Guys would you feel more attracted to someone who has their own business or someone who is a manager of a company, but that isn’t theirs?

[Anonymous]

Say all else is pretty much equal. I know it’s never that simple but I’m just curious. What do men find appealing given the choice, and why?

Honest answers welcomed.

[Effably]

Oh boy. I think guys very rarely care about an occupation. There is near no difference to me.

I suppose if I were to choose it would be in favour of the business one. I am very familiar with that situation and make a living on it. So my ability to help would probably be a bonus.

[Asker]

What is it you do? If it’s relevant to business I’m sure it’d be helpful for someone with their own company too.

[Effably]

In a nutshell I help balance and create strategies for companies to succeed. So I do imagine it would be quite helpful!

[Asker]

So does that change your choice? Or not because there are other factors at play?

[Effably]

It is a good thing I can help her. However I am perfectly happy being able to not hold responsibility for her success too. In the end this really won't decide who I prefer in anything other than an all else equal scenario.

[Asker]

I doubt she’d see it as though you’d be responsible for it unless you were in official business partnership, if she’s smart enough to own a business I’d imagine she can think critically and come to her own conclusions, but I know what you mean.

[Effably]

Of course. And I fully acknowledge that. In fact any involvement from me would only be at her discretion. And I also have a habit of dating brilliant women, so she'd probably manage fantastic without me. That said I would still Feel responsible. Whether I am or not.

Also as a professional thing: Most people running a business are not very smart.

[Asker]

That’s probably a male thing. I can see where you’re coming from there, hence your job. That’s where scaling up and outsourcing certain tasks to specialists is smart.

[Fireguy17]

I would go with self employed
I have been self employed and owned our families business for 32 years, and a number fo them inbetween, so I get what it takes to own your own business.

[Asker]

So you like the qualities of someone who own their own business? Or you’d feel more connected to them because you’ve done it too?

[Fireguy17]

Probably both.
It is easier just to go to work, do your job and go home.
With owning a business, you don't rely on someone else, you rely on yourself.
When you own your own business, it takes a lot of work.
You are more independent, risk taker, you can make decisions, all qualities that I like, as well as the connection.
We would both understand what each other is going through on any given day.

[Asker]

Yeah that’s understandable.

[Anonymous]

Someone who has their own business because it is in line with my view on being financially free. I know most people who own their own business aren't, but it's better than answering to another...

[Asker]

I personally agree with this.

[Opinion Owner]

Your question just reminded me of something I read in this short book (Unmasking God's Truth by Kirk Dales) which was a spiritual take on the pandemic. It said that business owners were considered a huge threat to those wishing to exert control because of all of the things Jamie05rhs mentioned below! Thus they used lockdowns and the pandemic to get rid of many of them.

It was in a chapter called 'Remember You Are Free'

[Asker]

Oh really, that’s interesting.

[Asker]

I’d have to read it but I think small businesses also help the government and economy though as they’d pay 40% tax instead of 20% once they start earning so much.

[Opinion Owner]

Despite that this headline says 'A QUARTER of businesses have ALREADY shut down because of coronavirus: Thousands of firms reveal they have closed since lockdown and almost four in 10 of those still open say their sales have been 'substantially' damaged by economic chaos'

They blame it on COVID-19, but most of us know it was simply how it was handled. But going back to your main question, you will find that most guys don't care what a woman does as long as she has enough to look after herself.

[Asker]

Yeah that much has come to light since, I watched a documentary on that. Yeah that makes sense. Thankfully I’m in an industry where people are prioritising it more since lockdown.

[Jamie05rhs]

That is a REALLY good question! (I say that because it's unique and I've never heard it been asked before.)

Personally, I would choose the person who had her own business.

[Asker]

Can I ask why?

[Jamie05rhs]

Why? Psychology.
Because the person who climbs the ladder into a management position is just looking for power and wealth, to be given to them by the company.
Whereas someone who starts their own business is 1) creative, 2) brave, 3), tenacious, 4) hard-working, and 5) independent and unique.

[Asker]

That’s a really nice way of looking at it 😊. Do you have a background in psychology or is this just what you’ve researched/read about yourself?

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks! :)

And no, not really. I have never taken a psychology class in my life, actually. This is just based on my personal opinions and how I view people.

[Asker]

Well I’d have to agree with the points you mentioned personally. It’s a well thought out answer.

[Jamie05rhs]

Thank you!

[LiamJHayden]

Probably a manager. I own a business and it can consume half of my time, so if she is in the same situation we might never see each other.

[Asker]

She’d have more say over her own hours too though.

[nawtee_me]

Money or prestige had nothing to do with attraction. Beauty is only skin deep but ugly goes all the way to the bone...

[Asker]

I know, I agree, there are many factors at play, but that’s why I said if all else is equal.

[Anonymous]

Between those two options, it really makes no difference to me. I wouldn't likely be interested in either.

[Asker]

Do you mind elaborating on why that is…

[Opinion Owner]

The only way I would be willing to take the risk a man faces getting married today would be with a woman who I am confident would be a good wife to me and a good mother to our children (I want a family), and I don't want other people raising our children for us. Too many children are already growing up in that condition and it's one of the reasons society is so messed up today. A woman who has her own business or is a manager of a company is not going to be that.

[Asker]

I disagree completely and already know you’re wrong on that. I own my own business and one of my strong values is that any potential children have their dad in a happy family unit. But it’s only you who will miss out with those negative self fulfilling beliefs.

[Opinion Owner]

Glad to hear you are an exception to that rule.