How do I find a boyfriend?

Question

It is the year 2023 and I am 25 years old, so YES. I want to settle down. The question is - what can I do to increase my chances of meeting someone?

I’ve joined dating apps but it’s not going so great (although it’s only been a few days).

I go to the gym but I haven’t seen anyone cute. There was one guy but he hit on me back when I was in a relationship and now it’s too late.

JamesDiaz11 · Accepted Answer

Well, before you get the harvest (marriage) you need to prepare the soil. I don't know where you personally are, but can you honestly say that you're the type of girl that guys who want to settle down want? To say it plainly, are you wife/ girlfriend material (if you want to settle down you need to be wife material)? If you're not currently married the answer is likely NO.

Step away from all the feminist bs, and think: do you bring peace to a man (not "CAN you")? Does a man who has you as a girlfriend believe he has something special (based on how you conduct yourself in the world, as well as how you've conducted yourself in the past)? Are you supportive and submissive before the guy does xyz? If you get to a point where that is you then you're ready, but I'd suggest you sit down with your parent (s) and get their honest feedback (they'll tell you if you're a b**** or a pain in the a$$, although they love you). Don't get feedback from friends your age; if they're guys they just want to f you (and will lie), if they're girls they have no idea what a girl even needs to get a guy to want to marry her.

Next, once you get an honest assessment of where you are, and what you need to be (i. e. wife material) make the adjustment, THEN think about what crop would do best in the soil you've prepared (i. e. what kind of guy can you get to commit to you?). If you want to settle down you may want to forget the fantasy of prince charming (rich, handsome, tall, etc.). If you're an average looking girl (attraction matters) look for an average looking guy- many girls waste their 20's throwing their pu$$y at top-tier guys hoping they'll commit- they don't.

Ultimately, you'll need to discern who is husband material (not someone you can one-up your friends with), and what are his traits. Hard working, dependable, kind, etc. may be good traits to look for (funniness, charm, etc. don't mean someone is a good husband). You can meet this guy anywhere (probably not at clubs), even on Tinder, but if you present yourself well, and a guy seems like someone who wants the same thing as you, go get a coffee. If you get along well, have some chemistry, it may be worth a second date, but make sure you ask them what they want (not what they're "open" to), and if you decide to let it go for a few months check up and make a plan- "are we on course to being engaged/ married? Or are we just "having fun, and living in the moment."

Alex8736 · Accepted Answer

after you leave the gym do you ever frequent someplace nearby before going home like a cafe, bar, etc? if you frequent someplace it's always good to know the name of your server especially if you are a regular and after a while you will see other regulars and servers know a lot about the regulars and if you tio them pretty good they can possibly subliminally introduce you to someone. an old bartender used to do that for me especially if the bar was packed and find a stool coincidentally next to me. do what you gotta do and hopefully 2023 will be a memorable year 😁🍷🖤

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Do you live in a fairly large city?

Curiosity2006 · Accepted Answer

This cute? or this cute? xD

Summeroflove · Answer

Well. When you see someone you’re into. Ask him out

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

Realize that you are probably never going to be rich. You are probably never going to land your dream guy because he doesn't exist. Do not expect men to buy you things. Do not turn every guy down. Give a guy a chance. You are not a princess. Be understanding and nonjudgmental towards men. Nice Shy guys usually make better husbands than loud assholes. Don't sleep with every guy you date. Rich guys will dump you quickly to get another woman. Middle class guys are the best. Try going to meetup groups instead of bars. Also don't dress like a prostitute. Stay away from guys who are into bdsm and being a furry. Don't have kids unless you are ready for them. After all that have a nice day.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

As for me I always say if you want to meet people you have to get out & greet people. It’s a new year & you have the opportunity to meet some new people as well. In your area sign up to run a 5k or walk for a cause. Go to a local park or go to a food truck event or a event that has food trucks. In life if you never try you will never know & if you like someone don’t be afraid to let them know or ask them out as well.

RealMarek · Answer

You need to be way more patient. It has only been a few days of online dating. The process needs to be thought of in a methodical, patient way to screen out the many men who are not really interested or are bad news. It could take awhile to find a good match.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Row number 3 on the toys shelf on the right 😂 (joking)

When you find a way miss alyssa rapunzel tell me so i use it haha

I guess we have to wait until someone special comes to us or to find them in a way or another, god has his ways...

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

Well how often do you meet people your type? If it's frequent then I guess just seem approachable and learn how to flirt...

Juxtapose · Answer

You want a statistical anomaly that is going to have their pick of women far better than you. That is why you are single.

Anonymous · Answer

Well you don't really need to know how to find one or get one since you're a woman

Dylan_Cullum · Answer

I love girls who are bold and can stand up for themselves. Also I like when they put them first like if they wanna fuck they tell me they wanna fuck.

Part2603 · Answer

You should post your nudes on here and we'll send you offers.

TheFlak38 · Answer

As usual the woman wants to settle down after she has whored herself into oblivion and her vagina has become a gaping pit.

Anonymous · Answer

You find it already, I am your boyfriend and future husband

Furious_Revelation19 · Answer

I am not sure, depends on how picky you are?

Anonymous · Answer

Willing to slide into dm?

YourToy69 · Answer

Post photos of you ass on instagram

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Your a girl you have tits it really shouldn't be that hard

Preeti161101 · Answer

A girl can ask such question

Erron_Black · Answer

very easy

Guapo_28 · Answer

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