Should I send a Valentine's Day gift to my favorite employee?

[InsecureLivesMatter]

This girl is only a couple years older than me, and we've been meeting each other for almost a year. She never said anything about her "boyfriend/fiance/husband" (if she has one). However I did see that she has a ring on her finger.

She sometimes notices when I pass by (though not all the time, just sometimes). She has taken far more interest in me than any of my coworkers where I work at. She is a supervisor at her job (again, not where I work at; but that's a position far, far above where I'm at, at my workplace).

She's Hispanic/a Latina (and possibly white), she doesn't make most of her feelings known for me but she still somewhat conversates with me.

I know that when she talks she makes a flirty tone (at times though, this is not on a very consistent basis). She is smokin' hot.

Yes, send her a gift

No, it's nothing serious

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To clarlify, I'm neither her employer nor employee. I'm just her customer, and I shop at her store quite often

[Anonymous]

You have to be VERY careful with gifts, especially super personal or "sweet" gifts. Especially in a professional setting. AND there will be jealousy if other coworkers don't get anything. Eh, even if you're a customer, it can run into a lot of problems, whether or not she's interested. Now, if you're not working for or with her, then you do have a small amount of freedom compared to working the same company. But it's still very easy to offend. She MIGHT just be nice or flirty "for tips." It's probably a bigger hassle than it's worth because it might not just be seen as a nice gesture (even if it was). Better to get the same thing for a bunch of people, or like roses for all the women (Valentine's Day) than get HER flowers or candy.

I don't know, I tend to err on the side of caution.

[Guy13]

An employer or manager should not share gifts with one employee. Either the whole company receives or no one receives.

[InsecureLivesMatter]

To clarify my dude, I am the customer at her job. I'm not her employee.

[InsecureLivesMatter]

If she was my manager I wouldn't have gone to half this level with her

[suzzieQ]

No you shouldn't, unless you are doing something for everyone else, it's not a good idea.

[Leopard23]

Yeah that's sexual harassment.

[InsecureLivesMatter]

What do you mean?

[Leopard23]

Unless you are an extremely attractive charming guy you are committing a sex crime in the workplace

[suzzieQ]

It's only sexual harassment if it's uninvited and unwanted sexual behavior, whether verbal or physical, especially by an individual in a position of authority over the victim (such as an employer, or a teacher).

[InsecureLivesMatter]

Girls don't date guys for their looks anymore. This isn't high school in the 1990s.

[InsecureLivesMatter]

It's only three things a man needs to accomplish: money management, goal posession, and muscle build. Facial looks do not matter.

[Leopard23]

@suzzieQ he's her boss and he's talking about buying her underwear.

[suzzieQ]

No, he isn't, read what he wrote. They are coworkers, and he never said anything about underwear, he said gift, that doesn't automatically mean lingerie...

[InsecureLivesMatter]

@suzzieQ We're not even coworkers. At all. She is literally an employee I see when I go shopping. We've interacted, became borderline friends, but I've never worked under her name or employer

[InsecureLivesMatter]

I do not work at her store, and she is the supervisor. I am just a customer at her store.

I do work as an online shopper at another store, different corporation.

[Leopard23]

A good rule of thumb is to not bother if yiu aren't already dating. Sexual harassment in the workplace is no joke whether it be this girl in her store or a stripper working the pole.