How does having experience matter in a relationship? What advantages do they have over people who haven't dated at all?

[poneglyphs]

I'm curious because most women only want to date guys with experience but why it doesn't seem like it will help or make the relationship better? So, why do women find it a turn off when you don't have any experience with them? Or if not they like to ask you a lot of personal questions about it?🤔🤔🤔

Is it a red flag for a man in his mid 20's not to have experience 🤔

[NathanDavis]

I guess you can relate it to videogames, since you play them a lot...

try to think and remember about how clueless you were about videogames back then when you tried them for the very first times, you probably didn't know what to do with that many buttons in the first place... so nevermind the game itself, lol

and then compare it to nowadays, with the last game you played, even if you had never tried it before, you already know about patterns... you know how to move around, how to shoot, ideas or where to go or how to go about it

relationships are the same in some ways, there will be patterns you will recognize, and there will be many things you are familiar with, you will know what to expect from certain things... and you will also know from experience, about you in certain situation as well as them in certain situations

and, then... thing of going to a cooperative game, and play a championship for big money, but then, your partner has ZERO experience at the game, does not know one thing about it really and they practically never played a game

just imagine how clueless that partner with no experience is going to be, and how frustrating for you it is going to become, knowing that they are going to be close to useless and you would do much better without them because you will certainly will not want to waste time on teaching them how to be a gamer right?

well, in relationships... usually, adults do not want to babysit someone clueless about pretty much everything

[poneglyphs]

Oh, well how do I fix this clueless and actually start playing the game so I won't be handheld the entire time?

[NathanDavis]

same as I've been telling you for almost two years now...

first of all, you have to leave your mothers house... and to be responsible for yourself, like a true adult person

[poneglyphs]

But how would that help me with dating? It still doesn't give me experience with women?

[NathanDavis]

like I said... most women want to date an adult man

so first, you have to be more of an adult, or they will not want to date you in the first place

[poneglyphs]

What the difference of I live by myself and live with. my parents but help them pay bills? Why is one more socially acceptable than the other? Me and my sister are basically paying for everything.

[NathanDavis]

that is not accurate at all... lol

you definitely are not paying for everything... nor you paid for everything

adult life is about much more than just the usual bills

[poneglyphs]

Oh, well if I live with a roommate isn't that the same thing?

[NathanDavis]

a roommate is a start, but that's still more like school stuff when you live with roommates because you literally cannot afford to be on your own place, so...

it is a start because it still makes you to be responsible for your own self

as of right now, you still depend on your mother... and most women are not into this, is just not what they want from an adult man

[boggboss]

Hopefully know how to deal with certain situations or emotions in a better way then someone that doing it for the first time also would come with a level of comfortability navigating the relationship

[poneglyphs]

Like what kind of emotions or situations?

[boggboss]

Being jelouse or controlling how horny you or knowing how to set up a date or keep things exciting or spontaneous in the relationship basic stuff

[poneglyphs]

Oh, I see. I really don't know how to do any of that 😅😅

[boggboss]

So like said its why women like expirance

[poneglyphs]

Well it's gg for me then 😅

[boggboss]

Not really as everyone starts of from fresh

[Guy13]

It helps to know what to do when and one tends to notice issues before they become big catastrophes. We have learned more from interaction.

[poneglyphs]

So, how screwed am I if I don't know how to navigate a relationship?

[Guy13]

You are not. Go with your instincts as that's what we all do.

[exitseven]

I was never very good with relationships but looking back maybe things got better after I had some experience.

[Anonymous]

That should be obvious. If it isn't obvious, it is because you have no experience.

[poneglyphs]

Well, I don't have any experience at alk but still why does it matter?

[BrightBubblyKat]

It’s a bit odd but not a turnoff.