the beautiful people.

[Pudsmucker]

If you are a good looking successful woman. A lot of people are a little apprehensive. I remember I was apprehensive with beautiful looking women. Thinking that they were already taken by their Mr Right. In today's society you go after the man that you want. Date him. I don't think it's wrong for a woman to ask a guy out. Thanks will work out right they always do.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Well you kinda screwed yourself you put your assets your own security over family and I’m assuming you’re like most women refusing to date down

so that’s pretty much it for you like you don’t have a choice but to settle because you wasted your best years

but someone with your mindset shouldn’t even be worried about that when you obviously don’t care about what men want

[Surely]

Probably because successful women like your self. Take things too serious. You achieved your goals by hard work and making decisions. Now you have trouble allowing another person into your life as a partner to give them some trust and responsibility to make good decisions for the both of you.

[Beardedman1996]

I like to call it the silver spoon effect, if you don’t solidify what you’ve had to work for in life somethings are just assumed to be give to you, good looks and other physical traits aren’t always thought about but it is stereotypical these days to assume that if a woman can look good even just naturally she comes from money or a more class a environment

[CA4444]

All of this sound very rational to me, finding the man of your life is about love between you and him, not the job you have or car you have etc.. unless you want an arrangement and not a marriage of love

[Anonymous]

Based on your post, its because you're likely an insufferable bitch with a shit personality. Seriously if you think its all men who are the problem, its more likely that its a you problem. No one wants a single mom, Especially not one like you. Please enjoy your cats pink anon.

[FreyaRed]

Don't smile too much and behave more cynical but not towards the guy you want. Some guys must be dominated by a woman, otherwise they don't respect her because they are jokers.

[DarkWinterNights]

Successful typically comes with the “I don’t need a man” and competitive mentality. Which there isn’t anything wrong with. But that translates to “You’re easily replaceable”. Guys who are looking for commitment have become very gun-shy for red flags.

[aoihewgf]

but the things you listed aren't what Im seeking. What you think makes you valuable doesn't align with what men think. And you question at the end is an attack on men instead of asking whether it could be you

[aoihewgf]

Men who get in relationships should be doing so because they doing so to see if wife/mother material.

You didn't list any qualifed showing this how you can are better than most women because you are <...>

[aoihewgf]

Didn't list any qualities showing how you are better than other women because you have the following qualities <...>

[LiamJHayden]

"is it because I’m what society would consider above average in looks or is it because men are intimidated of successful women?"

If you really think these are the only two possibilities you might need to look deeper.

[Anonymous]

"Have a career"

"In school"

"I own a house"

No one cares about that stuff.

I barely, BARELY care you can cook and clean.

Besides the fact guys aren't getting married anymore, period... Guys won't marry a hot woman because there's too much competition for them.