Opinions on this?

[Anonymous]

I'm 16 in grade 10 (born October 2006), and he's 14 in grade 9 (born June 2008). ik ik its a big age gap and prob very weird. we are 1yr 7 months and 24 days apart so basically nearly 20 months. He is actually my first crush. I've known him since he was 11 and I was 12 because we live very close, same bus stop, catch the same bus (he saves a seat for me , and go to the same school. I first had a crush on him when I was 14 and he was 13 but then I lost feelings as the year went on then when I was 15 and he was 14 I gained those feelings again and I still like him to this very day.

one day, like 6 weeks ago, I told him I like him on text when hanging with friends. and the convo went literally exactly like this:

me: hey, I like you

him: ay?

me: I have a crush on you

him: I don't feel the same way about you

me: omg sorry, (friend's name) took my phone and said that *she didn't actually*

him: knew it

me: wdym, also thank you for the rejection -_-

him: no problem, I've gotten these sorts of texts before

me: so on the bus what was (his sister's name) talking about? *background info- apparently he told his sister that he liked me and then when she confronted him on the bus, he didn't deny it and as an idiot, I replied with 'thank you' *

me: and if it was real?

him: gn

after my friend basically spammed him a whole bunch and he said that he doesn't like me and I was better as a friend. his sister confronted him to ask why he said that he liked me (filmed interrogation- he knew he was being recorded) which he replied to her saying 'i just told you (his sister) that to shut you up'

so when we went back to school, we both ignored the whole thing and continued hanging out like nothing ever happened. my friend reckons 27percent a relationship could happen and that he was bluffing. both of us aren't popular. I'm picked on a lot (he doesn't know that and I think he's under the impression I'm more popular than I actually am) (I'm not his only friend that's a girl).

[PrettyPriya]

It is a bit hard to follow the text conversation. What I can pick up on is that he doesn't have the same feelings for you. That was pretty evident and blunt by him saying exactly that. I am not sure what else really matters other than he stated he doesn't have those sorts of feelings.

Take the rest of it as you want, but that is the only part that matters. Perhaps that will change one day. Perhaps he just isn't old enough yet to realize that the things that he should be looking for in a person.

The point is that you are both young. Things change as you get older and mature. Perhaps the timing is just not right. Also, there is plenty of time for boys after school is done. Focusing on the more important things like family, friends and education should be a priority. The rest can wait.

Who knows? Maybe when you are both a bit older, you will both realize that there is something there and worth a shot at dating. Right now, it just seems like he is uninterested.

[MonicaWills]

If you want to catch up with the girl you like, the most fundamental solution is secondary attraction. Because the way you got along with her and confessed to her was the first attraction process, and it has ended in failure, which means you need to use other methods to attract her.

[SnowedIn]

You got lucky.

Ages are irrelevant here.

You like him (fine), he doesn't like you (also fine) and he was honest about that -- awesome communication.

Here's why you got lucky: you're still hanging out. You've still got a friend. Embrace that.

[Twalli]

It's not a huge age gap. It's a pretty small age gap. It seems larger because you're younger.

[PatriceONeal]

Jesus christ leave the poor guy alone before he goes lgbt

[In_Trance]

It's fine