How come I can’t get into a relationship?

[Anonymous]

I’m almost 22, and have never had a boyfriend. No matter how many different strategies I have, no matter how much I put myself out there or listen to peoples advice I can’t get in one. It’s become a little ironic, I’ll get so close to being in one and then it will crumble.

[Anonymous]

When a woman can't get a relationship it typically comes down to one of two things.

1. Choosing the wrong guys. Be it punching above her wait, choosing f*** boys, choosing or emotionally unavailable men.

2. She simply is just NOT putting forth enough effort. Unless you have the looks of Scarlett Johansson or a golden personality you're going to have work at it. So many women erroneously think having a vagina entitles them to love (sorry to be so blunt). Guys have feelings to. So few women understand that. You have to just get better at identifying what men are SELFISH sbout thier feelings and what men are not. But if it makes you feel any better, guys fight this battle searching for the right woman as well. So don't let it get you down.

[Summeroflove]

Because you ain’t found the right one yet. You can’t force someone to like you

[Asker]

That’s true. I guess I’m just wondering why guys don’t like me in that way. I think I will spend this next year on myself. And let it come naturally :)

[Summeroflove]

Because not everyone will like you.

[Summeroflove]

I mean you obviously have to put yourself out there and even make approaches. If you don’t do anything then you’re probably not gonna get anyone.

But sure spend time on yourself and at some point in time hopefully the right person will be there

[elvitto]

you are a woman. At that age you will have plenty of guys hitting on you. You dont have to be very good looking for that to happen. Just have normal looks and most guys will take you as a girlfriend. Just be wellcoming to guys who approach you. You are a woman, getting a boyfriend is waaaaay easier for you. You must be rejecting the guys that approach you.

[slatyb]

What are you doing to meet men? How large is your social circle?

[Asker]

Hm. Dating sites. My circle is very small. I’m very introverted.

[slatyb]

Surely there are other people near you doing something that interests you.

[QuietVerbena]

Try asking the guy out

[Asker]

I have :( and like said it just never works out

[QuietVerbena]

I guess keep trying. Odds are eventually a guy will like you. Or try your luck with girls.

[Anonymous]

This is an unexpected case for a woman